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    Default Accidentally pissed off club regular can/should I fix it?

    So yesterday my club was really dead, there is this large group of guys who comes in very regularly, 3-4 days a week. I usually just nicely say hello and stop by to chat for a minute when I have time because the group doesn't usually spend a lot of money on dances, maybe someone will take you for 2-3 songs if you sit with them for a half hour type thing. One of the older men they call "Dad" will often go for more songs, like 5+. Yesterday since there wasn't a lot going on, I decided to try hustling him since I had nothing else to do and 2 hours left on my shift. His friend, the "Boss" gave me $20 and told me to take him for one dance. He mentioned something about his limit on his card being reached but I didn't pay much attention to that since I figured he was just saying that so that I wouldn't think his friend had a lot of money and wouldn't try to get more than that one dance out of him. But since I've seen him take girls back for lots of songs I basically disregarded. Sure enough I finish my first song and he asks me to stay for another. After the second song, being a nice person, I actually got up and said "Well, I'm sure Boss won't mind that you got one extra song anyway." The guy literally pulls me back into the chair and says "Where are you going I'm not done yet." To which I say, OK, and start dancing again. It's my job to dance for people that want dances. You would have to be either stupid or a money hater to have said anything else in this situation amiright? Anyways, Dad stays back there for 10 songs all in all, after 5 I even checked with him that he had cash (or so I thought), remembering the comment about his card limit. I said "So we're at 5 songs right now and your friend mentioned something about your card limit, are you sure you're ok to keep going?" To which he said yes. I continued to remind him of our song count every 2 songs, until his friend came into the champagne room and said "That's the last one" to him. I was very confused, as I've never seen this kind of bossy behaviour before between dudes. Like, dude, your friend is his own person, he'll do what he will, back the fuck off. So I finish up, and tell Dad how much he owes, and he says he needs to go to the ATM, I say I'll meet him over by the ATM. I walk out of the champagne room and he is talking to Boss.

    Boss gets super pissy at me and says "I told you to take him for one dance, here's your money count it, I don't ever want you to come over to my table again when we come in here, you got that? I don't want to ever speak to you again, we're done."

    I tried to interject that staying for more than one song was not my idea, that his friend said he had money, and I was not aware that that meant HIS BOSS'S money, that I was just doing my job, etc, but he just kept yelling at me, the manager was standing right there and did nothing to back me up and just let this dude talk to me like I was some kind of badly behaved child that needed punishment. I talked to the waitress afterwards and apparently "Dad" comes in and gets really drunk and ends up in the back forever and spends all of bosses money every once in a while. This is a regular occurence I guess, and obviously Boss is getting pissed about it.

    I should probably just forget about it and ignore the whole table for a while but I really hate bad blood and people being mad at me, especially when I did nothing wrong. I really would like to work out the situation if that's possible, but I probably missed my chance to defend myself when I just sat there shocked while he was yelling at me instead of yelling at him right back that all I did was my job and he was being a rude asshole, and if he doesn't want his friend to spend his money he should probably stop bringing him to the strip club if he knows he behaves like that. For fuck's sake this guy is a contractor, he should know that it's just bad business to say no to a contract when someone solicits you to do it. Jesus talk about double standards.
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    Default Re: Accidentally pissed off club regular can/should I fix it?

    Psh fuck those guys. Obviously "boss" knew that guy had no money and let him stay back there...He could have come earlier to tell him to stop, but he didn't. If a guy says he wants more dances you keep dancing. That's your job. It's not your job to worry about where the cash comes from. Should you try to fix it? I don't know...Do you really want to deal with that headache again? It's unlikely that you'll be able to get that much $ out of them again so do as he says and ignore them. I don't even ask guys in between songs if they want more. It's their job to count the songs and keep track of their money. Not your problem.

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    Default Re: Accidentally pissed off club regular can/should I fix it?

    You know what...sometimes you need to know when to walk away from a bad situation/bad club. You didnt get your money? Then go somewhere else. Your manager doesn't pay you to be there that's the customer's job. I've had situations where clubs fucked me over with money, so I took my business elsewhere. If you do continue to work there, then always get your money upfront. Don't worry about kissing these guys asses... They didn't pay you for your services...so they are scumbags hun.

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    Default Re: Accidentally pissed off club regular can/should I fix it?

    I would just avoid them in future... you did nothing wrong, you checked in with him twice and he's a grown ass man. If he's spending all his "boss'" money, that's between him and "boss". You're right, your job is to give dances to people who want them and he requested them. It's not your job to police him and make sure he stays within his friend's limits.
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    Quote Originally Posted by jasmine22 View Post
    You know what...sometimes you need to know when to walk away from a bad situation/bad club. You didnt get your money? Then go somewhere else. Your manager doesn't pay you to be there that's the customer's job. I've had situations where clubs fucked me over with money, so I took my business elsewhere. If you do continue to work there, then always get your money upfront. Don't worry about kissing these guys asses... They didn't pay you for your services...so they are scumbags hun.
    Oh, I got my money. He just made a big scene while he was giving it to me. Management at this club is generally really good, it was a younger manager working and he was giving me this "just let it go" kind of look while this guy was bitching at me. I'm pretty sure if he tried to not pay me he would have intervened then, I've never been ripped off at this club before.
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    He did send a waitress back to ask the customer to come out because his friend wanted a word. I told her to tell him that I told this customer that his friend only paid for one dance and he wanted to stay. I had thought that if he bought more dances he would be paying for them directly. If it had been some random customer I wouldn't have cared either way but these guys are in my club almost every day I work, and they talk to a lot of other customers there so I would have been more careful about the situation if I understood that he was spending his friends money and not his own. I've danced for Boss before a few times and he's said before that he wished he could stay back there longer but Dad spent all his money for the day already. I always thought it was just a line until yesterday. I just don't want him spreading bullshit around the club that I'm a money-hungry hustler who drains every last cent from the guys and give me a bad rep with the other customers because I'm not like that at all my club is small so keeping good repoire with our regular customers is an asset to doing business there.
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    Default Re: Accidentally pissed off club regular can/should I fix it?

