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    Has anyone read this book by Steve Harvey?


    It was really amazing to discover the way men think. They're so simple & straightforward creatures.
    You should understand that their love isn't like yours! They love through professing, protecting & providing. They want in return your support, loyalty and sex.


    I recommend this book for every woman just to know how to handle stuff form the manhood's point of view.
    The writer's language is so simple & you can finish the book so fast but it'd be better to read it slowly to swallow every single information!

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    my wife has man brain - to further this too there is a biological difference in brain shape and how neurons form and such.. men and women see colour different for example, they are better certain lines of logic - but also dont have the ability to read body language or as empathic ( that is more of an evolution tool since males never NEEDED to have such a rich ability to communicate since they were more built for hunting and foraging and not a social totem like females were) - she actually sees colour more in line with men. the BBC actually had a lovely test based on work being done at one of the universities

    http://www.bbc.co.uk/science/humanbo...add_user.shtml

    we took this for lols long long ago and no shock she scores in the middle of the male average, I scored way into the female

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    its amazing how massive of a difference their really is, and more impressive that it goes way beyond just nature vs nurture-
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    I believe there's a sticky in Ladies Only about it.


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    I'm not too fond of these types of books.





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    The "men are simple" canard is just a lazy way of rationalizing the way some men behave. Its purpose is to excuse a lack of communication or display of emotion by saying "oh, that's just how men are! They're so primitive!" It's insulting and stupid.

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    I read it a while back and found it helpful at the time. It's not for all women though, to me I think it's a good book for young women (under 30) who are in the dating scene.
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    Quote Originally Posted by The Six View Post
    The "men are simple" canard is just a lazy way of rationalizing the way some men behave. Its purpose is to excuse a lack of communication or display of emotion by saying "oh, that's just how men are! They're so primitive!" It's insulting and stupid.
    A BILLION times this!!!!!!

    I'm fed up with the whole "men are simple; just cater to their egos and it'll be a done deal" mentality these books promote. Men are complex creatures with feelings and emotions...just like women.

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    I read it a while back and found it helpful at the time. It's not for all women though, to me I think it's a good book for young women (under 30) who are in the dating scene.
    Unless you were the type who loses herself and does not know how to say no when it comes to men, then maybe. However, sometimes I forget that not all women understand that dropping your life for a man is not the way to go about things. If the book helped you to do better when it comes to relationships, then good for you. Honestly.





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    Quote Originally Posted by Jay12 View Post
    Unless you were the type who loses herself and does not know how to say no when it comes to men, then maybe. However, sometimes I forget that not all women understand that dropping your life for a man is not the way to go about things. If the book helped you to do better when it comes to relationships, then good for you. Honestly.
    Yeah unfortunately I was totally naive and clueless when it came to men back then and didn't have any male role models I could go to for help with guys. So I picked up books like this and The Rules and It's Called a Break Up Because Its Broken and all other type of self help books on dating.

    But what I realized is these books aren't a substitute for real experience using intuition, asserting yourself, communication, and being the best You that you can be. Now that I know this I view these books more as entertainment.
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    I think Steve Harvey is a funny entertainer. IMO I agree more with the things Bill Maher has to say about male nature- he's very blunt.

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    Steve Harvey and others like him realized long ago it was a lot more profitable to tell people what they want to hear than the actual truth.
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    I think those kind of books have their merits; the advice works on SOME guys (let's be real, some men really are the dumb cavemen presented) and you can carry bits and pieces over to other types of guys as well... but you still have to have good intuition and understanding of "why" and situational contexts to deal with men who are more complex/intelligent/emotional than the kind the books are directed at.

    I have Why Men Love Bitches, and there are some parts that are good advice, like not making an ass of yourself chasing a guy around, but some of it can be downright manipulative and I would never treat a boyfriend in some of the ways suggested. I wouldn't take any of these books as utter gospel.

