Let me preface this by saying I'm usually not the type to go to the club, or out at all (Not that there's anything wrong with that) but a few weekends ago some of my friends dragged me out to the local all-nude club. I was having a good time, and walking to the bar to get a drink when I made eye contact with a person in my family I grew up with; we used to hang out all the time, but spend less time together as we grow older.
I walked by a few times, absolutely shitting my pants, making eye contact, because I still wasn't sure if it was her, she didn't look the same in the lighting and with her makeup/hair done. I left that night still unsure of what exactly happened. A few nights ago I went back to the club, because I know she's traveling with her family, and asked one of the girls after buying a dance if she knew my family by the name of ****, she said yes and that she works late nights on Saturdays, confirming my suspicion. My stomach began to hurt, and I had to sit down.
After reading these forums and talking to a few of the girls at the club a bit I now understand that most of you are very happy and liberated by what you do, but I still feel the need to talk to her (Maybe this thanksgiving), and have no idea what to say
What can I say to her to let her know that I love her and support her no matter what she does? If she's happy there, then I want her to know that Im happy, and if not I want her to be able to express that, too. I'm also afraid she thinks I was perving on her, I know we were in a strip club, but I really was trying to look at her face...


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) somehow needs to be 'explained' and 'justified'... it's my impression that's the reason you want to discuss it with her. It's also extremely condescending that you feel you need to take a grown woman aside and discuss whether or she's OK in her job-- she's grown, she takes care of herself, she's made her own choices, she doesn't need to justify or explain anything to you, or have some man sit down and evaluate whether she's made positive life choices.

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