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    Default Any one else have that ONE good steady customer...

    Whom you can't seem to appreciate and can't even pretend to be nice to him even though he's good for a few hundred bucks? Gosh I do and I wish I could be nicer and more appreciative towards him.

    Btw I'm aware that Accidentally posted in the wrong section.

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    Default Re: Any one else have that ONE good steady customer...

    Well, stripping is a job, and like all jobs, there are parts that are boring or otherwise unpleasant but bearable. It's not all good times. Unlike most regular jobs, stripping at least gives you the option to walk away from a client you'd rather not deal with. It can be hard to decide to do that with big, regular spenders, but if this customer hasn't done anything egregious and you feel the amount he gives you is worth putting up with him, just try and appreciate the money. When you're with him, think about what you can spend it on, and maybe that'll make your interactions more pleasant. Or maybe he likes that you're kind of bitchy to him and unappreciative and you can try amping it up so that at the very least, you're not getting frustrated about playing nice.

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    Default Re: Any one else have that ONE good steady customer...

    He hasn't done anything that would allow me to rightfully refuse lap dances and VIPS with him but my feelings towards him is similar to falling out of love with a boyfriend whose still wants to be with you. I've grown to be disgusted by his presence and everything he does or say just irritates me; even simple things like putting hands around my waist at the bar or if he gets TOO close to me while we are talking. I doubt he likes me being bitchy to him because he has complained about it. I feel like he's in love with me and this is getting too hard to think of this as business. I believe that being unable to be nice as well as being unable to appreciate the money is a defense mechanism. Like my mind is just telling me fuck the money, I just want him away from me. I don't want him admiring and touching my body especially in private. I could feel his lust towards me. Something is just off and I just cant figure out why I cant just do my job with this very good customer.

    Also, my club posts our schedules up every week and makes it hard to avoid customers because the DJ can just call the dancer up whenever the customers ask.

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    Default Re: Any one else have that ONE good steady customer...

    If it's simply an instinctual alarm bell going off, I'd find a way to politely 'break up' w/ him. If he hasn't done anything to deserve the hostility then I don't see any reason to be nasty abt it. Is there any way you could just pawn him off on another girl?

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    Default Re: Any one else have that ONE good steady customer...

    Yeah I have a couple good paying regulars.

    They do annoy me sometimes though like pressing me for time outside the club or getting all emo in the club acting like a boyfriend or something, watching me with their big beady eyes across the club and ruining my hustle.

    ugh! well at least they paid well....
    “Cook for him like a housewife, fuck him good like a nympho….pay the rent and the car note, he invests in me like crypto”

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    Default Re: Any one else have that ONE good steady customer...

    Yep, all the time, with every reg eventually.
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    Default Re: Any one else have that ONE good steady customer...

    If you think the amount he spends isn't worth the annoyance he brings, drop him. Just because he hasn't done anything horrible, doesn't mean he's entitled to your time. Even if he knows your schedule and can make the DJ summon you up, doesn't force you to spend time with him. Just say no thank you next time and move on to lesser headaches.

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    Default Re: Any one else have that ONE good steady customer...

    It sounds, Kassie, like you are bothered by the extent of his emotional attachment to you, and that your discomfort with his feelings is also part of what makes it hard for you to end the "relationship."

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    Default Re: Any one else have that ONE good steady customer...

    I did. He did spent lots of money on me but for some reason i can't even be a fake sweet to him. Often times i become rude to him and say things and when he is being an emo i keep getting annoyed and really tell him what i think.

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    Default Re: Any one else have that ONE good steady customer...

    Couldn't one say that if he's putting you in a bad mood just by being around, he's effectively making you lose money? I'd just tell him the truth. It's better for his feelings, your work(and mood), and it still has a chance of him spending money on you later, just without all that awkward stuff attached. Then again, I'd say I'm far from an expert on how you should act. You accidentally posted here, so I accidentally replied /

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    Default Re: Any one else have that ONE good steady customer...

    Quote Originally Posted by kassie View Post
    He hasn't done anything that would allow me to rightfully refuse lap dances and VIPS with him but my feelings towards him is similar to falling out of love with a boyfriend whose still wants to be with you. I've grown to be disgusted by his presence and everything he does or say just irritates me; even simple things like putting hands around my waist at the bar or if he gets TOO close to me while we are talking.
    Well you're either good at disguising body language or he can't pick it up...

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    Default Re: Any one else have that ONE good steady customer...

    It seems like it's just a matter of deciding if his money is worth the emotional discomfort he brings (and possible risks, if there is something in you sending up red flags). Please just remember that the money he's giving you won't last as long as the memory of his hands being where you don't want his hands to be.

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    Default Re: Any one else have that ONE good steady customer...

    Thank you all for your advice. You were all right! Ending this was the best thing to do. Since then, It has gotten so bad that I been catching bad anxiety and hiding in the dressing room whenever he walked in. I also starting giving him poor quality dances; as in not allowing his hands on my breast and facing away from him during dances.

    I admitted to him that everything he has done has caused me to shift away from him. He said let's start off with a clean slate but I told him unfortunately it doesn't work like that. I also gave him an ankle wallet (he's been inquiring to me where he could buy one) as a peace offering because I did feel sorry for him.

    Now I'm happy and smiling at the club without his presence, thanks to you all! Money can't buy back your mental health. Once it's gone, it's gone forever.

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    Default Re: Any one else have that ONE good steady customer...

    Glad things worked out, giving that ankle wallet to him that he kept asking about was a smart choice as a peace offering when you ended things, shows him that your not trying to be mean(even if you think little of him) and gives you peace of mind that he will not bother you anymore so it looks like a win-win for both sides.

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    Default Re: Any one else have that ONE good steady customer...

    I have a couple of regs like this I had to drop. Nice people but they caused me internal alarm bells.

    On some level I'm sure they wanted to hurt me or were too involved. Based off small comments and actions. Nothing 'bad'. Best decision ever. I easily replace the dollars coz I'm so happy to be away from them.

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