    If we could all stop playing idiotic games when dating, that would eliminate the need for this stuff entirely...
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    Quote Originally Posted by Selina M View Post

    I have Why Men Love Bitches, and there are some parts that are good advice, like not making an ass of yourself chasing a guy around, but some of it can be downright manipulative and I would never treat a boyfriend in some of the ways suggested. I wouldn't take any of these books as utter gospel.
    I read that one when I was 17; I was starting to date, and my aunt lend the book to me. It was funny, but only the first chapters were somewhat useful; the rest of the book was nauseating. Still, I found most of the book shallow and it portrayed men as mono-dimensional creatures. Growing up with two brothers and a handful of male cousins taught me more about men than any of these books could ever teach me.





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    Agree Selina & Jay12. I admit that I have nvr read any of these books myself, but one of my best friends is basically a one-woman all-out promotional function for Why Men Love Bitches. Last time we were catching up, I was telling her abt my recent relationship troubles & the problems w/ my other ex b4 he died last yr. She was all 'OMG Aniela why haven't you read WMLB yet??? It helped me so much, you need to stop being a doormat, yadda yadda, this is why you had those problems w/ the guy who made you have the abortion'

    I have evolved from my previous doormat status, & the abortion choice was mine, made w/o the guy largely bc on sm lvl I already recognised he was a phenomenal POS. The women I have met that eat up this WMLB crap are worse than born-again Christers in their 'OMG it's the answer to everything!' But as others pointed out here, those kinds of books are generally very one-dimensional in how they portray men, & their basic premise also seems to largely revolve around manipulating the guy in the relationship. No healthy, real relationship has room for that kind of behaviour IMO.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Aniela View Post
    She was all 'OMG Aniela why haven't you read WMLB yet??? It helped me so much, you need to stop being a doormat, yadda yadda, this is why you had those problems w/ the guy who made you have the abortion'

    But as others pointed out here, those kinds of books are generally very one-dimensional in how they portray men, & their basic premise also seems to largely revolve around manipulating the guy in the relationship. No healthy, real relationship has room for that kind of behaviour IMO.
    See, I have said that exact same thing to one of my friends who IS a doormat sometimes (like, she literally chased this guy all over the city looking for him to grovel at his feet, for yelling at him for something he deserved to be yelled at for)... because she could have used the kick in the pants from that book. I tend to keep a lot of the principles of it in mind while I'm at work as well, bc it fits my high-maintenance stripper persona.

    Agreed that no healthy relationship has room for that stuff though. My bf was absolutely appalled and disgusted when I outlined the chapters for him... but then, he's also not the kind of pigheaded, chauvinistic asshole that you would use WMLB tactics on... he's a respectable human being.
    It's useful if you're dating/stripping and run across one of those types though. If anything, a good way to give them a taste of their own medicine.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Selina M View Post

    It's useful if you're dating/stripping and run across one of those types though. If anything, a good way to give them a taste of their own medicine.
    I guess I could say I gave a dude I was seeing a taste of his own medicine. He was very traditional, and he also loved video games. One day he invited me over, and he spent the whole time playing those boring John Madden games while he barely spoke to me. The next day, I went to his place again...along with my Nintendo DSi. He was livid when he saw I was playing a video game and not acknowledging him! He even dared to to say I wasn't supposed to play video games because that's childish and not "lady-like". Obviously, I didn't visit him again after that night...and I cut him off.





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    im kind of over the whole " men are like this, women are like that" as if the opposite gender was a different species you need to study like a science project. we're all human beings here, and i think we are much more alike than different.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Selina M View Post
    I think those kind of books have their merits; the advice works on SOME guys (let's be real, some men really are the dumb cavemen presented) and you can carry bits and pieces over to other types of guys as well... but you still have to have good intuition and understanding of "why" and situational contexts to deal with men who are more complex/intelligent/emotional than the kind the books are directed at.

