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    This may have been asked before, so I apologize if it has!

    I'm curious as to how many of your parents/families/caregivers know about your participation in the sex trade? And how did it go when you 'came out' as a sex worker?

    My best friends know and are super supportive, interested and even want to get their feet wet in the industry..but my parents...they would F L I P !! Honestly they'd cry. They're extremely liberal and open minded with almost everything else. Even though I'm doing this because I want to have as independent of a life as possible and have the most control I can (and because it's fun! ) they still wouldn't understand. I'm not sure if they even know what a cam girl is lol.

    I definitely don't have any intention of telling them, but if I'm going to be realistic with myself I know they probably someday will find out. My dad does business with people out of state where I don't geoblock as well... I guess I just feel guilty when they tell me how great I am and how well I'm doing...

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    My family knows because I told them. Some were "okay" with it, others not so much but it's my life and I only get one chance to live it. I am proud to say I live by choice and take ownership of everything. #nopityparty
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    No my family does not know but if they do find out and don't like it I'm going to tell them to kiss my fucking ass. First off if someone discovers me and outs me I'm going to say why were you watching porn anyway almost everyone in my family is married (their spouses wouldn't be happy about them watching porn). Then I will say well I'm financially better off than you and I don't ask you for shit so fuck off. At this point I really don't care I'm ready to be outed anyday now I will not come out myself but if some outs me I am ready to say fuck them all. Idk how my mom would react she has been pretty accepting about me being an atheist she is religious I thought she would disown me. But she knows I do what I need to do and I do her favors and give her gifts all the time. I'm the only child she has left and shes 60 and not in good health so she has no choice but to accept me.

    Edit: sometimes my mom makes rude comments about strippers etc and in my head I'm thinking sigh if you only knew what I did for a living. I really feel like I don't need anyone at this point. I've never been close to my family I always felt alone so they can take it or leave it I really don't care.

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    My family doesn't know. I prefer to keep it like that because they are more conservative and most likely would judge and make me feel bad. Plus Me and the kid are in some upper class networks so I want to keep that status for my kid sake.

    I would probably make quadruple what I make now if I could be out with the truth. It sucks that the stigma of adult industry work is limiting my freedom and money. But whatever it is what it is.....at least for now.
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    They do not know, and I hope to God they never find out.

    Only my two closest friends know what I do, but my family would pretty much disown me instantly if they ever found out.

    But I don't feel like I'm at high-risk for them finding out - the people I'm worried about are the adults in my family who are all super busy with their careers and home lives (I geoblock them all anyway).

    I guess male cousins/friends in my own age group have a higher chance of finding out from all the porn they watch, but I'm pretty close to all of them and I don't feel they would rat me out - at most they would talk to me about it and try to understand rather than blabbing to my family.

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    Im trying to come up with a way to tell my mom. I live at home still, its not that I need to tell her, it'd just be easier to say what I do because she must be wondering how I'm getting money without having a job. Im not really concerned what she thinks of me, i'm just not sure how to bring it up naturally lol. All my friends know, I'm not really hiding it. The rest of my family I dont talk to so if they found out I honestly don't care.

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    My sisters have known since I started and I ended up having to tell my parents because they think that knowing where I hide the spare key is an invitation not to knock. Most of my friends know as well.

    I don't really care who knows but it does bother my husband. He worries that local men are going to try to steal me away if they know what I do for a living. I tell him I doubt it because I'm all out of sexy and flirt by the time I'm done camming.

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    I don't like lying to people I love, so my entire family knows and they have been very supportive of me. Even my grandparent's know! My grandpa actually is helping me with my taxes, haha. I told them the day after I started, actually. At first not all of them were happy about it, but they warmed up to it after I explained how much I love my job. They really only just care about my happiness. I live in a family that is pretty open about pretty much everything, including TMI stuff. XD I'm glad it wasn't a big deal to them. I can't imagine how stressful keeping it a secret must be sometimes.

    I also tell close friends. I haven't gotten any bad reactions from anyone really. It surprises me how open minded people have been about it.
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    My parents know both mom and dad they are very supportive and my mama laughs about some of the fetish customers I get and she also keeps me motivated to make my daily goal and babysits. My husband knows as well. My mom was against it at first when I dabbled in at when I was 20 now I am almost 26 and she is totally cool. My husband took a year to come around but I finally stood up for myself and stopped giving a flying flip what people think and he got with the program. Now he loves it because it spices up our sex life and put extra cash on our fun money.

    Just be free and stop caring what people think its not your job to make them happy. My family was against it at first now they are my biggest supporters took me 6 years to start back camming and now it feels good not to hide I make way more money now that I have confidence.

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    Quote Originally Posted by funismymiddlename View Post
    No my family does not know but if they do find out and don't like it I'm going to tell them to kiss my fucking ass. First off if someone discovers me and outs me I'm going to say why were you watching porn anyway almost everyone in my family is married (their spouses wouldn't be happy about them watching porn). Then I will say well I'm financially better off than you and I don't ask you for shit so fuck off.
    That's basically how I would react too. Like if anyone outed me to my parents, I'd be like okay 1.) you're WATCHING porn and 2.) I'm an adult, make my own decisions and people should respect that. I'm not my father's/parent's property, but unfortunately that's still a pervasive thought in our society steeped in patriarchy

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    I'm glad a lot of you girls have such supportive families!! I feel you guys on not wanting them to know, though. I can't see them ever being accepting, but perhaps they'd come around in a few years. I have no intention of telling them now. I live on my own so it's not like they can stumble in on me. Hell I didn't even tell my roommate for a year! I honestly thought a lot of people would think of me poorly, but actually everyone that knows thinks it's really empowering and interesting

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    My parents know. My mom said she couldn't deal with it and didn't talk to me for a couple weeks. It's since been pushed under the rug and hasn't been mentioned since. I'm not sure if my other family members know but I don't really care. Most of them are assholes that I never got along with anyway.

