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    Default When a dancer just chats forever, what's happening?

    Tonight a dancer sat at my table and just chatted with me for like 20 minutes. It was a nice chat, she seemed interesting, nothing was wrong with this. But the whole time I was wondering whether there was something I was supposed to be doing. Did she want money for time? Was she waiting for me to ask for a dance? Isn't it the dancer who offers rather than the customer who asks? I wasn't sure what was happening.

    In fact the only reason the chat ended was, I had to leave.

    Like I said, she was nice, there was nothing unpleasant about the interaction, we actually had an interesting conversation. But I have no idea if there was something I was expected to be doing that I wasn't doing. I mean prior to this I assumed all interactions with dancers, however pleasant, were to her mind oriented towards her making money. But this felt for all the world like just two people chatting, with nothing else happening except for the bit where she had to go on stage in the middle. (During which time I did tip her, ftr!)

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    Default Re: When a dancer just chats forever, what's happening?

    She was prob. new..she spent too much time w/you & didn't ask for a dance. you should've tipped her really..or let her know you weren't interested in getting a dance.


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    Default Re: When a dancer just chats forever, what's happening?

    Were you buying drinks? I've had coworkers who were experienced but sometimes just wanted to get their drink on. If not, she was probably just new, or depending on the time, a socially anxious dancer 'warming up' with someone pleasant.

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    Default Re: When a dancer just chats forever, what's happening?

    Quote Originally Posted by lol1337a View Post
    Were you buying drinks? I've had coworkers who were experienced but sometimes just wanted to get their drink on. If not, she was probably just new, or depending on the time, a socially anxious dancer 'warming up' with someone pleasant.
    Yep.

    1) fishing for a drink 2) just killing time for some reason and 3) maybe too new to realize she should have slipped a request for a tip into the conversation.

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    Default Re: When a dancer just chats forever, what's happening?

    What these two lovely ladies said! I'll admit I have sm times 'warmed up' on nites when my anxiety was particularly bad, by just chatting w/ a pleasant customer w/ no pressure on either party.

    There's no rule against bringing up dances/VIP yourself if you're interested in her, or letting her know she should feel free to move on if she likes bc you're not ready to spend yet. Just sayin

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    Default Re: When a dancer just chats forever, what's happening?

    Could be a new dancer or one slow as heck day but it is odd she did not ask if you wanted a dance, you techinically should have paid her atleast a little money beyond 10 minutes of chatting. Its fine to talk but her time is not free unless she is not on the clock.

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    Default Re: When a dancer just chats forever, what's happening?

    You aren't obliged to tip a dancer just for unsolicited conversation.

    I've had dancers chat to me for long periods with no pressure to tip or buy dances. Sometimes dancers just want a break from work (dancing or hustling) and want to look busy some other way. If I enjoy their company, I might tip them or buy them drinks.

    Once the hottest dancer at the club sat with me for two hours just because she didn't feel like working that night. Of course I tipped her and bought a dance anyway.
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    Default Re: When a dancer just chats forever, what's happening?

    you don't HAVE to do anything, if she's just sitting with you for free then i guess its on her to waste her time at work lol, idk..i guess you could either offer to buy a dance if you are interested, or maybe tell her right off the bat if you aren't interested just to let her know..other than that, i guess just enjoy the free attention?

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    Default Re: When a dancer just chats forever, what's happening?

    IME, they, just like any other human beings, will do things for any number of reasons. However, I agree that it can be confusing as to how to respond when a girl parks herself for a while without asking for anything. Over time, I've more or less developed my own set of rules for dealing with those situations.

    For starters, if she asked to sit down and I said "yes", then I believe that I have created some minimal obligation upon myself, at least a drink (or several, lol) and perhaps tips if she stays for a while. But I don't buy LDs in most clubs, so you could substitute "LDs" for "tips" and you'd be fine. I have some girls who sit with me just to get loaded early in their shifts, but even those girls get a little something extra from me.

    If she just plopped herself down, then I have no immediate obligation whatsoever. Now that doesn't mean that I should occupy her forever. If I do not enjoy her company, I let her know pretty quickly as I have a low patience threshold nowadays. However, if I have occupied her for a while and things are going well, then at some point I do tend to believe that I start to become obligated to do something for her.

    IMHO it is important to remember that you are there to be entertained and she is there to earn. If either of those things is not happening, then there is a problem. I try to do at least something for each girl I like, even if it is no more than buying her a drink. However, if you don't like a girl and she is tying you up, then you will be doing everyone a favor (yourself, the girl who is sitting with you and maybe even some other better prospect) by sending her along and not burning her time or yours for nothing.
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    Default Re: When a dancer just chats forever, what's happening?

    I would guess she wanted to look busy-- I've sat with guys before and realized pretty early on they weren't going to buy anything, but it was better than just sitting by myself, or would make me look busy to the other customers. I've had guys turn me down for dances only to change their mind once they saw me speaking to someone else.

    Or, maybe just a really slow hustle and you interrupted it by leaving! Who knows.

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    Default Re: When a dancer just chats forever, what's happening?

    Honestly, It's impossible to tell what goes on in someone else's mind that I've never met. All the possible guesses here sound about right, and more often then not (when I've run into this), It's just a dancer that wants to kill time, and you should probably have tipped or got her a drink, or something. If for no other reason then acknowledging that she's on the clock. How full was the club? Had you had any interactions with her prior?

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    Default Re: When a dancer just chats forever, what's happening?

    Sounds like classic newbie behavior. There's one new baby dancer at my club who talks to guys forrrrreeeevvvvvvverrrrrrrr. My last shift I saw her sit with the same guy for 2 hours........he bought one dance. Yes it was slow, but damn. I see her do the same with other customers. She will just hang out with them all night for very little compensation. Personally, if it's slow I will sit with guys a little longer than usual, especially if they're pleasant and buy me a drink, but no longer than 10-15 minutes if no money is exchanged. I would rather kill time in the dressing room or hang out with the dj than give a customer that much time for free.

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    Default Re: When a dancer just chats forever, what's happening?

    Several possibilities come to mind:
    1. bad at sales and doesn't know how to transition from conversation to asking for dances.
    2. you were pleasant conversation and she needed a break from hustling assholes
    3. no one in the club was buying dances and she wanted to look busy
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