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    Okay. So... I hate going outside because someone always has something to say.




    Sometimes it's a compliment (which I can't be super mad about) but it still bugs me because what the f*ck makes you think that I want to know whether or not you find me attractive?

    Sometimes it's something lewd... and that makes me feel pretty uncomfortable and anxious. Some of the gross things guys say on the street, on a train, at a bus stop, etc. would cause their grandmother to turn over in her grave. And it's not some sort raving lunatic who has mental problems or even a person suffering from tourettes... it's normal youngish men who feel compelled to share their NSFW musings with a complete stranger.

    Then there are the super creeps. The guys that follow me for a block, the guys that speed up if I try to speed up, asking me for my number, or what kind of food I like, or where I'm from, or where I'm going, or my number.... again.

    I have literally sprinted into oncoming traffic just to avoid having to wait for the light to change next to Mr. Creep... I swear some of these guys time their approach to make sure I can't get away for 90 seconds or whatever.

    Makeup, no makeup, normal clothes, a sweatshirt, sunglasses, earphones, whatever.... I keep my eyes down... I don't acknowledge them... it doesn't matter.

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    I completely agree. UGH. People are so disgusting.

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    Default Re: This is why I hate going outside

    If only that video you posted could be put up on all the electronic billboards & other public screens, all at the same time, on a continuous loop. Optimistic Law of Averages suggests that at least a few out of the millions seeing it would wake up & rethink their behaviour.

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    I had a group of guys yelling gross things at me for THREE BLOCKS while I was in no makeup and carrying groceries. I also had to run into oncoming traffic with my groceries in hand to run into a Starbucks to get away from them. Ugh.

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    I couldn't help but get extremely angry when watching this. Esp since a friend of mine who lived up in NY told me that you can't carry a lot of forms of self defense weapons on you there.
    This is just plain scary when you think of what could have happened had there not been a camera present.

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    ^^ It made me really angry too, cause I'm so tired of dealing with this from asshole men. I shared this on my Facebook page, and put with the video that any men that are on my friends list that do this should be ashamed of themselves, lol. I'm glad this woman did this to raise awareness.

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    I hate street harassment like why the fuck do these men feel so entitled?! Ugh and where I live these assholes are horrible. I dont own a car or need one so I walk everywhere. I have to wear super baggy clothes, glasses, hijab, hat just anything to deter attention. Sad to say now i only dress up when im with my husband bc I hatttte that kind of attention i dont find it flattering in any way

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    I couldn't finish watching the video, it was extremely frustrating. I always wear headphones if I'm going to be outside so I don't hear them. Sometimes they STILL have to say something, even with headphones but no music playing.

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    this was on my fb, and what made me even more angry was all the comments of " oh, i would take this as flattery" or " i'm a man so i know that most of these guy's had pure intentions and were just being polite" * face palm*

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    Wear shorts with stockings like this under them



    http://metro.co.uk/2013/06/18/hairy-...ntion-3845865/

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    That would be fun, but it'd probably just lead to guys saying more inappropriate things.

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    Quote Originally Posted by eagle2 View Post
    Wear shorts with stockings like this under them


    Hoping this was just a joke, right? The problem isn't just attention, it's the fact that nothing deters the shitsacks forcing that attention on us. Think of the nasty treatment 'different-looking' kids get from their peers on the playground. When ppl are so obnoxious towards conventionally attractive/normal-looking women, you don't seriously think this would inspire politeness (aka leaving us the fk alone)?

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    I was joking, but I do wonder what kind of reaction an attractive lady would get if she wore something like that. I think it's sad that attractive ladies have to put up with that. Wish I knew of a solution. I would never doing anything like what those men were doing in the video.

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    How come whenever there is a problem affecting women being discussed, a guy always comes along and makes a joke out of it?

    I'm convinced that there are no men left who truly respect women as people. It seems women are nothing more to men than objects of sex (if you're attractive) and ridicule/amusement if you are not attractive i.e. 'the fat girl.'

    It's always a fucking game to you guys.
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    Default Re: This is why I hate going outside

    Probably the same as some dudes actually like or don't mind hairy legs

    And this is why men should get a taste of their own medicine...

    http://youtu.be/p8uOErVShiE

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    Ugh I have been a victim of this and they think they are giving me compliments. No, it's not a compliment if you come over and ask me for sex (yes this has happened)or try to grope my breasts to see if they are real (yes they are but no of his fucking business). Not that this matters but it's almost the ugliest men you could imagine and I suspect they know they can't get anything halfway decent so they decide to be assholes. It's why I often wear no makeup and glasses and my frumpiest clothes so they leave me alone, but that doesn't always work either. I've had random men ask me for my number then wonder why I turned them down.

