INFJ but I'm sure I used to be INFP (besides which the difference was only slight)





INFJ but I'm sure I used to be INFP (besides which the difference was only slight)
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I'm the same way. While I like people and like interacting with them, it's exhausting. My core time is spent with my animals, who are perfect company. They're so loving and so playful, but also don't care how I look and don't expect me to make pointless small talk or irritate me with stupid shit.
I also do things the way they make sense to me, rather than relying on convention. My bedroom is actually my living room. My apartment has an open floorplan and is hard to ferretproof. The bedroom is easier and the cat box is in the closet so... I turned the bedroom into the pet's room. It makes sense to me, but everyone thinks I'm nuts.
I was brought into a family of extroverts and... it's hard being the odd one. They don't get why work wears me out, they don't get why my animals are so important to me and they don't understand why I'd rather stay home and read, rather than go out. They've accepted it, but they don't get it.
INFP as well, which is what I always get when I take that test. I think it explains a lot of why I consider escorting easier than stripping nowadays. I do much better with the one-on-one interaction in a mellow setting rather than a loud, club atmosphere and lots of random people.
Don't try to win over the haters. You are not the Jerk Whisperer.
Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you.




Love this thread! I always have heard about this test but never took it. I am ESFJ.![]()





Can we make this a survey with all the options listed? I would be interested to see the percentages on SW types... Or I could post the types and you can thank the post with your type on it? I would love to see whos in which groups too![]()




I was wondering, since there are so many I's, and N's...
Introversion/extraversion is a Big Deal in pop media. Plus Myers Briggs. Does anyone care to share what affects being an introverted salesperson has had on your personal life?
Or, if you've done the research, what being an N vs an S has meant relative to your professional/personal life? This isn't something where the literature is as publicized, but since N's seem to be well represented here..





This is probably a clone of what I posted in the "stripping and antisocial" thread, but here it is again. Since I hate people in general, if I work too many shifts I will get extremely bitter and cynical... INTJs tend to see most people as beneath them; strip club customers are often the scum of the earth without my own bias, so it's like a double whammy, and I can only take so much of having to talk to them. I usually drive home with no music and sometimes want nothing to do with anyone. I often find myself unable to look people in the eye after work. I rarely go out anymore because the idea of being stuck in a club around a bunch of simpletons (for free!) is absurd.
Slow shifts at work will sometimes send me into a funk at home. You all know that most of the time we can't control how dead the club is, but I always have to find a rational way to fix things, so when there's literally NOTHING I can do, it's extremely frustrating.
"People jack off with the left hand and point with the right."
"You can check out any time you like, but you can never leave."




I have an "I" and walking up to a group is pretty much impossible. I thrive with one-on-one sales on less busy nights. My best nights are usually Sunday and Tuesday. Weekends make my head explode.
Plus, during the weekends, customers and staff tend to get pretty demanding, and as an INTP, I never quite left my teenaged angst stage. By the end of the night, I just want to scream, "DONT TELL ME WHAT TO DO GODDAMIT! YOURE NOT THE BOSS OF ME!"




The relationship between my job and personal life as an INTP (sorry that I can't specifically break it down to I and N) is that I'm always drained and crave retreating into the internet next to my SO with our chinchilla hopping around. Also, socializing is an exhausting performance for me both in and out of the club. I usually seem extroverted to others when I do talk to them, but it's all a huge draining act. And I get performance anxiety almost every time. INTP forums suggest the combination of being drained by socializing yet overanalyzing and 'performing' is pretty normal. Descriptions of INTPs often fail to say that we can be 'class clown' types, but a lot of us are apparently.
I think if I weren't a stripper I'd socialize a little more because I wouldn't be so burnt out on interactions/performing, but would definitely still have social anxiety. And I probably wouldn't be spoiled by getting paid to do tedious/nervewracking performances. I'd just be a late night tollbooth operator or something. Dream job after I have to quit stripping.
Exactly this! The older I get the more "I" I get it seems. I hate approaching groups and I hate crowds. I will say though, the freedom of scheduling and not having a real 'boss' is probably what keeps me coming back to dancing. I can't stand being led by someone I don't respect and there's not a lot of people I do respect. That's why I can't work at clubs where management is all up in my business. At my club as long as I show up on the days I say I will and pay my house fees, they leave me alone.




