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    So to make a long story short when I first started camming a couple of months ago I stupidly gave out some contact info to a few customers because I had no idea it was against the rules.

    After reading more into it I saw that it was and I haven't given any contact info out, and when I did it was to about only 5 guys.

    So my dillema is I told my boyfriend about it.

    I am in an abusive relationship and I am going to leave him soon, but he has threatened to report what I did to streamate months ago as a way to punish me and keep me here.

    Streamate is my only source of income and I am terrified to get banned because of this and really be on the street.

    I don't want to be too descriptive because he does stalk my actions online but I cannot leave without having income and I cannot explain why but I can only do camming right now, no other jobs are an option.

    What can I do to ensure that I dont get banned? Should I close the old account and make a new one right away? What options do I have?

    He has hacked into my emails and even my streamate account before and that's how he even found the old messages. I deleted them and I don't think he took screenshots but I don't know if he did,

    Please help me while you still can...

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    Well for one you need to protect your computer. You need to make sure you change your passwords on your computer, email, streamate account etc.

    YOU won't know if your banned from streamate until you are trying to log back in. You need to find ways to distance yourself from your ex and do not use streamate customers as a way of trying to hint to them you want to communicate with them or even tell them how you are in abusive relationship.

    If streamate is your only source of income then you need to protect it. You might want to register on another cam site build income on there since you seem to be able to work webcam whenever you can. You will definitely have to clear your browser history EVERY time you use your computer to work webcam. I think now some browsers have incognito.

    Then you might want to connect with the national dosmetic abuse hotline and see what you can do to make a serious plan of leaving, leaving soon tells me you have made no plans to leave and your leaving yourself open to lose your income. I get it I was in abusive situation 10 years ago but I always protected my income when I got any.
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    God minnie thank you so much for replying. I have been sitting here shaking and crying. He keeps hovering around, looking at my screen, making nasty comments, I tried to protect myself as much as I can but I don't know how protected I am. He somehow ALWAYS find my passwords for EVERYTHING and almost brags about it. If I lock my computer password he will FLIP OUT about it so I don't know how to fully protect my information right now...

    It makes me feel so much better not feeling so alone. I already know I am in for it tonight. I want to leave within the week it's just so hard to. I wish I could explain more I just don't want to give myself away.

    Also so do you think that if I get reported by him I will get banned?

    Does anyone else have any advice or info? I feel so alone and scared right now

    I will look up that number, it's just going to be impossible. We are in the same earshot of eachother 24 / 7 since he is unemployed. I don't know how I am going to pull off getting away without getting hurt or most of my belonging being destroyed that I need to survive.

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    Is there no way you can just leave? Go stay with family until you get on your feet? He is showing signs of being dangerous and may try to hurt you if/when you leave. You need to get out if you can, maybe to a woman's shelter. They can help you if you have nowhere else to turn. Better to get out now before he turns more psycho.


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    Quote Originally Posted by laurielegs View Post
    Is there no way you can just leave? Go stay with family until you get on your feet? He is showing signs of being dangerous and may try to hurt you if/when you leave. You need to get out if you can, maybe to a woman's shelter. They can help you if you have nowhere else to turn. Better to get out now before he turns more psycho.
    Thanks for the reply, my family relationships were never great without going into much detail... and I would not be able to go to a woman's shelter because of reasons I can't mention either. I wish I could I am just so scared what will happen to me if he finds out this is me writing this.

    I am so scared, he has already been throwing things at me and he told me before he wants to kill me multiple times. I am afraid if I do leave he will find me at my family's home and kill me or them...

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    Get some more eggs in your basket. Sign up for other sites, incase the rare chance he gets you banned. If I were you I'd message support and own up what you did, explain you didn't know it was against the rules and that you shitbag boyfriend is trying to ruin your life. Nothing came about it, giving users your contact info, blah blah blah. They sometimes are really understanding.


    This sucks, I wish you luck and safety on leaving this toxic relationship. Call the domestic abuse hotline to get options. If you have no where to go, reach out to online communities to see if anyone in your area or surrounding area can help you.

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    Yea the best thing you can do is be silent and secretive.. find other ways of making income.. diversify your cam.. then he has NO power over you.. if he is physically abusive then you need to go.. THIS IS YOUR LIFE WE ARE TALKING ABOUT!...more important than income on a cam site.
    Plan your strategy.

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    I would message sm that your bf has been hacking your account because he doesnt like what you do - blame it on him that he set u up with the customer contacts - say he did it - and please get out - many many times women leave and the abusive asshole moves on to the next victim --- call the police from the bathroom with the shower running - tell them he is keeping you against your will and has threatened your life - have them come and escort you out of the house - stay strong - you are worth it


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    I'm 100% with what Nikki just said. My best friend's boyfriend of several years turned abusive (and not even to the level you're experiencing), so she finally went to the cops. They sent two armed officers inside the house to help her pack her things and get them into her car/their cruisers. They helped her get any pets. They went on record for him yelling at her and helped her get a restraining order. When he broke it, they immediately took him to jail within minutes of her calling. If you call right this minute, they will get you out and into a shelter.

