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    I've officially been dancing for six months. It is my only source of income.

    It's easier now- I know all the girls and actually have a certain camaraderie with most of the regular girls and veterans. Even the really scary one who I was pretty sure was going to shank me after that next line of coke. We talk shit to each other now, and I tell her to lay off when she starts digging into other people.
    I know all the staff and they have my back. They know the music I like, what I look good dancing to, that I tip well, am honest, don't drink, and am always good to get goofy. I know the regulars and they miss me when I'm gone.

    When I go in off the clock I get girls screaming my name and smiling from the stage, and others coming by for some booty slaps. My DJ complains if I don't stay. I have a reputation as a dancer and people get excited about my stage show, people tell their friends, people come back for me. Other dancers bring their friends in to get dances from me because I'm good with girls, I'm good with couples, I keep the birthday boys and strip club virgins so happy their friends shell out all night to keep them in back. The old jaded business men steal me away, and even the young grumps smile for me.

    I've had horrible nights where people are cruel, when solicitation is a god send after that guy talking about beating women to keep them in line. Guys in paper thin "jizz in" pants, or unzipped jeans with unwelcome surprises. Been ripped off. Kicked people out. I know to ignore the time wasters now instead of getting in long convoluted drunk logic grope sessions. I know to stay sane and take a moment to sit in a dark corner rather than try to bargain with broke assholes. I'm not intimidated by the guys pressuring for more. I don't try to please people who are rude. I don't sit in laps for free.

    I don't know if I'm still a baby stripper or not. My dancing needs work, and I don't do my nails, tan, wax, or even own makeup that stays on all night. I have two or three outfits, one pair of shoes. One necklace. I know one basic spin on the pole. I haven't gone to the bigger club in town yet because I've heard there's no money there. But I feel like I should get hired just to prove I'm not intimidated. Not scared of starting from scratch.

    When do you stop being the new girl? Is it time, experience, attitude? Did you have a "this is my job" moment, or did it creep up over years?

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    I've been dancing for coming up on 5 years now and I don't do my nails, tan, tax, or even *wear* make up, let alone own any long-lasting stuff. I have a huge pile of outfits but only one pair of shoes and no jewelry. I don't even know a basic spin on the pole and just use it to lean against or hold onto when bending down. I've tried out a variety of clubs and feel best in a mid-tier club that has a sports bar feel. I don't think any of those things make someone a newbie or a vet. It's definitely about time, experience, and attitude. Once you feel comfortable in the club and in your interactions, that's when you're no longer a newbie.

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    I feel like the newbie phase can be relatively short in the stripping industry. You have to get accustomed to things quickly, like the rules of the club, how to dance, and how to hustle or you're going to fail miserably. Although I've only been dancing for a little over 2 months, I feel like I'm towards the end of my newbie phase. All the regular girls know me, all the managers and staff love me, and I feel extremely comfortable in my club. I feel like if I went to a new club I'd be a newbie all over again.

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    I'm a newbie at the club I am at, I've been there since September. I am still getting used to the customers, none of the dancers trust me yet, and I'm trying to adjust my hustle to this new environment. I do okay so far, but I expect to be a top girl here within a couple of months.

    I have been dancing for a year and a half. At my old club, I started feeling like a real stripper about 8 months in. That's where I learned how to make money, how to dance, everything. I fucking perfected my hustle. I started making bank and became one of the top girls there, and then they got shut down, so I had to leave.

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    I've been dancing on and off for 5 years... When I was a "baby stripper", I had a regular job and just went to the club for side money but didn't get into learning how to hustle... I certainly wasn't making enough money to impress anyone.
    Then I went through a transition period where I had a regular job still because I was scared to have such unreliable income as my only income.
    It wasn't until I got on this forum honestly that I got serious. I realized how much money I was missing out on, and quit my day job. I started working 3-4 days a week at (what I consider) the roughest club in the city, in terms of extras being rampant and anywhere from 30-120 girls through the doors daily. That does a LOT for forcing you to sink or swim... Due to my sheer hatred of failure, I swam.

    As far as that other stuff... I don't tan. I paint my own nails once a week. I get my eyebrows threaded once a month just to re-shape them. Even when I was platinum blonde, I would have an inch of roots before I even thought about having my hair done, and now I frequently go in wearing a ponytail. TBH, I rarely shave my legs (I wear fishnets at work), and I wear the same outfit all the time.

    I think it's largely attitude. For me, it was when I stopped humoring people and sitting with them past 3 songs, telling them to fuck off when they said something rude, maintaining boundaries for touching, and a "money first" mindset... like, a guy can be a good customer I've known for months but if he even takes more than 10 seconds to start pulling out his wallet after dances, I instantly go ice queen and start eyeballing the closest bouncer to get him to cough up. It's a tough bitch attitude basically.
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    I've been a rough rural diner waitress since I was 13 and learned pretty quick how to maintain boundaries with a group of twenty drunk bikers on memorial day trying to cop a feel- how to ignore or banter with that asshole old man just there to say nasty things and complain. I knew how to hustle at a crazy speed, up sell, remember regulars, placate fussy women, deal with large amounts of cash, and reject bums and suitors since I was a teenager. As a waitress I was used to earning tips of 25% or more at all times. As a stripper I'm a top earner. I think I figured out my hustle in month and it only gets better and smoother. I also taught emotionally disturbed kids for a couple years which just reinforced the ability to communicate with many kinds of people in a non-confrontational manner, establish boundaries, and figure out individual needs, and deflecting personal attacks.

    I think any waitress used to hustling hard in a quick paced place with high turn over will make a fierce stripper. Service industry is used to dealing with the rudest, stingiest, most critical people with a smile and still milking every cent of the tip by creating a sense of intimacy. Being a stripper is relaxing after that. I can refuse to serve people, I have no responsibilities besides myself, and I don't have to flip chairs and mop at the end of my shift. I love it.

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    I've been stripping since 2006. At six months I was better than I was at one month and felt like I knew it all. At three years I was doing much better than I was at one year and thought the same. At five years I felt like I'd really hit my stride, but after finally moving to a city with serious income potential, I'm doing much better than I was then. It's likely I'll look back at my current earnings/hustle in a few years and say, "I was an idiot for thinking I was peaking."

    You'll go through this if you stay in the business long enough. And like others have mentioned, being new isn't about stage or outfits. I wear the same thing every day and just pose and touch myself onstage.

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    Haha, I figured as much- that's part of what keeps it interesting, that you can constantly adapt and learn and improve as in any kind of art. I hate the idea of being stuck in something without upward mobility.

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    I knew I wasn't a newbie anymore when I could work a full shift sober.
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    I no longer felt like a newbie after the first time a customer refused to pay for dances and management basically said "too bad, next time ask for payment up front."

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    It was a progression for me. I had my hustle down after about a week. Took a couple months for me to get my club persona down. Had the DJ's downing Pepto and dancers leaving because their money sucks when I'm working after 3 months. Felt like I did a pretty decent, unique stage performance after about 6 months. I've had the new managers in love with me just recently. There's another accomplishment that I'd like to reach in regard to pole tricks but that may take a while.

    I've been dancing for less than a year but... Kind of feel like an old pro in some ways but still a newbie in others.

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