


Audrey,
From your post history, the evaluation is so "YOU", that it's kind of frightening.
Of course i had the same reaction to my evaluation.





I think sex work attracts introverts because it rarely requires a 40 hour work week, leaving more time alone.
I'm an ENTJ.
I do see a lot of myself in the description but I don't like that I apparently share the same personality type as Margaret fucking Thatcher![]()



I think the answer to everyone's questions about introverts and stripping/camwork is this....
No one uses their real identity stripping, on cam, or escorting, so in effect, you are wearing a mask, a false persona so that your real identity is protected.
I used to fill-in for a character guy at my wifes employer. The character wore a fuzzy blue animal costume and was fully enclosed. I found that shyness completely went away when i was in costume and I found it somewhat gratifying to be able to interact openly with complete stangers without embarassment.
You see the very same thing online. No one knows who you really are, and being anonymous allows us to openly speak of things we might be too ambarassed to speak of in person.
There is a problem I have seen in one or two instances, and I would caution those in this , or any other industry, where you wear a false personality as a course of life.
Just as in law enforcment, where an undercover officer can be so wrapped up in the lie that allows him to do his job, that her veers from things he would normally do, a sex-worker can be drawn by money, ego, or "The Rush", into doing something that there normal day to day personality would find distasteful, or just plain wrong. This act when looked at by the real life persona can have a devastating effect.
I guess the important thing to keep in mind is that your "Mask Persona" should never truly rule your life and the thing you do, np matter how hard up you are for money or sucess, the price, if your real persona dislikes it, is likely to be far too high. If in desperation you must cross that line, get back on the right side as quickly as possible, in order to minimize the damage. If you must justify an act to yourself, or others that you normally agree with, your false persona is probably being allowed too much say in your life.
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^^I want to know your type though! Probably weird of me, lol.





My thoughts exactly.
Tour, that's interesting you say the extroverts burn out faster. I wonder why since they like people more than the introverts...
I don't burn out as long as I have some way I can keep making work a "project" or competition of some kind, with problems to solve. On the other hand, I do generally take 5-6 days off in a row each month so that I can come back down out of stripper brain (which is super hyper, get shit done mode) and go back into introvert mode.
"People jack off with the left hand and point with the right."
"You can check out any time you like, but you can never leave."




I've read that introverts tend to do better with one-on-one sales, and no matter how many groups you encounter in the club, almost every dance/VIP sold is to an individual. Maybe this is because extraverts get bored spending so much of their time interacting with one customer at a time?
I could see where a lot of extraverts would do great presenting a sales pitch to a large group, though. Like some sort of high level, corporate sales job. To be fair though, I've seen extraverted coworkers do extremely well teaming up and hustling groups, which is the closest you can get to that dynamic in a strip club. I'm talking insanely high earners. Unfortunately a lot of these dancers do a ton of extras, but I've had the awesome experience of getting pulled into a room with a couple groups where they didn't do any extras. The way they played off each other to keep the customers entertained for hours was inspiring, and I regret that it's just not my thing.





I just know I run out of ideas to be entertaining very quickly when presented with even 2 guys at the same time. It is much easier to forge a connection with one single guy where you can analyze his every reaction and adjust your approach accordingly.
"People jack off with the left hand and point with the right."
"You can check out any time you like, but you can never leave."



If you think about extroverts, they go into the club to party, while introverts pretend to be into the party, but they are there to work.
Extroverts and burn-out? Just how long can anyone party, for real, every day, and last without burning-out. With introverts it's just a job, but extroverts actually "live the life".




I really needed to bow out of this thread after my first 20 posts, but a lot of introverts are very talkative and unselfconscious in social interactions. I'm a very strong introvert but still will dominate my fair share of conversations, and my social anxiety only occurs before and after interactions (not during). You can't really tell the difference between most introverts and most extraverts based on performance alone, but by how often they seek/enjoy interaction with new people (or even close friends), and whether you usually feel recharged or drained by a lot of interaction.





^^ Meeee too. I can run around the club being the most magnetic person in there, and with my friends I'm always the loud obnoxious one taking control of situations... but as soon as I'm out of the scenario I want to stab a meat thermometer through the eye of anyone who talks to me. I think the key word is "actively seeking out friends". I have all the same friends from high school and maybe 3 from college and have mostly just LOST friends through not wanting to deal with bullshit.
"People jack off with the left hand and point with the right."
"You can check out any time you like, but you can never leave."





^ Thats me too. I'm fine in particular social situations in certain circumstances but I need my alone time or I get very tense. I'm fine with large groups at work but excell with one on one or two on one situations where I can 'read' and 'adjust'.





