Have any of you dancers ever had a crush or developed a crush for a customer? Was it awkward dancing for them? Does it at all affect your hustle? Explain

Have any of you dancers ever had a crush or developed a crush for a customer? Was it awkward dancing for them? Does it at all affect your hustle? Explain





I have encountered a very select few that I honestly found attractive. Hell, I've been dancing for 5yrs off&on & I'm only human. I consider the eye candy a fringe bonus when it's there, but no, the fact that he or she attractive doesn't trump the fact that I am at work. I don't find dancing for an attractive customer (male or female) awkward, in fact it allows me to not-bs any lines I offer in praise of their looks, & I am very much abt minimal bs. If they are not paying me, oh well, onto the nxt. First sign of disrespect -- smack upside the head & on to the nxt.
ETA I was talking abt general attractiveness but then went back & re-read OP. So to be blunt, No. No crushes. I appreciate the attractiveness only while it is in front of me but I still consider them work, & I leave work at work.

Also on a sidenote, what is the difference between finding someone attractive, and having a crush on someone?





To me, 'finding sm1 attractive' is kinda like looking at them & thinking, 'Hey, s/he's kinda hot. S/he's also wearing a green shirt' & those two facts are of equal importance to me. It's just what it is -- I think they are easy on the eyes. I can take that or leave it.
A crush would be smtg that extends beyond the dance+pay transaction, or letting them get away w/ more, or taking it (physically or mentally) OTC. I have nvr done any of those things, bc to me business is business. We talk, I dance (or play chess w/ you, or give you a massage, or whatever mostly-PG VIP activity), you pay, we both show each other the same respect, everybody goes home happy.





Oh sweety. No one can answer that truly. But I'll give it a shot.
Finding someone attractive: You find them physically appealing
Having a crush: You are attracted to them physically and to their personality.
I'm not a dancer, but I've never crushed on any of my cam customers. Yeah I think some are cute. But I don't have a customer I am crushing on. My walls are high, and I don't see that changing anytime soon.





All crushes in the SC are always short-lived. I've only had one customer that I crushed on. He was really tall, had soulful eyes, and an epic beard. We had some rather deep conversations that people don't normally speak about inside a SC. Like, spiritual conversations....there was something really special about him. But as time went on, my "crush" dissipated. It gets dangerous combining real feelings with a business transaction anyway, so I've hardened myself since then. If I ever do see him again, I'll be happy of course, but mostly because I know he would pay me well. Those feelings just can't exist for too long in the SC fantasy. If I ever did date him OTC, that would be different. But he is a customer, nothing more. Emotions are messy and get in the way of my hustle. So I become a money-hungry Spock, so to speak. No time for crushes now.
"Dancing tables, making deals with devils like a drunk beauty queen"





I have a crush on your wallet.![]()
"Fake tits are like Kevlar. They don't guarantee your chances of survival but they sure as hell improve it."
Tempest
I've been genuinely attracted to customers maybe 3% of the time like [email protected] I wish you were my man but we're in the strip club and I don't want to cross the line so I just enjoy the dance and getting paid.
I've never had a crush. A crush seems to me more like an ongoing attraction. And the few guys I've been attracted to I only saw them once so I don't think that counts as a crush.
And like tempest mentioned I am attracted to generosity so when customers are spending money on me without too many strings attached then this increases my attraction level.
“Cook for him like a housewife, fuck him good like a nympho….pay the rent and the car note, he invests in me like crypto”



Once I had a customer who was just as weird as I am. I thought he was really hot.
It doesn't change my hustle or boundaries.
Almost none of what happens is real. Id be a fool to think otherwise.
Last edited by amberlly; 11-23-2014 at 08:08 PM.
So I actually had my first experience with the customer side of this question a few weeks ago...
There's this stupidly gorgeous girl I work with- very closely models herself off Dita Von Tesse, Tempest would love her at probably 90lbs with huge beautiful teardrop implants that are squishy and soft to the touch. She always fawns over me like a benevolent queen, compliments my body or clothes, so obviously on top she can focus on being sweet to everyone.
Anyway I ended up being paid to get a dance from her and she created such sense of intimacy, and made me feel so desirable and like I was recieving special treatment- nibbling my hip bone and nipples, holding my neck, whispering amazing things, and later stroking me any time she passed- that I actually had a whole night being very confused about whether she was truly into me or not. Like should I propose we go back to my place? Threesome? BFFs? I ended up babbling all this stupid shit to her about how hard she rocked my world...like a third grader with a crush. I may have then fan girl squealed all over the club high fiving the dj, bouncer, manager, and girls in the back.
I got hustled. That's what I get paid to do to people and I still fell for it. And I loved it, and will probably pay to do it again, and pay her to do it to my friends- fuck maybe even my boyfriend because it was such a lovely sensation I want to share it with everyone.
I think that as with any kind of performance sometimes you do end up giving a bit of yourself-becoming the role even if only for three minutes. If a customer is falling for me it probably isn't because I'm sneering at their life story and judging them. I've found something about them I empathize with, or am excited about, or found some facet of my own experience that can relate to them- and when I make them light up and sink into the moment it can be thrilling the way a crush is, but it's temporary and I will not be thinking about them later.
I once let my guard down with a female customer who was very beautiful and who kinda sorta had the potential to tun me on for realz. It was unbearably awkward because I didn't want to hurt her feelings by leading her on and taking her money when she was so sure this was the real thing. I ended up getting really uncomfortable because she would try to kiss me (which I would have loved at a civilian party) violating my very strict boundaries regarding work behavior. I told her to stop coming in to see me, I was there to do my job not find lovers. It was a real emotional and monetary drain. I try to be honest about my limits with all my customers, especially those who feel a strong connection and want to continue it OTC.
Currently I have an acquaintance who comes in, we were friends before I began dancing, and he's a considerate and respectful big spender who I find attractive both mentally and physically. My SO actually told the guy that I'd rather fuck him over anyone else in that band...this negatively affects my hustle because I have a hard time maintaining my persona when he's in and start behaving like a normal person with joint pain and laundry and stupid jokes, rather than staying sharp and on point. End up talking too much and not trying to take his money. Again- I'm not in to club to make connections- I'm there to pay bills, and help out my family. Crushes and friendships are really all distractions.





