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    Ok guys, I'm in need of a little bit of advice. So, one of the reasons I started camming is because I've been having some really bad health issues that make it flat out impossible for me to hold down a regular job. I was rocking along, doing great, camming happily, and then BAM! Got hit really hard by a flare-up and have pretty much spent the last month curled up in my apartment taking care of myself and trying to get my body back to balance. Things are on an upswing now and I'm getting ready to go back to work, but I have /no/ idea how to explain what's going on to my regulars (several of whom emailed me to figure out why I disappeared, but I never got back to them because of having no idea what to say and no energy to figure something out). I'm really stressed over this for a variety of reasons, ranging from not wanting to share all the personal details of why my body's all broken (both 'cause it's nobody else's business and because I kinda feel it hurts the image of happy, chill nerd girl I try to portray) all the way to being worried that my customers will think it's fishing for sympathy and stuff and not wanting to deal with that sort of response. Does anyone have any advice for how to explain random absences like this? I know it's gonna happen on an irregular basis (though hopefully not for this long anytime soon!) and it's seriously stressful to not be able to keep a schedule with reliability and not have any idea how to explain that without getting much more into my personal life than I'd like to with customers.

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    Default Re: Explaining Personal Issues to Customers Without Oversharing

    I drop in and out of camming all the time for school or family. Sometimes the quickest explanation is that family came to visit, or I went to visit family. People understand if you don't want to share family details.


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    That's a good one. ^^ Also you could say you had to go out of town on a business trip. When they ask you what else you do just tell them you prefer not to discuss it and it's boring. Of course, then you'll have the guys that think you're escorting. LOL

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    Sometimes I have to take a week off. I just tell people I'm sick. If they ask what, I always say flu. It's none of their business if you don't want them to know. You don't owe them an explanation. Message your regs that contacted you and say sorry I've been really sick. Mention you haven't had the energy to cam.





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    I would say family emergency. Or helping an ailing family member like grandmother. This shows then you have a nurturing side.

    I don't think I would tell them I am sick simply because good health is a sign of attractiveness. we are human and our bodies can become succeptible to illness, nobody is invincible. But I'm guessing they just want to know you are okay but I don't think they need all the details.
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    Personally, I would make up a sexy reason for my disappearance.
    I've learned this the hard way, back when I was stripping in a club, and I was honest to my custies about what had happened to me regarding my health. Big Mistake!
    When it boils down to it, they really don't care.
    as the saying goes, "If I'm hungry, and You're full, You won't understand me."

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    I don't really discuss the personal stuff with customers, unless it's a regular that I've built up a rapport with, but it's usually a HECK of a rapport. I've been offline for about a month. I've gotten some mail, etc and I just let those customers know I've been dealing with some personal issues. When I was on and had to take a break, etc. I've just said "You don't want to hear about my stuff. How are you?"

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    I tell them either school comes first, or life just got busy. Busy is a good one, then the realize the time they have online with you is worth even more. I mean if i'm too busy to get online for a month, then I must be busy while i'm online too.

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    Guys don't want hear about your reality seriously. It's better to appear like you can just take or leave camming and only pop in when you feel like it. That makes you seem less obtainable are far more attractive. Don't feel you need to share yourself with them x
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    Like these ideas--I've taken breaks from camming--I have done the I've been sick. That usually handles it--sharing too much personal info doesn't work so well.
    I have a rapport with my custies, but my personal life is private. Sometimes I just say it's family stuff or I have been working at a job, a job outside of camming.
    Enough custies have figured out my location without me saying where I live--I guess I have an accent. I did not know there is a "California" accent but there is. I grew up in the South--I had a southern accent forever--after about 1-2 years in Cali, I guess I have an accent.
    I think I'll just start making stuff up--maybe say I was engaged to a wonderful and fabulously rich man--then his wife/girlfriend came back into the picture. There is an idea for me!!
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    Default Re: Explaining Personal Issues to Customers Without Oversharing

    Just say something along the lines of "Hey, guys. I've been dealing with some personal things, but I'm back!" and leave it at that. You don't owe any of these people the full details about your personal life, no matter how good of a regular they are. I actually wish I hadn't given so much info about myself to cam site regs in the past. I had a reg who, during a private conversation, would say things like "Oh, wow, it's __ degrees right now in your town." I don't know why the fuck he did that, but I thought it was creepy, and it made me cringe.
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    Thank you guys so very much. Reading through all yall's stuff has definitely given me a better handle on how to say it and has given me more confidence in not talking about what I don't need to talk about! ^.^ As always, yall super rock.

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    They honestly do NOT care, TRUST Me it could bite you in the ass and they will turn on you.. I only tell them about my problems mostly when they are paying to milk more money from them... they will sit in pvt and listen to me for sometimes HOURS!...lol.. it became a habit so much cuz it was so easy to make money that way instead of playing for minute men.

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    I just tell them that life gets in the way of camming sometimes if it is mentioned to me.

    If they push for more information I tell them that I find my own life boring and lets move to another topic.

    Because we are so intimate physically it is very easy to think that we somehow owe people personal intimate information but of course this is not true.

    When it comes to situations like this comes up in my life, I ask myself how would a hair dresser or a barista PROFESSIONALLY handle this situation.

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    I usually don´t like to give explanations to anybody in my real life, so I have a bunch of "standard explanations", had to study, hard time in my "other job", needed vacations, needed to think, my cat got sick, nothing to messy to tell. Anyway, they don´t know the real me, so they don´t need (or want) to know my real reasons.

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