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Last edited by LAQUEEFA; 08-28-2015 at 01:34 AM.




Pay yourself off of stage or maybe find a club with a smaller, lower to the ground stage? To where it's not the focal point of the room.





Well, I think there's tips on here how to deal w/this..check out the Newbie section? If you don't want to make eye contact you can look just over their heads. But it might be good to see who is watching, then you can get a dance from them after.
MANY MEN WANTED TO LAY ME DOWN, BUT FEW WANTED TO LIFT ME UP
-Eartha Kitt





How long have you been stripping? Usually stage fright goes away after the first couple of nights. But if you are still dealing with stage anxiety after a while being in this biz, you should find a way to try to get over that.
Is there any way of you getting in the groove? Can you go up there with a "I don't give a fuck" attitude? Just because guys aren't tipping, doesn't mean you're doing horribly up there. Guys are cheap dipshits.
I wish I had more valuable input here. Is there an anti-anxiety med you can take?
For all natural anti-anxiety remedies, there is Kava-kava tea. Or maybe try smoking weed? Chamomile tea might help too. Try masturbating to have a good orgasm before work. That might help calm your nerves.
When you go up there, OWN THAT STAGE. Be in love with yourself. Just pretend you're up there putting on a show for yourself, no one else. If the guys make you nervous, don't even look at them. Just do your thing, then move on. Stage dancing is usually useless anyway. Don't stress over it so much, it's not your major money-maker anyway. Lap dances should be your main focus. Do you have anxiety with lap dances or talking to men? Or just the stage itself?
Here's a site with some more herbal anti-anxiety remedies: http://www.health.com/health/gallery...669377,00.html
Good luck, hun. Hope you can get better with this.![]()
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"Dancing tables, making deals with devils like a drunk beauty queen"





[QUOTE=ScarletKitten;2708758]How long have you been stripping? Usually stage fright goes away after the first couple of nights. But if you are still dealing with stage anxiety after a while being in this biz, you should find a way to try to get over that.
Is there any way of you getting in the groove? Can you go up there with a "I don't give a fuck" attitude? Just because guys aren't tipping, doesn't mean you're doing horribly up there. Guys are cheap dipshits.
I wish I had more valuable input here. Is there an anti-anxiety med you can take?
For all natural anti-anxiety remedies, there is Kava-kava tea. Or maybe try smoking weed? Chamomile tea might help too. Try masturbating to have a good orgasm before work. That might help calm your nerves.
When you go up there, OWN THAT STAGE. Be in love with yourself. Just pretend you're up there putting on a show for yourself, no one else. If the guys make you nervous, don't even look at them. Just do your thing, then move on. Stage dancing is usually useless anyway. Don't stress over it so much, it's not your major money-maker anyway. Lap dances should be your main focus.
^ This!!! I can't stress enough how unimportant stage is to us. It doesn't mean shit in the long run UNLESS you are in a club that is stage centered only & lap dances aren't the norm. I def say pay yourself off stage if possible or find a lap dance factory type club to work atGood luck girl! I feel your pain, I hate hate hate stage.
"Alot of people are afraid to say what they want, that's why they don't get what they want"~ Madonna
"Respect is a dying art"
"Philosophy is the talk on a cereal box"


I dont enjoy being the center of attention, never have.
Last edited by LAQUEEFA; 08-07-2015 at 05:59 AM.
I hate being the center of attention too! Lol. I don't have the energy to even fake enjoy it, and we absolutely can't pay to skip. I could know every move and trick and still hate being up there. This doesn't ALWAYS work but I hustle so hard right before I have to go on, then go back for dances before the dj calls my name. He skips me and the whole rotation starts again
I also hate when the other girls sit at my stage. Thanks for like, the support? and..friendship?.. but you're making me feel nervous.
"The itsy bitsy stripper climbed up the brassy pole,
Down came her legs and wrapped around my soul"
do not look at the crowd .... if they are paying u attention buy all means otherwise they are NOT there works for me
they are in convo and drinking not evaluating you get a script for xanax

