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    Default How to ask strippers not to put their boobs in my face?

    At a club I went to recently, the dancers offer "dollar dances." What this means (of course most people here know but bear with me) is that they dance in my lap for a few seconds, then get up, take off their top, and then mash my face into their boobs.

    I enjoy the first part quite a bit. The second part I would prefer not to do.

    I spent the whole awkward night, though, trying to figure out a way to communicate this that didn't somehow puzzle or confuse or even, it seemed, offend the dancers.

    The first time, when I didn't know it was coming, I was just like oh, okay, let's see how this feels. Nope, don't like it. (Not out loud of course!) Just chatted a little more after paying and that was that.

    Later another dancer approached, and after she was finished dancing in my lap I clumsily said as she was turning around and taking her top off, something like, "Oh that's okay, I don't need that." She looked confused or upset or something so I (again clumsily) stammered out something like "I like them, I like to look at them, I just you know, it's okay not to put them in my face."

    She was trying to be polite but it was clear she thought this was too strange for words. Encounter ended awkwardly.

    Later another dancer came over, and I said ahead of time, after she asked if I wanted a dance, "Yes but you don't have to do the second part, with the boobs in the face...?" Again, she was polite about it but seemed bothered. I am not sure why. I was trying not to act demanding or anything, just letting her know it was okay to just do the first part of the dollar dance routine.

    I don't know. Maybe I have the male version of "resting bitch face" or something, but I don't have any reason to think so other than this experience.

    Anyway, there were a few other encounters. I think word got around (about the freak over there who has some kind of problem with boobs) because in the end a dancer without me even saying anything (I'd just resigned myself to getting the treatment...) sort of hesitated just before taking her top off and smiled at me as though to ask if she should proceed. "No thanks!" I smiled, or something like that, and that was the end of it. Still felt like she was put off in some way.

    (To be clear--I was paying each time.... one or two bucks as had been indicated was appropriate...)

    Anyway, how would you prefer a customer to make this preference known?

    And also, suppose what I really want is the initial half of the dollar dance, and then to get a look at the boobs. This becomes a bit more of a demand than "it's okay you don't have to put them in my face." I also would prefer (if it's possible!) that they do go ahead and show them! I just would prefer to _see_ rather than _feel_ them (at least, directly on my face, where I can't actually see them due to them being in physical contact with my eyes...). But this begins to feel more like me demanding a positive act rather than refraining from something they offered so it might just not be workable for me to request it.

    I did try with one dancer something like, as she was taking off her top, "I'd love to see them but you don't have to put them in my face" but she seemed offended. Yikes, I feel like a jerk. I'm not trying to be! I don't feel like anyone owes me anything, I'm just trying to find a polite way through if there is one. If not, I should just tip them for dancing on stage (as I always do....) but politely refuse the dollar dances... Ah but they're so pleasant...

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    "I prefer looking at your beautiful breast, I can't see how awesome they are when they're in my face like that."

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    Default Re: How to ask strippers not to put their boobs in my face?

    Right, that's what I was going for when I said something like "I like them, I like to look at them, I just you know, it's okay not to put them in my face," but I probably needed to be a bit more eloquent.

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    Don't shave ��

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    I agree. Flattery goes long way and so do key words. I get where you were going with that but the "...it's ok not to do that.." can be taken in a wrong way.

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    Quote Originally Posted by miss.a.p1600 View Post
    Don't shave ��
    Lmao! This would def work.

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    Stripper face rejection its part of the job. It doesn't sound like you were being rude. I mean this is the same as guys who don't want dances but will still tip or pay money for time.

    As long as you were tipping and being honest without being rude then it sounds like these girls were too sensitive emotionally or so stuck in a routine where guys obliged to boobs on face that you just caught them off guard.

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    Default Re: How to ask strippers not to put their boobs in my face?

    just tell her you always prefer no contact with your face, and tip her an extra dollar. just make sure it doesn't sound personal, like you think her boobs are gross. at almost every club i've danced at, there has been some weird OCD dude who didn't like contact but as long as he was polite and paid we were more than happy to oblige. i don't think there's any point trying to spin it in a certain way, just say it politely before the dance begins

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    Damn OP, when/if I go back to dancing I want you to come be my customer!!! I am not a big 'boobs mashed in face' or motorboating kinda girl -- not knocking it, I just find it very uncomfy. I agree that dancers who try to force contact can make sm very awkward situations; I have experienced it when going as a customer.

    Anyway I agree w/ miss.a.p100, rejection is part of the job & customers have their contact preferences just like dancers. Those girls who got offended sound like the kind of ppl whose emotional maturity I compare negatively to eggplants. You sound like you were trying to be as polite abt your preference as possible, which should always be appreciated. 'Thnx, you're lovely, but I much prefer to look rather than touch' or a similar line would be appropriate.

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    Yes, it's true- strippers are SUPPOSE to have thick skin, but let's be realistic. Girls in this line of work are ALWAYS talking things personal, come on.

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    Ill take em.

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    Default Re: How to ask strippers not to put their boobs in my face?

    So to sum it up, you are perfectly ok with them crawling in your lap. You just don't want the boobs in your face. Got it.