    Shelters have advocates. Those advocates can get you into low-to-free income housing temporarily until you get back on your feet. My very good friend works at one and literally has her crisis line phone on 24/7 to pick up people living several towns over and get them into safe houses.

    If you can't get all your stuff, get what you can't live without. The cops will know what's there and you can make it clear you think it will be destroyed if left. They will act as your witnesses to what's there when you leave or take extra time to help you get things. They'll go back with you to get the rest later. They stayed with my friend and I while we got her things for two hours.

    You need to get out. I know it seems like there are reasons you can't right now and you're afraid, but the law is on your side.


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    Even if you've got a criminal record of some sort, there has to be a way to get you help. Even if you're under-age. Maybe if you tell us what your big secret is, we can come up with some ideas to find you some help. Also, you may want to get your computer checked. Your bf may have installed a key-logger on it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by wetkisses View Post
    Thanks for the reply, my family relationships were never great without going into much detail... and I would not be able to go to a woman's shelter because of reasons I can't mention either. I wish I could I am just so scared what will happen to me if he finds out this is me writing this.

    I am so scared, he has already been throwing things at me and he told me before he wants to kill me multiple times. I am afraid if I do leave he will find me at my family's home and kill me or them...
    Forget camming you need to get yourself to a safe place right now! Stop making excuses for yourself you can do_____________. (fill in the blank with what ever you want.) Men kill women all the time in situations like these. You need to get out now! Dont try to fix streamate or get other cam work you can focus on that later. You need to get away from this psycho!

    Leaving an abusive man is the most dangerous situation in an abusive relationship so DO NOT do it alone. Call the police or a womans shelter right this moment. You will be allowed to take what you need and you will be given food, shelter and some money for the immediate future. They will also help you to get back on your feet and get your own place. You have no excuse! This man does not care about you. Your family isnt helping you so who is going to care about you?? You Are! Your love for yourself is all the love you need! Start loving and caring about yourself and call police and a women shelter right now or contact them online through your computer right now!

    And please dont disappear and leave us all worried that something happened.

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    When you're calling 911 act like you're ordering a pizza. Tell them the address, and then say you'd like a medium 10" pizza with only cheese (or whatever he likes). Thy are trained to know what you mean. He does indeed have a keylogger on your computer, he will see everything you type so you need to call the police now before he reads anything.

    EDIT: I wanted to add that what he is doing is blackmail. You can report this to the police, or to the FBI. Talk to a lawyer to see if they can issue a gag order on him about the Streamate rule breaking. Do not tell Streamate!!! They will not be understanding. Keep it to yourself, they're not very likely to go through your entire history to check. Have you seen Streamate support? They're so lazy.

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    ^^^^THIS is brilliant! both the pizza and the blackmail part!

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    SM has the ability to read all chat & emails. If you have not been suspended by now, you won't be. So you are letting him guilt you over NOTHING! They would have suspended you for a few days if you were to get into trouble.

    Since you have not repeatedly done this since then, would not give it a second thought.

    Worst case scenario even if you were to get fired there are several other cam sites on the web. Once you left, cause why should he know who you work for in the future. Sign up to a new one & work the hell out of the new girl status. Customers are pretty much a member of most of them. Won't take regulars to find you on a different site. After you leave sign up to a different cam site once a week & work the new girl status on each one of them. Figure out which ones are a like in hustle & cam more than one site at a time.

    Most important thing is to Leave TODAY! Not tomorrow. Get far as far away as you can. If he beats you one more time it could mean death or months in a hospital. Once you leave the more likely he will hunt you down & beat or kill you. This type of guy don't want to lose their power or ability to control the people they abuse.

    Call the police, they will point you to the right people to get you placed somewhere safe. If anything else have them drop you off at a bus stop & get as far away as you can. Do you have a friend or relative in a different state? All you need is your IDs & computer, the rest you can replace. Change your phone number & email addresses. Make it hard for him to find you ever again. I know you are probably holding out for one or two big pay checks, but you can always make money once you leave. After all, when you are back on your own, the hustle can begin. Thus your income will become unlimited & you can work 60 hours a week on cam, making clips, marketing & such. Right now, the money you make is little compared to what you can do once you leave.

    In order to change your password on a regular bases is easy & not write it down. Do a nursery rhyme, use the first phrase, then move onto the next one when you need to change it again. This will keep him from guessing it.

    When you do leave, find help, a good free councilor to help you move on mentally. Many people go from one abusive relationship to another, you don't want to do that again.

    Good Luck,
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    Clear out your history & cookies after being on this site. Make it a habit to clear out cookies & history before you log off everytime too to be careful.

    Never let the computer save passwords for you.

