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    Default Pretty sure I just got outted..

    And I'm panicking. Panicking hard. I saw this guy come into my room with his firstname, middle initial and last name as his user name on Streamate. JohnFSmith. And it's not a common name.. First off who uses their first and last name on a porn site?? And second, if it WAS him he stayed in my room for a minute or two and left. We are more acquaintances then anything, were interested in each other for a little bit about two years ago and I helped him out of a few bad situations (he has attempted suicide twice) but we haven't physically seen eachother in about six years since I was 18. I've changed a LOT since then but still.. Ugh.

    To make matters worse he is friends with this guy who sexually assaulted me and tried to blackmail me when I was younger. I was 16 and stupid at the time and wanted to get into lingerie modeling, so I took a few photos for this "photographer" who turned out to be nothing more than a creepy guy with a camera. For a year he blackmailed me with those photos and made me perform oral sex on him or else he'd send the photos out. I finally called his bluff and he stopped talking to me for a few years. But, every once in a while he contacts me on facebook even though I block him each time. He thinks he did nothing wrong and that I'm a stuck up bitch for refusing his advances.

    So, if "JohnFSmith" tells his friend, even in passing, about seeing me I'm fucked because if he tried to blackmail me once what is stopping him from doing it again?

    I can't even use geo blocking because I have no idea where this creep lives now.

    SOOOO THAT made for an exciting night. Sorry for the rambling I'm still pretty freaked out.
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    Default Re: Pretty sure I just got outted..

    Block him??? And try geoblocking anyways maybe??but I would def block at least. And john smith is sooo common that one of those johns will have an F as middle initial

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    Default Re: Pretty sure I just got outted..

    I am sorry this has happened to you. Personally, I would stop worrying about the outcome, there is nothing you can do that will affect it now. Relax, do the best job you can. If this loser contacts you in anyway, block him. You already know the type of person he is, your self-worth is more important than anything he can threaten you with. Personally, I don't think you have anything to be ashamed of, he should. Positive vibes your way tonight love. =)

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    Default Re: Pretty sure I just got outted..

    I think the "JohnFSmith" was an example..

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    Default Re: Pretty sure I just got outted..

    hey girl, don't panic too much! i can understand a gut reaction because of your creepy ex and everything, but it's very likely just a coincidence!

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    ^^ o lol ok ... I was gonna say john smith is as common as it gets lol. Nm then

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    Lol yeah sorry it was an example, def not his real name!! And I wanted to block him but I was kinda shocked. Then I got whisked into private before I could do anything. I wish we could search customers and then block them that way.
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    Default Re: Pretty sure I just got outted..

    ohhh no, i'm sorry does the person have a unique name? could you maybe search for them on facebook so you could at least geo block their state? :/

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    Default Re: Pretty sure I just got outted..

    I'd contact SM support and request that the user be blocked (use the correct username). If it isn't common (as you said), they should be able to help you. Say it's someone you know IRL and that you think they're trying to harass/black mail you.


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    Default Re: Pretty sure I just got outted..

    That's a good idea, thank you! Just sent them a msg to block him.
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    Also, if you are ever being blackmailed, keep evidence, screenshots, voicemails etc
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    Default Re: Pretty sure I just got outted..

    For one thing, I would suggest removing your 'avatar' of yourself on here. Remember, this IS a public forum, so everything you post could be seen by anyone, esp. a person who could harm you. Just saying.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Glamourmilf View Post
    For one thing, I would suggest removing your 'avatar' of yourself on here. Remember, this IS a public forum, so everything you post could be seen by anyone, esp. a person who could harm you. Just saying.

    Was getting ready to suggest the same thing, you never know who reads the forum. Hope you get it all taken care of.

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    Default Re: Pretty sure I just got outted..

    I had a scare a few weeks ago. Someone popped into my room under a generic camasshole name and said "This is Mike. I found you."

    My step-dad's name is Mike so this could be a possibility. It was on his day off, proper time of day, etc. I blocked him and geoblocked my home state. Didn't know I was "lost" and needed to be found, but whatever. My family is so volatile on that side of the family that if he tried to out me to mom, I could be like, "Wow, he's really trying to rub everyone into the dirt isn't he?" And play it off.

    But it did frazzle me, too. It could have been a random creeper, it could have been my step-dad. But I just geoblocked and moved on. Florida seems to be full of assholes anyway.
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    I'm so sorry you're going through this bb. Hugs and kisses from me. Fuck that motherfucker. If he outs you, you need to report his nasty ass to the police for assault and tell everyone you know, too. Just relax, I'm sure this too shall pass. Don't lose sleep over this dbag!




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    I am so sorry that happened to you. I agree contact CS or Liz and have them block him. Is it possible he might not have known it was you? You did say you changed a lot since then and you aren't using your real name online. He sounds like a creeper if it is him and his friend should be in jail for what he did to you.

    Do your friends and family know what you do? If it is him, don't let him and his creepy friend have power over you again. If you have to tell everyone yourself you cam than do it. I think they will be more upset when you tell them some creep was trying to harass and blackmail you.




    Quote Originally Posted by Nocturnelle View Post
    And I'm panicking. Panicking hard. I saw this guy come into my room with his firstname, middle initial and last name as his user name on Streamate. JohnFSmith. And it's not a common name.. First off who uses their first and last name on a porn site?? And second, if it WAS him he stayed in my room for a minute or two and left. We are more acquaintances then anything, were interested in each other for a little bit about two years ago and I helped him out of a few bad situations (he has attempted suicide twice) but we haven't physically seen eachother in about six years since I was 18. I've changed a LOT since then but still.. Ugh.

    To make matters worse he is friends with this guy who sexually assaulted me and tried to blackmail me when I was younger. I was 16 and stupid at the time and wanted to get into lingerie modeling, so I took a few photos for this "photographer" who turned out to be nothing more than a creepy guy with a camera. For a year he blackmailed me with those photos and made me perform oral sex on him or else he'd send the photos out. I finally called his bluff and he stopped talking to me for a few years. But, every once in a while he contacts me on facebook even though I block him each time. He thinks he did nothing wrong and that I'm a stuck up bitch for refusing his advances.

    So, if "JohnFSmith" tells his friend, even in passing, about seeing me I'm fucked because if he tried to blackmail me once what is stopping him from doing it again?

    I can't even use geo blocking because I have no idea where this creep lives now.

    SOOOO THAT made for an exciting night. Sorry for the rambling I'm still pretty freaked out.

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    Default Re: Pretty sure I just got outted..

    Sorry to hear this as well. I completely understand as I have had people come into my room and make comments about my vanilla work and my real name. It is very scary when they do that. Unless they change their user name they don't seem to repeat. I think they do it more for the shock factor or to let me know my secret is out - duh. Anyway, yes, hide as much of yourself in this world as you can at least temporarily. I google my name (real and aliases) all the time to see what comes up. I have been successful at getting quite a bit of stuff removed from the internet merely by asking the sites to untag me or remove pics. And check your local internet gossip pages. That is where a lot of crap gets passed around. Big hug...

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