    I notice some guys are dead set on their budget and he got mad because you all agreed on only one dance before going back for dances.

    Buuuuut the guy you danced for wanted more and you thought he would use his own money. This guy gave you the confirmation he wanted more. So you're only doing your job to upsell when that's what he wants.

    I think if the guy paying for the dances really wanted to stick to his budget he would have simply given you the cash and told you take dude back for 1 dance. Or he wouldn't have agreed to let drunk dude go with you/pay for any of his dances. But he didn't. He kinda left himself open for this.
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    Agreed ^^^^

    even tho, at its core, this was the result of a misunderstanding, it doesn't sound like that's what Boss wants to hear. If you want to try & be diplomatic in the interest of preserving your reputation -- nxt time they come in, ask the bouncer or mgr to bring Boss over to speak w/ you privately so you can explain what really happened back there, & apologise. Then, respect that he no longer wants to interact w/ you ITC. Hopefully he will allow you a moment to explain yourself & that will sufficiently smooth things over for him.

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    You know what small businesses do when they get customers like this? They refuse to serve them. He was an asshole. Sounds like he knew exactly what was going on and was probably having a bad day and needed an excuse to yell at someone.

    At least you got your money. I would never even look at him again. I had a regular once who would buy dances from me, but he'd be really bossy and sometimes kind of abusive. I put up with it until he scratched me during a lapdance and then told me that my personality sucked. I took my money, and ignored the shit out of him until he go so uncomfortable that he never came back to the club again.

    Fuck people like that. He knows exactly what his friend did.

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    Haters are good publicity. It means more guys hear your name.
    And look out for you.

    I swear this could have just as easily gone the same way if you HAD stuck to one dance.

    Like WTF you think your too good to dance for us all? who are you to turn down our money. etc etc

    Another option is he was just letting off steam and you were an easy target. I have a boss like that. The solution is never to justify. Apologise profusely and get out asap.Then he is fine 10 minutes later and maybe even a little embarrassed. (he needs to save face - so 'arguing' back doesn't work).

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    Honestly I have mixed feelings abt the 'Even bad publicity is good for you' idea.

    While I agree that the more your name gets around, the better, consider what's getting attached to that name. If this guy gets a real case of the ass, badmouthing her to enough customers can put a serious dent in her earnings. Plenty of customers might take their chances on her if they think she does extras (& I am not trying to imply that she does or should!) & she can certainly work her hustle around those kind of guys if she's so inclined. I have yet to encounter any1 who wants to take a chance on a girl who's reputed to be a ROB.

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    I had a reputation as a bitchy shark among a group of regulars who didn't spend much at a very small club. I actually think it helped me out with a lot of customers who wanted to find out for themselves how I could get away with not sitting and chatting forever before doing strings of dances.

    If Boss does complain about you to other customers, they might be intrigued about the dancer who sold 10 dances in a row.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Aniela View Post
    Agreed ^^^^

    even tho, at its core, this was the result of a misunderstanding, it doesn't sound like that's what Boss wants to hear. If you want to try & be diplomatic in the interest of preserving your reputation -- nxt time they come in, ask the bouncer or mgr to bring Boss over to speak w/ you privately so you can explain what really happened back there, & apologise. Then, respect that he no longer wants to interact w/ you ITC. Hopefully he will allow you a moment to explain yourself & that will sufficiently smooth things over for him.
    I agree with this. I know in mine, we have a similar group of regulars, and if one girl manages to get on bad terms with them it can be more then uncomfortable since our club is rarely "busy". I would make nice as best as I could, without bending over backwards and taking the blame for more then my fair share.

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    Must not be much of a boss if he was pissed about paying a nine dance difference.
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    ^lol, the names these guys have are making me laugh.

    I think it's tricky whenever you have someone else paying for a guy's dances-- you just never know how it's going to go. I've had random guys agree to pay a $400 tab for dances on some random Tuesday night, and I've had guys refuse to pay an $80 tab for dances during a stag party. You just never know. But it sounds like in this case you didn't realize that the money was going to be coming from Boss and not Dad-- if you want to look at how you could avoid this in the future, that's what I would say. After having a guy refuse to pay a $500 tab for me and a $600 tab for another dancer, when he told us to take his friend in for 'as long as he wants' I always leave the room when someone else is paying (in that instance I got another friend to cover it, but fuck it was stressful).

    As for what to do, I would try speaking to him the next time he comes in. Words get thrown around, tempers get heated, and people say things they don't mean. He was probably angry at Dad but you were an easier target than his friend. Hopefully if he comes in again he will be in a calmer, more reasonable mood-- I think Aniela's idea of asking the bouncer to send him over is a good one and might go over better than just approaching him. But really, I can't imagine that there's much for him to shit-talk you over in regards to this and it doesn't sound like you're going to really make money with these guys again, if $20 is what they wanted to spend in the first place.

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