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    Default Cultivating regulars when everyone just wants OTC?

    I've never been a dancer who makes the majority of my $$ from regulars. I've always had a few, but nothing major. Lately I'm having issues with guys thinking I'm actually interested in them/would be open to seeing them OTC. It's not typical time waster stuff either. These guys will often spend lots of $$, but then they expect me to date them and get offended when I refuse. It's weird as hell. I've tried several different hustles, but basically every customer I hang out with for a longer period of time lately seems to expect that we'll be hanging out and dating, and it's so weird they met me in a strip club or whatever. Help?

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    Default Re: Cultivating regulars when everyone just wants OTC?

    Do many of the other dancers in your club see their customers OTC? IME some clubs have customers with higher expectations from being a regular simply because enough dancers are willing to do more --- you often see this with extras, but also sometimes with spending time together OTC.

    My club, for example, has quite a few dancers who see their customers OTC for dinner/drinks, often for free, so it's not at all unusual for customers, especially after they've started seeing you regularly, to ask for that. Once it's clear a dancer doesn't do that, sometimes they continue getting dances and are ok with that, but sometimes they just move on to someone else who might be willing to see them OTC.

    There's not much that can be done about them when they know exactly what they're looking for. Stringing them along usually only works for so long before they move on.

    Maybe try a different club to see if it's just your club?

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    Default Re: Cultivating regulars when everyone just wants OTC?

    This ^^^^. Sounds like the customers in your club have been trained to expect this. Could be for illicit shit or just idiot dancers spending PG time w/ them for free. I think you should try another club, since you'll be hard-pressed to find customers at your current place willing to 'settle for less'

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    Default Re: Cultivating regulars when everyone just wants OTC?

    This is not a nice recommendation, but I would either string guys along (semi-dishonest hustle) OR just play with their heads. (Big head, that is...) Basically figure out what kind of person he is and play on THAT. Some guys go in there for the specific fantasy of having a hot girl "say" she is going home with them..even if she isn't.

    To put it in perspective....when most of you dancers ARE NOT working and going out to a nice bar for drinks and recreation...Don't you get tons of stares and attention from guys? You probably do...It's the male fantasy that some hot girl will just fall into his lap and go home with him. What a woman can get effortlessly, a man can often only dream of....

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    Default Re: Cultivating regulars when everyone just wants OTC?

    This is the reason I can't hang on to regulars either. Even if they (say) they don't want sex otc, they always want to "hang out" and I know some of the dancers do hang out with their regulars otc. I never have and never will so I mostly rely on new sales. I still do fine...and honestly even my longest lasting regulars ended up being super needy pains in my ass. Really more trouble than they're worth.

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    Default Re: Cultivating regulars when everyone just wants OTC?

    It's probably this city.

    Subscribing to this thread because that would be the dream. Big spenders not always 'needing' more from you. Yep, that's the dream..

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    Default Re: Cultivating regulars when everyone just wants OTC?

    Quote Originally Posted by Zooey View Post
    ... but then they expect me to date them and get offended when I refuse.
    Why in the world would these guys expect you to DATE them?! Don't THEY realize that stripping is, first and foremost, a GODDAMN JOB?!





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    Default Re: Cultivating regulars when everyone just wants OTC?

    I think as the economy and times change more girls are turning into hybrid strippers/escorts and some customers want to do something with that hard dick they got from watching you dance. At least they are attempting to take their extracurriculars outside the club but still it can be draining when constantly encountering guys that want more than dancing

    Sucks because at least 70% of customers ask me out for either a 'date', private party dancing, or flat out sex. It's so fucking annoying cause if I didn't tell you that's what I'm offering I don't want to be asked. Most of them don't have enough money worth my time even listening to their bs offers.

    I hold out for and appreciate the 30% of men who enjoy my company IN the club and love seeing me dance for them. As long as travelers come to the area and the club stays open then it should be no problem to get these guys.
    “Cook for him like a housewife, fuck him good like a nympho….pay the rent and the car note, he invests in me like crypto”

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    Crossfingers Re: Cultivating regulars when everyone just wants OTC?

    Yeah... There are a lot of extras in this club/area, and most dancers I know go out for dinner at the very least with their big spending regulars. I just don't have the patience to build up regulars if it means I need to spend several nights a week OTC going on fake dates for free. This has all been super helpful though... Fortunately I do well enough without a ton of regs, but sometimes it seems like having consistent regulars is the easier/smarter way to hustle.

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    Default Re: Cultivating regulars when everyone just wants OTC?

    Quote Originally Posted by Jay12 View Post
    Why in the world would these guys expect you to DATE them?! Don't THEY realize that stripping is, first and foremost, a GODDAMN JOB?!
    Yes, but some girls will legitimately date the guys they meet ITC. Which makes no sense to me, but whatever. I know at least 5 dancers at my current club who met their boyfriends as customers.

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    Default Re: Cultivating regulars when everyone just wants OTC?

    Some dancers are also escorts hence why they "date" their customers. For these girls this is like another 'job' or another line of income.

    But also there are some girls who manage to have more traditional type monogamous relationships with someone they met as a customer first
    but I imagine this scenario is far more rare.
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