Weirdly I do great with groups now, but at first I hated them. I used to work in a wanna-dance club where bachelor party hustle was key on weekends so I figured it was necessary to get over. IDK if any of you crowd haters feel handicapped by it at work, but just in case you do I'll tell you what worked for me.
My most successful routine was something super cheesy like "What's the occasion boys?" "Oh, I love that you perverts just came in to see naked girls, who needs a dance the most?" [group nominates the geek or whatever]/"Great, now who's gonna buy the birthday boy/bachelor his first dance!" then when the dance is done whispering coyly to whoever goes first "Who are you gonna nominate for the next dance?" Usually you can bounce around the entire group. But that's just what worked for me after I did a lot of overthinking/testing. Your thing could be different, or you could just not bother with crowds.
Sorry for the tangent, I just read a lot of "I don't do groups" and I love and desperately miss group hustle clubs. I've definitely gone on about it in other threads too.
^I do a similar hustle for groups, especially bachelor parties. I can work a group but I don't enjoy it..especially the young ones. They're very...........loud.




Hahah yeah. I wasn't trying to imply that the crowd haters in this thread can't handle a crowd (seems like there aren't any newbs responding), but since I learned half of what I know about stripping from lurking I like returning the favor in case it helps any 'lurkers like me.' I can see where the advice would sound out of touch level condescending to the people actually posting though, lol.




^ Yay!!
Yeah it's amazing how accurate these descriptions are!
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I forgot to add that I also really, really do not like groups. I actively loathe them actually. I think it's because they come off as idiotic and immature, thinking they're hot shit for throwing some ones on a girl, and they usually want to be "impressed" by tits in the face/twerking for their measly $1 bills.. to which I scoff.
In my logical brain I know how to handle groups, but I choose not to deal with them because I find them annoying.
Lately I have been really playing off the "everyone is beneath me"/leadership qualities from being an INTJ, especially if it's been a slow day. I can get to the point of almost verbally abusive because I'm really not interested in anything but efficiently collecting their money, and I've started basically bullying guys into doing what I want. If they hem and haw, I turn ice queen and stop talking to them whilst watching the stage instead (like it's more interesting than they are now). They often get dances within 30 seconds because they then want my attention back.
Also, my club is very regulars/barflies heavy during the day, and while I like day shift and one-on-one with older guys, I cannot STAND "networking" and "schmoozing". The DJ is always asking why I don't hustle the bar... because again, it's not efficient to me to invest half an hour into a guy for $30 in dances (what most of them are good for) and risk missing out on a much bigger spender. I'm literally incapable of paying attention to someone's bullshit for that long, I zone out after about 2 songs. Also, when you talk to someone that long, they start asking personal questions and I HATE that. I even hate answering with lies, because it still feels intrusive that they even asked. I have no real regulars for these reasons, and I'm okay with that.
"People jack off with the left hand and point with the right."
"You can check out any time you like, but you can never leave."
I know right, while I was reading it all I was thinking is wow, this is so me. Especially the parts about getting bored and forgetting what I'm already working on for something new, not being able to stay focused because I'm always looking for something new to try, and sympathizing with people for sure.




My boyfriend is an ENFP. He's actually told me that if he stripped he'd be obsessed with becoming the master of twerking. (He is actually great at twerking.) I think his greatest challenges would be what you guys have said too. Funny. Too bad he HATES Myers Briggs so I can't share this with him.
Anyway, one of my best friends is ENFP too. I bet I'd think you guys were awesome IRL.








I only have one regular. Same reason as above, I hate getting into my personal life. Can't I just dance, then you pay me and go away?





I would like to but it feels like it's a very hard market to get into... from the little I've read in the other forums here, it sounds like it's saturated with girls. I considered doing dom work in a dungeon as well but another dancer who had done that was telling me how it's risky, as far as some of the stuff the guys wanted done vs. possibility of accidental injury and lawsuit. Don't know how accurate that is though.
"People jack off with the left hand and point with the right."
"You can check out any time you like, but you can never leave."




Findom is rough to get into intentionally from what I've heard. Most people who do well sense and seize opportunities with existing clients, then spread word of mouth. Anytime I pull off a 'You are scum' hustle I test it out but can't really commit, so I love to live vicariously through people who really own it.
To prevent this from being such an egregious threadjack, do any MBTI geeks still reading have compatibility theories to share, in regards to sex work or in general?



From the fairly limited experience I have had with escorting so far, I like it better than stripping and I have an INTP personality too. So interesting how so many successful sex workers are introverts. I may be wrong, but I think introverted personality types are less common than extroverted??? IDK though, but it's kinda cool
"These lumps- I know you wanna slump up on these lumps! But you can't cause you're a chump- a chuuuump."
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