ENFP; maybe I missed something but I think I might be the only one with this so far
XoXo Gia
Danielle Fishell (the Dish): "If the Super-Star thing doesn't work out, Gia makes a great stripper name"





Wow; actually I googled that personality type and its spot on for me
XoXo Gia
Danielle Fishell (the Dish): "If the Super-Star thing doesn't work out, Gia makes a great stripper name"





We did this here several years ago and found it interesting then too.
I liked the book "Please Understand Me" and it taught me a lot.
I found another book about relationships based M-B type scores. Summarizing extremely, it said that couples of the same type were overly specialized and couples with completely opposite types had many issues to compromise over. Best records for emotional and practical aspects of living, according to the authors, is if couples had 2 of the four traits in common. One or 3 not as much, but 0 or 4 had some things to work out. All I know is that my coupling with a person having no traits in common was pretty much unsuccessful in important ways, especially emotionally.
I loved going to strip clubs; I actually made some friends there. Now things are different for the clubs and for me. As a result I am not as happy.
Customers are not entitled to grope, disrespect, or rob strippers. This is their job, not their hobby, and they all need income. Clubs are not just some erotic show for guys to view while drinking.
NOTE: anything I post here, outside of a direct quote, is my opinion only, which I am entitled to. Take it for what you estimate it is worth.




I've been going down a type analysis rabbit hole and reading books about it as a hobby.. It's pretty fun if you're into that kind of thing.
I think any type can work out with any other type provided they share similar values, have good communication skills, and something interesting to the table. But I'm not going to lie, my best relationships have been with ENFP's. As an INTP that follows the two letter thing you mentioned. Don't know the types of my worst relationships, but they were definitely not with ENFPs.
Would anyone who knows the types of their best relationships be willing to share?





That's interesting. I think it depends on which of the traits you are different in... I feel like an ENFJ and an INFJ might be perfectly fine as long as they recognize their opposite socialization preferences and the I gets their alone time.
Edit to add for lol1337a: I am INTJ while my bf is INFJ, which is kind of a challenge sometimes. I can definitely pinpoint a good deal of our arguments to that T/F difference. I can be pretty cold and callous, and he is obviously more sensitive so I tend to accidentally hurt his feelings often. I also have a very hard time expressing emotional crap (can you tell?), so I've had to explain to him that I show affection in different ways, like filling out his calendar or shoving a sandwich at him before work. When I give him "You need to put a ring on it soon, I'm leaving the country next year and you have to be married for a visa", that's my way of saying "Omfg I can't imagine not having you with me, I love you, let's get married" :eye roll:
My ex was very likely also an INTJ (I questioned whether he had Aspergers at one point, he is very much like Sheldon from Big Bang). That relationship had its separate issues from personality type, but it was also probably not likely to work out because neither of us showed any "F" and you can imagine what that does to a "romantic" relationship. Had we been rich, would have been like the couple from House of Cards. So I think 2 people with the exact same type would have issues long term.
Another thought: Do y'all think it's possible to change personality types? Or do some people have a 50/50 balance of say, P and J, and just show one or the other at a time?
Like, while I am very rational ("thinking") 90% of the time, sometimes I literally make a decision to be "feeling". For example, bf wasted his phone battery the other day so I couldn't tell him a change of plans; my T side logically went "Ok he obviously thought he wouldn't need his phone, it's an accident, let it go" but then for some reason I made a conscious decision to be an F and get upset... thus becoming the stereotypical irrational girlfriend that makes guys say they don't understand women.
"People jack off with the left hand and point with the right."
"You can check out any time you like, but you can never leave."




The most common argument is that you can't change types, and the four letter results are just a starting point. There's 'cognitive functions' (I think it's more preference than function) for each type, and your 'true' type is defined by those. Some people say there are shadow functions that are opposite to your preferences, and you tap into them sometimes, although not productively.
I'm not sure if I buy it, but it's sort of a run rabbit hole.
Im an ENFP too. Go back 4 or 5 years and I was an INFP but a lot of that is because I had a weirdly romanticised idea of introversion and a weird fear that if I was an extrovert it would mean people had a consistent expectation of me to be totally open and sociable all the time and I couldn't deal with that. Now I'm an extrovert who knows how to set her own boundaries (most of the time)




^I've read somewhere that ENFPs are the most introverted extroverts. I thought that was pretty interesting.
Oooo. That would make sense. ENFPs are meant to be pretty big on empathy which I think makes it hard with boundaries sometimes. It's why I end up doing a lot of girlfriend experience stuff on cam I think. End up drawing guys who need some extra comfort. My biggest paying regular is a guy who's living abroad for business for the next 5 years - I stay full clothed in our sessions and we just chat about normal stuff.
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