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    Default I think men are jealous of us sometimes

    I see threads where girls say they were disrespected and that guys come in the clubs to put them down. I've had problems with boyfriends in the past getting weird with me about my job and asking how much I make. Even if u don't make that much money, a lot of men think we do. I think a lot of guys in the club get jealous of the money we make dancing when they have to work 50 hours a week to make that. I've also had issues with staff in these clubs seeing how the girls make money and they don't. I sometimes think that's why guys disrespect us because it hurts their ego deep down to have to hand over money, or to see their stripper girlfriend make more money in a weekend than they made working hard all week.

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    Default Re: I think men are jealous of us sometimes

    I think that's completely true, though I would say this applies to everyone, not just men. Maybe women make it a little more about jealousy in regards to looks or sexuality, but I think they also tend to hate on sex workers because of the amount of money made vs. hours worked. If money wasn't a factor, there wouldn't be so many men/women who hate strippers and others in the adult industry but have no problem with others, or even themselves, getting wild, flashing everyone in the bar, and having one-night stands with strangers in the name of "sexual liberation and freedom."

    But add money to the mix? And suddenly it's "morally" reprehensible and disgusting. People really really hate it when someone makes more money than them for seemingly less work than them. Men maybe react more harshly to it due to wanting to feel like the more powerful "breadwinners" of society. Combine the fact that you're taking money from him in 10 minutes that it took him 3 hours to make with the fact that he's surrounded by women who are in control of their sexuality, and some men just can't handle it.
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    All they really want is to crawl back inside a woman.

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    Default Re: I think men are jealous of us sometimes

    That's why I keep quiet about my income. Man or woman. It's no one's business. People have no idea the bullshit that comes with this job too.

    Anyway, the only person I brag to is my sister. That's it. It's ok, bc I tell her all of the time if she needs money for school expenses/ bills to ask me but she never asked me for money.

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    I think it's partially that and the fact that they could never, ever have a woman like us in real life. Every man wants a beautiful woman at his side, but most don't have the looks, charm or wealth to acquire one. They get rejected by women a lot and they get bitter about it. Here we are, totally unattainable to them plus we make more money than they do. I had one ugly fuck act super rude to me to today for no reason, then complain to the bouncer that there "were no hot girls in the club." Actually in addition to myself, we had some of the best looking dancers come in today...the girls who actually model and shit on top of dancing...Something tells me he just couldn't afford to spend time with any of us. Can we say "BITTER"? lol

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    Default Re: I think men are jealous of us sometimes

    Agreed! Sometimes they also drastically over estimate what we make and how much work and expense goes into this business.

    Obviously, entertaining them isn't considered work. We are clearly loving it. EYE ROLL

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    I think it goes a lot deeper than petty jealousy. I think anyone taking control of their lives and sexuality and profiting from that liberation is going to be the subject of scrutiny. Particularly when an individual subscribes to a victim mentality and feels unable to replicate the seeming freedom and success that many sex workers work for.

    It's an insecurity at best, and outright fear and loathing at the worst.

    It's not just men, it's women, too. I am treated worse by women than by men where jealousy is concerned.

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    All of the above, plus the fact that we can't be honest with our customers about the bullshit that goes along with this job. How dangerous, damaging, and exhausting (physically and emotionally) it is.

    In reality, the (mostly) male* equivalent of sex work would be something like truck driving or working on a commercial fishing boat. High risk, high reward. Terrible hours, physically damaging and often encourages reckless behavior. Men could make the kind of money we make, but most aren't willing to put up with what we put up with.

    Customers think we get paid to have a great time, and the only way to make money is to let them go on thinking that.

    *I'm aware that there are women who work in these industries, just like there are men who work as sex workers. Not trying to erase anyone.
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    The pickup artist scammers and their haters do this all the time! Theyre taught this in seminars. In fact the guy who started them just got banned from some hotels after they got complaints!

    Quote Originally Posted by wednesday86 View Post
    I think it's partially that and the fact that they could never, ever have a woman like us in real life. Every man wants a beautiful woman at his side, but most don't have the looks, charm or wealth to acquire one. They get rejected by women a lot and they get bitter about it. Here we are, totally unattainable to them plus we make more money than they do. I had one ugly fuck act super rude to me to today for no reason, then complain to the bouncer that there "were no hot girls in the club." Actually in addition to myself, we had some of the best looking dancers come in today...the girls who actually model and shit on top of dancing...Something tells me he just couldn't afford to spend time with any of us. Can we say "BITTER"? lol
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    I cannot believe that there are seminars on how to pick up women. If you seriously think that women are some kind of machine whose buttons you have to push in the right order to score, you are a pathetic loser.

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    Default Re: I think men are jealous of us sometimes

    I think it's a lot more insecurity than anything else.

    Guys in the club are insecure about the money they think we're making. They're insecure about the fact that they couldn't actually get our time/attention off the clock. They're insecure about the fact that we ultimately hold the power. To make themselves feel big again, they cling to what little power they do have as a customer.

    Guys outside of work are insecure about the money they know/think we make. They're insecure that they couldn't get with you or, if they have, that you'll find someone better. Then the general insecurity that comes with a partner in sex work.

    Women are insecure because you're hot and get paid more than them for the attention they're already insecure about you receiving for your assets.

    Obviously, this doesn't apply to all people, but that's just my take on the subject. Long story short: a lot of guys are assholes (in and outside the club) and a lot of girls are cunts.
    Exotic dancing is like any other job.
    If you work in an office, you wear dress shoes and a suit.
    If you work in a restaraunt, you wear skid resistant shoes and a uniform.
    If you work in a strip club, you wear 7" stilettos and lycra g-strings.

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    Quote Originally Posted by SkylerScarlett View Post
    The pickup artist scammers and their haters do this all the time! Theyre taught this in seminars. In fact the guy who started them just got banned from some hotels after they got complaints!
    Oh yes, it's quite hilarious when they try to 'neg' me. I know exactly what they're doing...Sorry dudes but insulting me and refusing to give me money isn't going to get you into my panties. Actually it's a turn off because I like those "nice guys" they always claim women hate. The reality is a woman who respects herself expects to be treated like a queen. Their seminars obviously aren't geared toward acquiring a high quality female (too hard and too complicated!) but rather preying on weak and insecure young women.

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    Default Re: I think men are jealous of us sometimes

    Precisely, Wednesday.
    Exotic dancing is like any other job.
    If you work in an office, you wear dress shoes and a suit.
    If you work in a restaraunt, you wear skid resistant shoes and a uniform.
    If you work in a strip club, you wear 7" stilettos and lycra g-strings.

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