So, I want to start off by saying that my boyfriend and I have been in a substantial and committed relationship for just over a year now. We don't have many relationship problems, and we have almost always gotten along. Our relationship is in no way one-sided, and he contributes to it just as much as I do. Where I pick up the slack financially, he does emotionally, and vice versa. I am 19 years old, and he turned 21 today. I'm not sure if it is common in relationships with age difference like this for the younger party to have worries and fears about the other coming of age, but I do. I don't consider myself insecure, but for some reason I worry about him going out to party, getting effed up and doing things he shouldn't. IE, making out with other girls, being irresponsible, drinking and driving. It's an agreement between both of us that, if we find ourselves sexually attracted to someone else, we will discuss the situation, and consider partaking in sexual acts as a group. Some of you may find this odd, but we are both very sexually explorative, and I find it helps to keep a great deal of excitement in our relationship. This kind of thing has only ever happened once or twice, and was always a good experience for everyone involved. I wouldn't go so far as to say we are swingers, but...you get the gist. We do live in a party city. I have had a fake ID (before our relationship) and I know what it's like to go out and struggle in a committed relationship while everyone else is getting wild. I also know that many people would rather attempt driving home drunk than taking a cab and picking the car up the next day. My roommates were often dumb enough, and somehow successful, in doing this multiple times. I am just worried because...what if he meets someone else while out without me and I have to find out about it later? What if he gets a DUI? What if he fails to tell the thirsty women up in the club that he's taken? Which I can guarantee, there will come a time when this is necessary. He is very attractive, a ladies man, and was never into commitment at all before we got together. Has anyone here ever dealt with similar fears? I need a reality check, or something to ease my mind. Thank you ladies for all your help.



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