I think looking at the crowd is very important. You don't need to stare deeply in their eyes if that makes you uncomfortable but a quick glance and smile can take you a long way. I wouldn't recommend taking anxiety meds. I have never seen anything good come from it, only addiction. Which will royally fuck up your money, trust me I have have been trough it. I HATE going on stage, I HATE when other dancers sit at my stage, I HATE being so nervous I'm drenched in sweat and can barely twirl on the pole. It is my least favorite thing about being a stripper. At my club you aren't allowed to pay off your dj, you have to go on stage at least once every hour. At the end of the day it's something I have to deal with because I can't make this money flipping burgers. Good luck and remember the most succesful people have the clearest head, don't mess that beautiful brain up.
everyone handles anxiety differently... good advice however like i said everyone is different
not everyone gets addicted to pills Pills can help the right person with a non addictive personality prescribed by a doctor
.sorry double post
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omg I used to love going on stage but now I HATE it! I think because I've been dancing for a few years now I just feel so boring up there. I never learned pole tricks and I cant move my ass too amazingly and never got the splits down. LOL so yeah I don't like going on stage anymore. I bring little back up shots with me to take before I go on stage since I usually work weekend nights and it's always packed. If it's a weeknight I don't really care if I look boring or not but something about weekend nights makes me feel more pressured. But generally when I focus on being sexy and feeling the music instead of doing "cool tricks" I feel like I looked good on stage. There's enough girls who can do tricks so sometimes customers just wanna see sexy anyway! This wasn't really any advice but just letting ya know you're not the only one lol.

Sounds like a strip club now! I never once bashed on medication! Abusing it, is a different story. Just because your nervous dosen't mean popping a pill is the answer.
Set up a mock stage at home, with a big beautiful mirror and ideally a pole too. It really, really improves both your actual dance technique and your self-confidence to practice dancing in a relaxed, private environment.





^^I don't get the reference, but I'm curious. So wtf is "snort a football"?
"Dancing tables, making deals with devils like a drunk beauty queen"
Low dose of Xanax
I almost always do a shot right before my first stage set; there's really not much shame in that.
But really you just have to find a way to trick yourself into thinking you want to be up there. Keep telling yourself lies (preferably while smiling), and it gets easier to believe them when you have to. For example, "I never get to play acrobat at home! This is so much fun! I'm going to learn a new pole move by the end of the night!" or "I'm soooo happy that I finally get to advertise myself to all the men in here! All I have to do is wiggle and smile and then I can sell a VIP to the next man I decide to talk to!" Basically just a variation on the "fake it 'til you make it" cliche.




Thats a good idea I should do that. Sometimes when I'm on stage and feel shitty I'll do the complete opposite and I'm sure it does NOT help. "I'm so boring" "These guys look so bored" "Nobody's into this right now" "When am I off?" lol I'll try to remember your advice my next shift.





I always pregame before work (as long as I'm not driving) so I can be carefree when I get there.
"Alot of people are afraid to say what they want, that's why they don't get what they want"~ Madonna
"Respect is a dying art"
"Philosophy is the talk on a cereal box"
Maybe try to distract yourself from any negative thoughts? Focus on what your body is doing and why you're awesome. I know that when I feel no one is looking at me on stage, I would just imagine that it was practice and that I was at home.
Also, your biggest critic is probably yourself, so just try to make that girl happy.![]()



I still get nervous on stage sometimes and it helps if I just ignore the crowd. I focus on dancing for myself, climbing the pole, staying in rhythm to the music, moving sensually. I tend to speed up my dancing and try to impress too hard if I get nervous and focus on people looking at me. I don't even like engaging with customers that are sitting at my stage, I would prefer to just be in my own little world and then talk to them when I finish my set. When you feel like you have to make an impression your anxiety will go up; just make it about you and the pole.
"Lying's the most fun a girl can have without taking her clothes off...but it's better if you do."



Like other posters said, you just have to develop an IDGAF attitude. It's easier said than done, but shockingly I didn't have much stage fright even when first starting. Sure I hate the stage as much as the next stripper but that's bc stage is really to help the club look better, it's not for the dancers cause it's not a crucial part of our $. But it helps to make it work for you as much as possible.. so this is kinda the thought process I developed:
Just tell yourself "I'm a stripper working at a club, not on stage on American Idol. It's not that big a deal." I just kept telling myself that..
Also do you have any dance or body skills you can use as your go-to moves? I am flexible and have a big bouncy ass so I used those two skills a lot. Just find a few things to get yourself in a predictable stage groove and it will be much easier than trying to make it new each time.
Meds are great but I'm speaking from experience here- I smoked weed once before work and it helped a little bit, but it made me pretty much ineffective at making $ for the rest of the night. Xanax is pure bliss IMO but I save it for outside the club, cause again it makes me an ineffective hustler. YMMV so try and find what works best. Best of luck!
"These lumps- I know you wanna slump up on these lumps! But you can't cause you're a chump- a chuuuump."
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