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    Default How do you communicate with clients that need descretion?

    I have a high profile client who's assistant gets all his emails and texts and is also married. He told me to email him to schedule our next arrangement and make sound like business but I'm at a loss at what to say so I'm thinking of just waiting until he reaches out to me. Any advice with this or know if an app I can recommend he uses? He can't get a burner phone I recommended that already.
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    Default Re: How do you communicate with clients that need descretion?

    Can't he get a burner phone?
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    Default Re: How do you communicate with clients that need descretion?

    I mentioned it but apparently not

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    Default Re: How do you communicate with clients that need descretion?

    Don't get in to too much detail and you'll be fine. Write that you'd like to schedule a follow up meeting at his convenience and then include any of your own scheduling limitations and sign off with your escort name. Done. Oh, and make sure your email address isn't googleable in case his assistant gets curious!

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    Default Re: How do you communicate with clients that need descretion?

    Consultation and rate card.

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    Please confirm your attendance

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    Default Re: How do you communicate with clients that need descretion?

    thanks ladies, i don't get the feeling he expects me to jump through hoops but it would have definitely been easier if instead of taking his card, i said take my email and contact me when you're ready instead. Im going to write something similar to what Shanna recommended.

    Would you leave your phone number also in the email? I'm thinking if i can give him an outlets to reach me at, then i don't have to reach out beyond the first hello.

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    Default Re: How do you communicate with clients that need descretion?

    It's pretty standard to sign off an email with a signature consisting of your name and contact info, so you could certainly include your number that way. Like with the email address, just make sure it's not googleable.

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    Default Re: How do you communicate with clients that need descretion?

    How do you ensure an address isn't googlable?


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    Default Re: How do you communicate with clients that need descretion?

    I'm not "high profile" by any stretch, but as someone who owns a small business in a very sensitive field, is married and with an office manager who has access to all of my emails and does much of my scheduling, here's my two cents fwiw.

    He is a moron if he thinks that his assistant is going to be fooled by a generic email appointment request. People who I don't know do not come out of the blue and request a meeting with no specific purpose, nor do they usually send me emails from non-corporate email domains. I am sure that the same is true for him and some unknown gmail account with some generic appointment request is going to set off bells for his AA. She may ask and he give her some BS excuse and tell her to put it in his calendar, but she's going to know that something is up.

    If he is really that high profile, then this could come back to bite him, and maybe even you, in the ass someday. If I were you, I wouldn't go down this road at all. If he wants to fuck around without anyone knowing, then he really needs to develop private ways to communicate (burner phone, private email account). It is not that hard to do.

    Good luck!

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    Default Re: How do you communicate with clients that need descretion?

    ^I have to agree with Rick. I have had over a hundred escorting clients and no one has ever requested this of me, and if they did, I would tell them to f* off.

    It's my responsibility to keep contact information my clients give me, such as name, location, contact info, whatever, stored privately and securely, so that if my phone or my computer gets hacked they don't have to worry about being tracked down.

    However, this is just ridiculous. Why on Earth can't this man just get a burner phone or even just create a new private email on gmail that he uses? 95% of my clients have one or the other. It takes 5 minutes. He's a big boy, he can make his own appointments.

    If you want my honest opinion, there are a lot of guys out there who get off on this idea of being caught-- I've had people send me emails where they say, I will give you $x if you call my wife and tell her I've been seeing escorts. If you actually get back to them, it's all talk. It wouldn't surprise me if this guy is just excited by the thought of his secretary finding out what he's up to and has no intention of actually booking with you.

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    Default Re: How do you communicate with clients that need descretion?

    Quote Originally Posted by pipermonroe View Post
    How do you ensure an address isn't googlable?
    Don't post it on your website or online ads.

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    Default Re: How do you communicate with clients that need descretion?

    thanks guys i totally agree with Rick and Audrey and have decided not to contact him

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    Default Re: How do you communicate with clients that need descretion?

    Quote Originally Posted by queenv View Post
    thanks guys i totally agree with Rick and Audrey and have decided not to contact him
    Good idea. I agree with them as well - why can't he just make a personal email account? It's free and takes a whole 2 minutes to set up some hotmail or yahoo account that no one would ever have access to if he's smart about deleting his browser history on his personal computer. There's no reason for you to go through some elaborate process to keep his secret when he's probably smart enough to do it himself. Not worth the hassle!
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    Default Re: How do you communicate with clients that need descretion?

    Get a burner phone just for him, Send an phone message with your stage name and that number. If the assistant calls, have a backstory ready to go (something in his industry like a student doing research or something...maybe a new trade magazine or vendor).

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    Default Re: How do you communicate with clients that need descretion?

    >I have a high profile client who's assistant gets all his emails and texts and is also married.

    If he can't figure out how to contact an escort without anyone knowing, I'm not confident in his ability to run a business. I would send the "meeting request" and if an appointment actually comes of it, tell him that he needs to figure out other avenues. It's the 21st century, this isn't difficult.
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