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    Dizzy Ex came into my work and tried to put me down

    An ex bf came into my work. At first when he saw me he put his head down, so I walked right up to him and said "hey what are you doing here?" with a smile. He says "uh...I'm just checking things out...oh I see your still working here..." Very sarcastically then starts laughing. I laughed and said "yeah I'm doing really good here". He then goes on to tell me that I seemed bitter after we broke up and blah blah(which is funny bc I broke up with him in a text message and fucked another guy the next week). He starts making fun of me for working there and asks me if my life is ok?? I just laughed again and said "I'm fine. Nice to see you, have fun tonight." And walked away.

    I know a lot of girls would've handled that differently, but I just didn't feel like getting upset at work...I mean for what?? He sat there all by himself in the corner, it was just sad. I started feeling like an idiot, like how could I have dated this loser?? It's so weird to me that a guy would look down at me like that then come to the club BY HIMSELF. Then I start thinking why do I attract these type of guys? The guy I was with before him was physically abusive, and this guy was mentally. He would constantly put me down in our relationship, even telling his friends," yeah she dances but she will get a real job one day to be with me". And here he is all alone in a stripclub. Crazy.

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    Default Re: Ex came into my work and tried to put me down

    I saw a line on here I liked.

    When your past calls - don't answer. It has nothing new to say.

    I think you handled it really well!

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    Default Re: Ex came into my work and tried to put me down

    good for you -the first step in changing your pattern is recognizing it - good for you for taking the higher ground - something that helped me was making a list of qualities that I wanted in a man then a list of the qualities I didnt want - then prioritize them by most important to least - no one will ever meet all of our expectations but it helps me to have a clearer picture that is not emotionally based - and dont make excuses for shortcomings and get trapped in the "potential" a person has - take them for who they are right now not some magical person that could become if only....... you fill in the blank.....

    my top 3 non negotiable"s - honest - respectful - does what he says he is going to do

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    Thumbs up Re: Ex came into my work and tried to put me down

    Make no mistake: he came in specifically to see you, & try to get you back..I've experienced this as well..
    I think you handled it very well, & kudos to you, for not letting it bother you!


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    Default Re: Ex came into my work and tried to put me down

    Quote Originally Posted by whirlerz View Post
    Make no mistake: he came in specifically to see you, & try to get you back..I've experienced this as well..
    I think you handled it very well, & kudos to you, for not letting it bother you!

    Probably...I just don't see how being an asshole to someone would make them want to come back lol!

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    Default Re: Ex came into my work and tried to put me down

    He said you seem bitter about the break up because he is bitter about the break up. Think of yourself as a mirror when it comes to men, if they say that you have a problem with something its usually their problem with something.

    If he comes there again, greet him friendly and suggest girls he should get dances with, that'll be a mind-fuck for him, his ex that is "so bitter" forcing girls on him (it would help if you brought a another dancer with you just to fuck with him). If he plays that "Oh i don't want a dance" then get him kicked out.

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    Default Re: Ex came into my work and tried to put me down

    ^ that is SOO true..people usually see faults in others that they themselves struggle with. he came there to put you down, hurt you, and make you feel uncomfortable. good on you for walking away and not letting it effect you

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    Quote Originally Posted by jasmine22 View Post
    Probably...I just don't see how being an asshole to someone would make them want to come back lol!
    Yea. My ex did this, & also went back & forth..being an a-hole/being really nice. He also went so far as to take away service from the phone he gave me (& I didn't ask for).
    Maybe he thought @ the very least, he'd upset/fuck w/you..or that you'd run over, & demand to 'get him back'


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    Default Re: Ex came into my work and tried to put me down

    Totally agree with others you handled an awkward situation with class. And I know the feeling of dating/liking/trusting someone then feeling like an idiot once it's discovered they turned out to be an ass.

    I actually had a guy I used to date come to the club on my shift but he didn't know beforehand that I worked there. The fucker had the audacity to come sit at the stage - with no money?!? - while I'm dancing.

    Not only did he try to intimidate me at work but he had the nerve to approach the stage staring hard but empty handed. WTF?!?

    It took everything I had not to pull out my baby powder and smack the piss out of him. But I just looked at him like I had no idea who he was. Acting at its finest.

    He's damn smart not to utter a word to me that night or the outcome would have been much different.

    Damn. Too bad security doesn't kick idiots out the club at the snap of a finger like they used to.
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    Default Re: Ex came into my work and tried to put me down

    OP I must say you handled this in a much classier way than I probably would have. I have a couple of exes that if they showed up at my job I'd swear, steal cheat & lie to get their happy asses kicked out. Cry 'Stalker' & let slip the bouncers to ban him!

    Like you said, he came in to have a go at you & ended up sitting alone in the corner. Sounds to me like the Universe agrees that he's a POS who doesn't deserve another thought from you.

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    You handled this really well and were the bigger person-which is hard to do in a situation like this. I would have high tailed it to the DR lol- good on you for not letting it ruin your mood or your night .
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    I would have "accidentally" spilled his drink on him or put a stiletto through his foot. Even if I was over it, he's in YOUR house now.
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    Default Re: Ex came into my work and tried to put me down

    Yeah it's kinda annoying when the person you once loved will treat you like that at your work or try to insult you about you still doing the same job as if he wants to stay "you'll do this forever,till you are old and gray"

    But i think you handle it good and it's so obvious he is the one who is still bitter about your break up.

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