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    On Saturday my mom was admitted to the hospital because she was having trouble breathing. They've so far found a spot on her lung and her blood cell count is dangerously low and they're suspecting leukaemia. Needless to say....I'm an emotional wreck and unfortunately I don't have the money to take time off and go visit her. I need to work. I tried today and had to log off every ten minutes because I'd start crying. Then when I'd finally stop....my eyes were all red and puffy and my face was pale, so I had to wait even longer before I could go back on.

    I made next to nothing today because of that. My question is how can I put my game face on and make money? In other jobs, I didn't work directly with the public, so no one could see if I was upset but with camming....it's my face and attitude that sell me.

    Any tips on how I can pull my shit together would be appreciated. If I can make decent money between now and the end of the month, I can probably afford to go see her.

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    Can you just take today off and make up for it tomorrow or the next day? I hope you're able to visit your mom. It may not be leukemia. Something similar happened with one of my family members and they said it was probably leukaemia, but it turned out not to be. Low blood cell counts can be many things.

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    Really sry to hear abt your mother!

    As to dealing + working: I'll be honest, I have nvr had much luck w/ this. I don't cam but I'm a dancer & I have had to try & work thru deaths in the family, crippling depression, etc so I feel you on how hard it is to get your shit together. Sm times it was so bad I just said fk it bc I literally couldn't bring myself to go into work.

    As hard as it is, have you tried listening to anything comedic? Whether it's music or standup -- George Carlin, Weird Al, Gabriel Iglesias, or whoever else. Put it on while you're eating, b4 you start your getting-ready routine & continue to listen to it while getting dolled up & dressed. There have been studies done that show that forcing yourself to laugh & smile, even when you're in an unhappy mood, can help to 'trick' your brain into thinking that you're actually happy. It feels like such a mindfk to be putting on funny shit when your emotional state is in such a spiral, but I found it to help a little.




    Here's a couple to get you started.

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    Today was basically a day off I guess, even though I was trying to stay on. With all the tests and then deciding on what to do...this is going to go on for quite awhile so I need to be able to work during it.

    I'm glad your family member didn't have it
    My mom's white blood cells keep dropping so they're doing that test tomorrow where they drill in to your bone to get marrow.

    I'm not sure how I'm going to be able to look all bouncy and sexy on cam, with that going through my mind

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    Quote Originally Posted by Aniela View Post
    Really sry to hear abt your mother!

    As to dealing + working: I'll be honest, I have nvr had much luck w/ this. I don't cam but I'm a dancer & I have had to try & work thru deaths in the family, crippling depression, etc so I feel you on how hard it is to get your shit together. Sm times it was so bad I just said fk it bc I literally couldn't bring myself to go into work.

    As hard as it is, have you tried listening to anything comedic? Whether it's music or standup -- George Carlin, Weird Al, Gabriel Iglesias, or whoever else. Put it on while you're eating, b4 you start your getting-ready routine & continue to listen to it while getting dolled up & dressed. There have been studies done that show that forcing yourself to laugh & smile, even when you're in an unhappy mood, can help to 'trick' your brain into thinking that you're actually happy. It feels like such a mindfk to be putting on funny shit when your emotional state is in such a spiral, but I found it to help a little.

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CE8ooMBIyC8
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V2eII3bs-6s

    Here's a couple to get you started.
    I like that idea I'll check out the links now.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Holly_xoxo View Post
    On Saturday my mom was admitted to the hospital because she was having trouble breathing. They've so far found a spot on her lung and her blood cell count is dangerously low and they're suspecting leukaemia. Needless to say....I'm an emotional wreck and unfortunately I don't have the money to take time off and go visit her. I need to work. I tried today and had to log off every ten minutes because I'd start crying. Then when I'd finally stop....my eyes were all red and puffy and my face was pale, so I had to wait even longer before I could go back on.

    I made next to nothing today because of that. My question is how can I put my game face on and make money? In other jobs, I didn't work directly with the public, so no one could see if I was upset but with camming....it's my face and attitude that sell me.

    Any tips on how I can pull my shit together would be appreciated. If I can make decent money between now and the end of the month, I can probably afford to go see her.
    Sorry to hear about your mom.

    Yeah it's really hard to go on cam when there is a problem especially if it's family problem.
    But then. I think if you cannot work then you just better visit your mom or give her a call.

    Also you do not need to always look happy on cam. Sometimes it's okay to show the real you on cam once in a while. That way your customers will know and wil feel like you don't see them as customers only.