    I hear you and it's not my favorite thing either truth be told, but it's a dollar dance dude. The girl is just trying to do her 10 second bit and move on, either to another customer or to more serious sales with you. Why complicate things? IMHO you should either refuse the dance altogether or just role with it. Trying to choreograph quick strike $1 dances is kinda' silly and will inevitably just create more confused moments. You'll have plenty of time to see their boobs in more detail when they hit the stage. And if you want to choreograph their performances, there is always the LD room.

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    The problem is, the ones that do this are usually ones that are ugly, overweight, or have nasty saggy breasts. I've seen some in New Orleans on visits that I would pay to have them stay dressed. I don't say anything, but this is one reason why I don't like those $ mini dances where they switch custys every 15 seconds or so. It's difficult to politely face the dancer and act like you are enjoying it, when you are kinda sicking up inside.

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    Default Re: How to ask strippers not to put their boobs in my face?

    Honestly, and I don't mean this in a snarky or mean way, but I think it might be you that is taking things a little too personally. Unless someone acted super bitchy about it - and yeah, I know some dancers would - they probably weren't "offended." They most likely were just surprised because it never happens to them, so they reacted surprised and a little awkwardly, and it threw them off of their usual quick game. You don't need to complicate and overanalyze everyone's feelings with this interaction. They were surprised, that's how they reacted, but I highly doubt you full-on offended anyone.

    But I do somewhat agree with Rick - it's a quick little dollar dance. When I worked in a club like that, the guys who didn't want boobs in the face but didn't want to reject me fully, would just politely say "No, that's ok" to the dance offer and tip me a dollar so I knew it wasn't just because they didn't like me. Then they could "choreograph" their dance all they liked later when I would come back to offer a real dance.

    Or, ultimately, if you go to this club often enough, and girls already got the memo, it shouldn't be that much longer before they just know that you're the "guy who doesn't like boobs in his face but will still tip for the 5 second dance" and they'll act accordingly. It really shouldn't be a big deal.
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    Default Re: How to ask strippers not to put their boobs in my face?

    "What's your real name?"
    "What's your phone number?"
    "What does your boyfriend think of you working here?"
    "How much for a BJ?"
    "So what do I get with a lap dance?"

    That should take care of any unwanted attention. You're welcome, OP.
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    Default Re: How to ask strippers not to put their boobs in my face?

    I've done dollar dances but have never done this. In fact in dollar dances I didn't even take my top off. This just sounds weird.

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    Lmao about not shaving! You could also stick your tongue out. I think that would work as well!

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    Default Re: How to ask strippers not to put their boobs in my face?

    LOL at "resting bitch face".

    I hate it when strippers shove their boobs in my face, because they usually push too hard and move too fast for it to be at all enjoyable. It feels like they are trying to break my nose or suffocate me.

    It's strange that they would be offended or think your request is strange.

    My suggestion: Tell them straight, in a calm and serious manner, before they start the dance, "Please don't push your boobs against my face". Tell them directly and they will respect it. Ask them nicely and they will tend not to respect it. Telling them makes their minds up for them, asking them lets them make up their own minds - hence they decide that you are weird, insulting, bossy, fussy, difficult, etc. You don't have to be stern, just direct and serious in a casual and polite manner but one which commands respect. You are the customer - don't let them make the rules for you, other than the basic rules of the club.
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    Default Re: How to ask strippers not to put their boobs in my face?

    Saying something to the effect of "Im really uncomfortable having my face touched" would probably work. Let's the dancer know that its not them, but rather your preference.

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    ah but we actually get to make rules like that! you pay for the privilege not the right!
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    LOL at "resting bitch face".

    I hate it when strippers shove their boobs in my face, because they usually push too hard and move too fast for it to be at all enjoyable. It feels like they are trying to break my nose or suffocate me.

    It's strange that they would be offended or think your request is strange.

    My suggestion: Tell them straight, in a calm and serious manner, before they start the dance, "Please don't push your boobs against my face". Tell them directly and they will respect it. Ask them nicely and they will tend not to respect it. Telling them makes their minds up for them, asking them lets them make up their own minds - hence they decide that you are weird, insulting, bossy, fussy, difficult, etc. You don't have to be stern, just direct and serious in a casual and polite manner but one which commands respect. You are the customer - don't let them make the rules for you, other than the basic rules of the club.
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    Quote Originally Posted by KalinKross View Post
    ah but we actually get to make rules like that! you pay for the privilege not the right!
    Dancers can make rules about their own boundaries. I was referring to customers setting their own boundaries.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Hopper View Post
    Dancers can make rules about their own boundaries. I was referring to customers setting their own boundaries.
    Agree here -- hey Hopper, put a gold star on your calendar

    I was kinda confused by KalinKross's post since, like you said, this question was abt customer boundaries rather than dancer boundaries. They have just as much right as dancers to have these kinds of preferences respected, esp when they make the effort to be respectful abt it as the OP was trying to do.

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    Default Re: How to ask strippers not to put their boobs in my face?

    Just play with your nipples close to my face, but I don't much care for the face-squashing.

    How did this thing get started anyway?
    I loved going to strip clubs; I actually made some friends there. Now things are different for the clubs and for me. As a result I am not as happy.

    Customers are not entitled to grope, disrespect, or rob strippers. This is their job, not their hobby, and they all need income. Clubs are not just some erotic show for guys to view while drinking.

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