I already know who you're talking about. My man was in lust with her last year. Skinny, dark hair, huge tits. Yuppers.
"Fake tits are like Kevlar. They don't guarantee your chances of survival but they sure as hell improve it."
Tempest
Called it! She causes lasting ripples all over the country- and yet she chooses to live here and work mainly at my dumpy little club....
OP your first post here is dating customers & now a crush thread. I don't see this ending well.







There are a lot of attractive guys that come in. Id say in 8 months Ive maybe had a crush on 1.
Skyler Doll
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Great insight!
@unbelevable- I've actually dated a few strippers, there were no bad endings.
The reason I asked the question is I had a dancer that told me she has a crush on me. She could have been lying lol. Who knows.





^^^^ you're right -- who knows?
All the dancers here can throw ourinto your pile until the
s come home, but it's not going to bring you any closer to answering that $1M Question: 'Does she or doesn't she?'

she loves me, she loves me not, she loves me, she loves me not. Ummm, she probably loves you not. But hopefully it'll be fun before you realize that she really ain't into you.





MANY MEN WANTED TO LAY ME DOWN, BUT FEW WANTED TO LIFT ME UP
-Eartha Kitt




I'm not even going to lie. I have gone home with a couple customers. But this was in Magaluf (a party holiday resort)
In any other situation (so when I'm not on a working holiday) then I wouldn't
I would def rather dance for someone I didn't find attractive though. If I think a guy is cute I get shy.
A guy I was fucking asked me to give him a dance I said HELL NO. that would have been so weird



When I started dancing and had my first batch of regulars i ended up feeling attracted to a few of them, but then i realised that i only really liked them because they were giving me regular money with little/no effort. Otherwise when I'm dancing maybe twice a month or so ill either see a person I find physically attractive, and even rarer is it that i'll meet someone who i feel I could legitimately connect with/is also hot.
I don't think it's awkward dancing for them, only if they say that wow you're really into it, then you can always say 'well do you want a bad lap dance?'
I think crushes at work can happen easily, because men walk in with lust and for whatever reason they are there they are wanting to connect with someone. If you too are single, lonely, horny etc it may be easy to feed off of these energies, while they can be nice and make your time at work easier when it comes down to it 99.99999% of these interactions are rather meaningless, short-lived and irrelevant outside of work.
I think it's easier to find customers attractive or have a crush on them, then when they have a crush on you though as it can become unbearable and draining, i've had to stop a few regulars because what they thought was a genuine, mutual attraction was just a A-game hustling by me.



I get mini-crushes all the time. It's usually based on three things
1.) how much money he spends (seriously. The more he spends, and the better he tips, the more my heart goes pitter-patter)
2.) how much he likes me, while still respecting me (telling me how much he loves my perfect ass, sexy back, beautiful stomach, all while sitting stone solid and gripping holes in the arm-rests? yes please!)
3.) how often he comes back (the more he comes in and treats me, the more I get to know him, the better I like him)
It never gets awkward, it only gets better, it makes my hustle better too.
Not sure why, but generally my big crushes are on mid 40s men who are well groomed and take care of their bodies.



Hoh! It turns out I actually have a crush on *me* and I just like anybody that agrees with me and pays me ^_^
I have regulars that I have become great friends with. One is even my back up plan if anything ever happens to my husband (both of them are cool with this idea too oddly enough). But my hustle with them hasn't been changed or been ruined by friendship. I actually made more when any of them came in because they stroked my ego and made me feel like Queen Bitch. They don't come in as much as they used to because life changes. I miss my friends...
Would I beat someone for fucking with them, Yes. Have I ever had a crush on them, No. Would I have become friends with them if they didn't spend $$ on me, No. We found mutually beneficial relationships that just happen to include getting wasted at rock festivals and hockey games when we aren't in a VIP room.
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