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    Sorry to hear about your mom - maybe you need a day or two to process everything

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    Sorry your going through all this. The only thing I can offer is possibly not showing your face in free chat if that is an option on the site you work for. Good luck ! Hope all gets better for you !

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    Sometimes in life, you have to fake it till you make it.

    Focus on the goal, put on a happy face & work your way through it.

    It is times like these you need to find your inner strength & go for it.

    Good Luck,
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    Quote Originally Posted by Sam38g View Post
    Sometimes in life, you have to fake it till you make it.

    Focus on the goal, put on a happy face & work your way through it.

    It is times like these you need to find your inner strength & go for it.

    Good Luck,
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    I definitely need to find that inner strength. I need that right now. I thought I'd experienced pain in my life but nothing has been as painful as watching the person I love most, suffer and not be able to do anything to take it away.

    Maybe I'll do AW today and not do free chat. If I don't make enough then I'll go back on SM tomorrow and just ban everyone that annoys me. I certainly have no tolerance for fools that are on there at times.

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    When I'm in a crisis and really need to work I turn on as many sites without free chat as I can, maybe add in one free chat site, keep my face off cam as much as possible and just do occasional teases with my body to encourage privates.

    (((hugs)))

    It's tough working when upset but it's better than falling behind, and your mom is going to need you to have your bills paid and be there for her. Make enough money and that's one less worry you can put aside to be there for your mom.


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    I'm so sorry you are going through this. I've been there, it is brutal. Heart wrenching.

    That being said, when working through crisis (in any job) you almost have to disassociate from what's going on while working. It's unfortunate that we even have to work through emotional turmoil, but bills need to be paid and your Mom will want you to still be able to support yourself.

    I would break your shifts into smaller chunks if you can, an hour here and there with plenty of breaks. Be kind to yourself, reward yourself with something good for the soul after each shift (a bubble bath, go for a walk, a mug of hot tea) Find those you can talk to and check in here for support on the cam side.

    It's gonna suck, but you can do this. And yes, take that initial day or two off to allow yourself to feel it all.

    Hugs and strength to you.

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    OMG this is the worst job to have when having a crisis.. one of the reasons I don't wanna date anymore.. it's just heartbreak after heartbreak and then you gotta get on the cam and all you wanna do is cry your eyes out! I have cammed through everything let me tell ya!... I mean EVERYTHING.. I had an abortion, I had several guys leave me, I attempted suicide, Relatives died, I have had pneumonia, broken shoulder,,, there is so much more but it has been a LONG 12 yrs...LOL... so yea it's not easy.. I suggest not showing your face when you want to cry, Log out if the tears are coming.. smile if you don't want to .. watch something funny or read something funny, Just try to cam... every minute counts whatever you can do!...

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    Thankyou all for your kind words and advice. My situation has changed though. My mom now has 2 major cancers and treatment would be brutal...she probably wouldn't make it through and it might only give her an extra month or two. I told the docs to just stabilize her and let her go home because she only has days to weeks left.

    A friend of hers was beyond generous and is paying my rent for next month, so I can go to their town tomorrow and stay with them.

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    Holly, I'm truly sorry to hear all that. :/

    All I can say is, be strong. If you ever need to talk or vent or whatever, feel free to hit me up via PM. No problem

    *HUGS* Stay strong. All I can give you are my best wishes and virtual hugs :/ But we're here for ya.
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    maybe try doing clips for a bit, put on your bubbly face when your making them and then have your cry time after and in between with less pressure to hop back online quickly

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    I am so sorry to hear this. Sending so much love your way.

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    Babe, hugs. So many hugs. I've been there. I lost my mother to breast cancer four years ago. It was entirely too advanced to cure by the time we found it. I can't tell you how sorry I am or how much I wish you didn't have to go through this. It's the kind of news that's like getting hit by a fucking semi-truck and life expects you to just keep on going somehow.

    I have no real advice for camming in this situation. I could barely function. Do what you can, when you can. Beyond that, my only advice is to spend as much time with her as possible.

    I wish you all the best. You can talk to me anytime girl.


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    Thankyou so much for all the good thoughts and compassion. My feelings are so all over the place right now. Luckily I found a way to get to her town tomorrow. Not sure if she'll be good enough to be released from the hospital but I'm hoping.

    With her friend paying my rent next month, I don't have to worry about camming for awhile. That's a huge weight off my shoulders.

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    So sorry Holly - I'm so glad to hear her friend is helping you out. Contact the hospital and find out if she has been assigned to a Hospice agency - they may be able to help you also -

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    I am so sorry for the pain you must be feeling. Try to spend as much time with her as possible and cherish every memory you have and make all the new ones you can.

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