I have been going to the same hair gal for probably 5-6 years now and I just adore her but lately I haven't been very thrilled with my hair. Well, frankly, I'm never thrilled with my hair but in the past year I feel like she hasn't been doing what I ask. I always bring in pictures of what I want in terms of color and lately I leave the salon looking nothing like what I asked for. The results I'm getting are too subtle for my taste; I've been trying to get blonder and blonder from my naturally dark blonde/mousy brown shade and it still just isn't blonde enough. At one point I asked for different shades of gold, platinum, and some reddish tones and I left just my typical golden-y dark blonde somehow. It always looks OK when I leave the salon after she's done it but a few washes later I'm just like "Is there even a difference at all?" I'm really wanting to get to a cool, ashy blonde shade but I'm wondering if it's time to find a new hairstylist. The problem is I am sooooo super loyal and I feel kind of guilty and like I'm cheating on her wanting to find a new hair lady! I know that's silly. I have given her many chances in the last year to do what I want and I'm not getting it. How many ways can I say "I WANT TO BE BLONDER. STRIPPER BLONDE. NO, EVEN BLONDER THAN THAT." She'll give me a quick explanation of what colors she'll use and it all sounds fine but then I just look blah afterwards. I've gotten a few recommendations from others on new hair ladies to try but it's scary to go to someone new. The hair gal I go to now is practically my therapist; she knows all about my relationship, me, stripping. She gives me great prices and wine when she does my hair and listens to me babble and is just awesome all around...except my hair is not exciting me anymore. So it really bums me out that I'm even having to consider trying someone new.
Does anyone have experience with this kind of situation? I would really like to stay with her; I just don't know if I'm not being clear enough about what I want or if she privately thinks what I want isn't reasonable or wouldn't look good on me so she alters what I ask for. I don't know if I should be straight up and say "Look, I'm thinking about going to another hair stylist because I don't feel like I'm getting what I want here in terms of my hair color." Would that wake her up maybe? In terms of my look, I have very fair skin that I spray tan, and light blue eyes so I think light, cool blonde would look good on me. I know it will be a lot of upkeep but I've always felt more like myself being blonde. What should I do?
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Tactful and direct whilst pointing out what you love about your stylist.



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