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    Reading this made me think of the abusive relationship I used to be in. He never physically beat me, but he controlled everything I did. I wasn't a cam girl when I dated him though...that would have never went over with him. Even so, he would constantly go through my things...question everything I did...if I didn't text or call him back right away, then I got accused of sleeping around on him. It was pure hell. I'll never know why I dealt with it as long as I did, but getting out of a situation like that is so invigorating! I will NEVER put myself through anything like that again...no one deserves to be treated like property. Relationships are about being with someone who makes you a better person, someone you can share YOUR life with, not someone who tries to own you. No one should try to control you or tell you how to live your life. No one has that right! It is YOUR life and you shouldn't have to answer to anyone ever! If you are in a toxic relationship like that, GET OUT! It will do nothing but kill you slowly. You deserve so much better.

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    The first thing abusive people do is convince you that you are wrong all the time & cant live without them.

    Let him continue to think he can get you fired.



    Las Vegas has SM ran studios. The law there is you can't cam from your home, you have to do it from a studio. Once you leave him & in a temporary shelter, contact Liz or Vanessa to find out where they are. Then get on a bus, it will take a while to get there, but a plane ticket is expensive. Find a cheap hotel near the SM studios & take a bus or walk to get there. Then you can pull double & triple shifts to make the money you need in a month or more in order to build up enough money to get a car, apartment & live anywhere you want.

    I suggest this, because the computer maybe his. The studios in Vegas will have the computer, internet & web cam, so no expense out of your pocket for those things.

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    The first thing abusive people do is convince you that you are wrong all the time & cant live without them.

    Let him continue to think he can get you fired.



    Las Vegas has SM ran studios. The law there is you can't cam from your home, you have to do it from a studio. Once you leave him & in a temporary shelter, contact Liz or Vanessa to find out where they are. Then get a one way plane or bus ticket, which ever one is cheaper. Find a cheap hotel near the SM studios & take a bus or walk to get there. Then you can pull double & triple shifts to make the money you need in a month or more in order to build up enough money to get a car, apartment & live anywhere you want.

    I suggest this, because the computer maybe his. The studios in Vegas will have the computer, internet & web cam, so no expense out of your pocket for those things.

    good Luck,
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    Quote Originally Posted by anoncamgirl View Post
    When you're calling 911 act like you're ordering a pizza. Tell them the address, and then say you'd like a medium 10" pizza with only cheese (or whatever he likes). Thy are trained to know what you mean. He does indeed have a keylogger on your computer, he will see everything you type so you need to call the police now before he reads anything.

    EDIT: I wanted to add that what he is doing is blackmail. You can report this to the police, or to the FBI. Talk to a lawyer to see if they can issue a gag order on him about the Streamate rule breaking. Do not tell Streamate!!! They will not be understanding. Keep it to yourself, they're not very likely to go through your entire history to check. Have you seen Streamate support? They're so lazy.
    This! Thank you so much. When I read the article about this recently, I thought to myself "that is so smart". Link to the article here. http://tinyurl.com/m329kht

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    Update??? Hope all is well

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    thank you all so much for your replies, I cannot leave a long reply as I have been being monitored unfortunately.

    I am getting things in order to leave, but I can guarantee streamate is going to be the best income for me of any site I will ever have. This is especially true right now.

    I just need to ask again what are the chances of being banned from streamate now?


    Would it just be a suspension even if they did?

    What else can

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    thank you all so much for your replies, I cannot leave a long reply as I have been being monitored unfortunately.

    I am getting things in order to leave, but I can guarantee streamate is going to be the best income for me of any site I will ever have. This is especially true right now.

    I just need to ask again what are the chances of being banned from streamate now?

    Would it just be a suspension even if they did?

    How likely is it? I have not sent any contact info since August

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    Double post again!
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    Quote Originally Posted by Sam38g View Post
    SM has the ability to read all chat & emails. If you have not been suspended by now, you won't be. So you are letting him guilt you over NOTHING! They would have suspended you for a few days if you were to get into trouble.

    Since you have not repeatedly done this since then, would not give it a second thought.
    I agree with Sam. If they were going to suspend you then it would have been done already. If your asking about the chance of suspension in the case of your boyfriend reporting you then Im afraid no one here knows the percentage of that happening. I would take the advice of Nikki_fox and send them a "heads up" email. This does not have to be a confession email. Just tell them that you are currently leaving an abusive relationship and your boyfriend has been threatening (blackmailing you) to report you to SM for breaking rules in an attempt to have your account suspended and ask that you be contacted in the case that he does email them. Im sure they have had this sort of thing happen before. I would email Vanessa or Liz directly with this.

    The SM rules state that exchanging personal information with clients with the intent to meet them is not allowed and will result in a full suspension of your account. That is written right into their code of conduct. If, in the worse case scenario, they decide to suspend you then you have no one but yourself to blame for not having read and understood the rules when starting on the site. Even if this results in the worse case scenario you need to get the fuck out! There are plenty of other resources out there so stop letting this scare you and get on with it.

    Thank you for responding back with an update. Please continue to be in touch, this story is one many of us have faced and we really do care that you continue to be safe and get away from this asshole!

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