    I have Why Men Love Bitches, and there are some parts that are good advice, like not making an ass of yourself chasing a guy around, but some of it can be downright manipulative and I would never treat a boyfriend in some of the ways suggested. I wouldn't take any of these books as utter gospel.

    If we could all stop playing idiotic games when dating, that would eliminate the need for this stuff entirely...
    Great post!

    I have as much respect for women who try to lump me in with all the dogs out there, and want to make me jump through hoops to get close to their golden vaginas, as I do for the men who perpetuate the 'men as dogs' stereotype. Most of whom view women through the same pathetic lens as the vapid women who believe in books like The Game. Just looking through that lens in the other direction.

    I have advised a couple female friends of mine who were the doormat type to start making men 'work for it.' Something I would never do myself, unless you consider 'working for it' something a man and woman do together to build up the mutual esteem and sexual energy.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Djoser View Post
    Great post!

    I have as much respect for women who try to lump me in with all the dogs out there, and want to make me jump through hoops to get close to their golden vaginas, as I do for the men who perpetuate the 'men as dogs' stereotype. Most of whom view women through the same pathetic lens as the vapid women who believe in books like The Game. Just looking through that lens in the other direction.

    I have advised a couple female friends of mine who were the doormat type to start making men 'work for it.' Something I would never do myself, unless you consider 'working for it' something a man and woman do together to build up the mutual esteem and sexual energy.

    Because we as humans do not place a lot of value on easy. What our rational and animal brains want are often very different. People like some challenge, it is a key ingredient to bonding.

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    Honestly, except for WMLB, most advice books are crap. No two people of any gender are the same. Besides. Steve Harvey has been married several times, it obviously doesn't work for him. I lost any dating ideas from him when he matches up a woman on his show who told him she didn't date dads with dads and told her she wasn't right to reject them.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Kellydancer View Post
    Honestly, except for WMLB, most advice books are crap. No two people of any gender are the same. Besides. Steve Harvey has been married several times, it obviousuly doesn't work for him. I lost any dating ideas from him when he matches up a woman on his show who told him she didn't date dads with dads and told her she wasn't right to reject them.
    True. I started to tune out his "advice" when I realized his own marriages were failing. He's funny as hell and a great comedian but he seems to me kind of old fashioned and traditional and I like dating advice that's more up with the times and outside the box.
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    I think he's funny as well but wouldn't take his darling advice. He strikes me as bit of a chauvinist.

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    I dunno, I found assholes come with all types of genitals attached to them. There are real biological differences but there's also real differences in spirit, particularly regarding the power of empathy.

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    I was really into WMLB for a time, and then I moved past that into a deeper understanding of myself. It doesn't matter to me that it was part of my journey even though I can look back on some of the books theories and laugh now it was appropriate for the time.

    Buttt back on topic, haven't read this book and not particularly interested, I'm comfortable with the support networks and guidance I have in place to not need another relationship book.

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    i just recently re read why men love bitches the first time i read it i dont think i was at the point in my life that i was mentally and emotionally mature enuf to actually understand any of it. my mom was super into the book when it come out a few years and got copies for like everyone with a vagina that she knew lol. reading it for the second time a lot of it makes sense. i agree its not really a relationship bible by any means but i think the basic principles of the book are mainly about having healthy boundaries and how to set them and some basic principles of the way men tick.

    i agree on some points in the book like about men liking a challenge and feel like they 'won' tho. in camming men love to try and fight to be the high tripper to 'win' something and more often then not they dont even want the prize just knowing they were the high tipper is enough for them. they love throwing their 'manhood' around via tokens and typically wont tip a lot unless theres a big crowed in the chat room because they thrive on feeling 'important' and 'powerful'. Ive retweeked the way i work my room , how i present and carry myself and what i ask for for everything and I've seen a big improvement in the kind of guys i get in my room and how much i can get out of the ones that give me tokens .
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    You are always going to find examples for any kind of men, that doesn't mean all men like the same things.
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