    Btw Eagle's been around awhile and he's not the type to make jokes about this and I get where he's going.

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    Saw this yesterday on FB. This is so true. For some reason these kinds of comments may get worse when dressed down; maybe that is a perception of being more approachable? Also, unfortunately this kind of thing happens not only in NYC, but pretty much anywhere in the world. However, form personal experience in the US, these guys were much worse in DC (my previous city) than NYC because they could get very angry and aggressive if you completely ignored them. My girlfriends were talking about being followed and physically grabbed after ignoring someone, plus many other examples. Therefore it's a safety issue. Either way - not cool. I also noticed my friends mentioning that there were many general comments for the video DEFENDING these guys, saying that women should be thankful for someone noticing them. Of course, that sounds like male solidarity on this subject.
    ps. That hairy leggings idea was funny! But it would probably make things worse in real life. I would not dare wear those!

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    I don't remember if I posted this before... but it's pretty epic. It's an amazing example of how idiotic catcalling is...

    In the video, the guy gets what he wants: the woman's attention and "affection". Be careful what you wish for... LOL.

    http://www.liveleak.com/view?i=5e4_1412109168
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    ^What Sophia said.
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    I wish there was an "auto-like" setting that I could just have applied to all of your posts Sophia....

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    + you can get ebola outside.

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    Quote Originally Posted by simone87 View Post
    this was on my fb, and what made me even more angry was all the comments of " oh, i would take this as flattery" or " i'm a man so i know that most of these guy's had pure intentions and were just being polite" * face palm*
    Yep, I've also heard the argument (from both men AND women, smh) that "Well, some girls love being told they're hot."

    Yeah, well, some girls also love getting giant dildos up the ass, but you don't just randomly shove a giant dildo up the ass of a girl you're having sex with, without any idea if she likes it or not. The fact that some girls get off on being told how hot they are by random men is a piss-poor justification to do it to a bunch of female strangers who you have no idea if they would like that or not. It's such a BS way to try the old "Oh, well, I'm just doing it for you, baby" excuse - when really, if it was about the person you were "complimenting," you wouldn't insist on doing it to strangers whose likes and dislikes you're unaware of.... and who you have no vested interest in. Like, really, you're telling me how hot my ass is for my benefit, strange man? What a charming knight you are, to go out of your way like that for someone you don't even know....
    Don't try to win over the haters. You are not the Jerk Whisperer.

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    Quote Originally Posted by rusdancer View Post
    Saw this yesterday on FB. This is so true. For some reason these kinds of comments may get worse when dressed down; maybe that is a perception of being more approachable? Also, unfortunately this kind of thing happens not only in NYC, but pretty much anywhere in the world. However, form personal experience in the US, these guys were much worse in DC (my previous city) than NYC because they could get very angry and aggressive if you completely ignored them. My girlfriends were talking about being followed and physically grabbed after ignoring someone, plus many other examples. Therefore it's a safety issue. Either way - not cool. I also noticed my friends mentioning that there were many general comments for the video DEFENDING these guys, saying that women should be thankful for someone noticing them. Of course, that sounds like male solidarity on this subject.
    ps. That hairy leggings idea was funny! But it would probably make things worse in real life. I would not dare wear those!
    Yup. It all comes down to safety. If you ignore the wrong one, forget it. That can escalate to something. It's like damn if you stay shut or don't.

    Men don't understand this behavior is so fkn annoying!! This is not a compliment. It's an annoyance. Just stfu.

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    Quote Originally Posted by KikiGem View Post
    It's always a fucking game to you guys.
    Exactly. Until it happens to their mother, sister, or any female relative. NOW that's a different story.

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    I've really never seen any behavior like that here in Atl. I'm sure it happens but I think maybe less in the south. I don't know what kind of reaction there looking for? Maybe it worked for them in the past, idk.

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    Reminds me, I read an article about a woman being stabbed to death after refusing to give her number to a strange man in New York, it happened a few weeks ago. I'm still trying to find the source link though.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Vyanka View Post
    Yup. It all comes down to safety. If you ignore the wrong one, forget it. That can escalate to something. It's like damn if you stay shut or don't.

    Men don't understand this behavior is so fkn annoying!! This is not a compliment. It's an annoyance. Just stfu.

    Then we get headlines like this: http://nypost.com/2014/10/08/womans-...mans-advances/

    And this: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/1...n_5945518.html
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    ^What Sophia said.
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    I wish there was an "auto-like" setting that I could just have applied to all of your posts Sophia....

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