At a club I went to recently, the dancers offer "dollar dances." What this means (of course most people here know but bear with me) is that they dance in my lap for a few seconds, then get up, take off their top, and then mash my face into their boobs.
I enjoy the first part quite a bit. The second part I would prefer not to do.
I spent the whole awkward night, though, trying to figure out a way to communicate this that didn't somehow puzzle or confuse or even, it seemed, offend the dancers.
The first time, when I didn't know it was coming, I was just like oh, okay, let's see how this feels. Nope, don't like it. (Not out loud of course!) Just chatted a little more after paying and that was that.
Later another dancer approached, and after she was finished dancing in my lap I clumsily said as she was turning around and taking her top off, something like, "Oh that's okay, I don't need that." She looked confused or upset or something so I (again clumsily) stammered out something like "I like them, I like to look at them, I just you know, it's okay not to put them in my face."
She was trying to be polite but it was clear she thought this was too strange for words. Encounter ended awkwardly.
Later another dancer came over, and I said ahead of time, after she asked if I wanted a dance, "Yes but you don't have to do the second part, with the boobs in the face...?" Again, she was polite about it but seemed bothered. I am not sure why. I was trying not to act demanding or anything, just letting her know it was okay to just do the first part of the dollar dance routine.
I don't know. Maybe I have the male version of "resting bitch face" or something, but I don't have any reason to think so other than this experience.
Anyway, there were a few other encounters. I think word got around (about the freak over there who has some kind of problem with boobs) because in the end a dancer without me even saying anything (I'd just resigned myself to getting the treatment...) sort of hesitated just before taking her top off and smiled at me as though to ask if she should proceed. "No thanks!" I smiled, or something like that, and that was the end of it. Still felt like she was put off in some way.
(To be clear--I was paying each time.... one or two bucks as had been indicated was appropriate...)
Anyway, how would you prefer a customer to make this preference known?
And also, suppose what I really want is the initial half of the dollar dance, and then to get a look at the boobs. This becomes a bit more of a demand than "it's okay you don't have to put them in my face." I also would prefer (if it's possible!) that they do go ahead and show them! I just would prefer to _see_ rather than _feel_ them (at least, directly on my face, where I can't actually see them due to them being in physical contact with my eyes...). But this begins to feel more like me demanding a positive act rather than refraining from something they offered so it might just not be workable for me to request it.
I did try with one dancer something like, as she was taking off her top, "I'd love to see them but you don't have to put them in my face" but she seemed offended. Yikes, I feel like a jerk. I'm not trying to be! I don't feel like anyone owes me anything, I'm just trying to find a polite way through if there is one. If not, I should just tip them for dancing on stage (as I always do....) but politely refuse the dollar dances... Ah but they're so pleasant...![]()



Reply With Quote

I am not a big 'boobs mashed in face' or motorboating kinda girl -- not knocking it, I just find it very uncomfy. I agree that dancers who try to force contact can make sm very awkward situations; I have experienced it when going as a customer.

I think that would work as well!


Bookmarks