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    I told my mom. All she said was... "a girls gotta do what a girls gotta do" LMAO As far as Im concerned thats the only person in my family who needs to know. And it's not like she NEEDS to know but I want to have that closeness with my mother. Thank god she's cool like that AS far as my brother, my grandma and my aunts, they dont need to know. I dont want to be the one to put my grandma in the grave
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    I've been thinking I really wish I could tell me niece she has a few kids and could really use the money. She has a crappy demanding job and wishes she could go back to school. She's a pretty girl so I know she has potential. Maybe one day I will tell her but idk not anytime soon. She never outed me for being an atheist (I'm sure if she told someone they would have confronted or disowned me by now. She doesn't know my mom knows but never mentioned it to her.) Her hubby prob wouldn't like the idea. But if they ever break up or something bad happens to him I will tell her bc he is the bread winner and she can't really support her family without him.
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    My wife was the one whom actually planted the seed to do so - did most of the initial homework, found this place, manages my social media, on cam she sits in on her account and works as a second set of eyes on potentially bothersome custy's - or bounces out and checks overall traffic in other rooms to see if its just a slow day or if someone is starting a GS so I can change up my approaches and such, she also keeps record of earnings VS times, time of year etc, and builds up a evolving window of peek times over the year -

    My Mother knows, and loves throwing out ideas, or listening to the stories- some times sending occasional clothes be it things that were hers from her wilder days ( namely boots or shorter skirts and blouses and such) and keeps me swimming in makeup since she gets enough freebies or access to ones I can't usually splurge on.

    My sister knows as well, and again loves hearing the stories and laughs her ass off at them.

    Vast majority of my friends know, and have for a good amount of time, they also tend to help out in the sense of stream checks or when I want to try out new lighting or really anything " new" I can and do use them as a sorta test run.

    Ive made pretty blatant hints to basically everyone else - if they got it or not I cant say, some are pretty dense or think Im just being a smart ass XD but in general Im not really shy about it in most cases
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    My SO cams too so no problems there. My grandma is the only bio family I talk to at all, and she knows. She's cool with it because she used to be a phone sex worker herself in pre-internet days.
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    My family doesn't know. I Haven't told them, but if it came out I wouldn't mind them knowing. My mindset is that it's my life, and they can get with the program and deal with it I honestly don't know how they would react-- but I'm sure that they will find out eventually. Maybe I'll tell them sometime this thread is great! I love reading about how supportive families can be!

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    I made the mistake of being open with my closest friends, as a way to gauge their reaction in case I wanted to tell my family.... BIG mistake1
    They shamed me, looked down on me, and either disowned me, or I them.
    Plus, all my male friends just talked about sex all the time, thinking I would want to always talk about camming. (Which I don't). Once my cam is shut off... so am I i.e. (about the work).
    I actually just told my brother that I do phone actress work, and I am also an online persona character who acts for people. He doesn't even have a computer, or even text, so he's accepting, only because he's confused what I really do, and doesn't really care to delve into my personal life.
    Since camming could get me in trouble if a landlord found out, I don't tell anyone anymore.
    now, if I worked at a physical studio, I'd tell EVERYBODY!! LOL Only because nobody has ever offered to pay all or any of my bills.

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    my family knows. The ones that I feel are worth keeping in touch with anyway. I don't know about the others but I don't talk to them anyway. If I got outed to my family I would laugh about it. I am a cam girl and I own it.

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    Yes. And I don't care who else knows in my life. I don't volunteer it though. I've been confronted publicly about this in hateful ways. These people are trying to slut shame me. They didn't help me when I needed help getting out of a loveless abusive marriage. They don't pay my bills. 'Sorry kid, you're on your own' has been their motto throughout my life. I own it and they can all kiss my ass.

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    I had intended to tell my parents in a calm, relaxed, and controlled way. Instead, when I was really sick, I decided to get really drunk, and then I told them. So...that happened. My dad has not been talking to me about that at all, and my mom...well, she's a real feminist until it comes to sex workers, apparently. Now that I am looking for a new place to live, she doesn't want me anywhere near her family, because what will I tell them I do for work? And (she actually said this) I can hardly tell the 8 year old cousins that I am a whore online! So uh, thanks for being awesome, mom. Anyway, I owe them about £750, and I am going to pay them back ASAP with the note in the payment reference "from whoring online". Until she deals with her shit, I'll be keeping my shit to myself, thank you very much.

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    They know I used to cocktail in a strip club at 21. They don't know ( I think anyway ) about 3-4 years of dancing across 8 states in my late 20s. No one asked and I didn't want to tell. It was a lot of work being undercover. I've had other sex work adventures in the last 4 years too but my location change made working easier.
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    Quote Originally Posted by gypsy1 View Post
    Yes. I was outed by my nosey younger brother about my dancing and escorting. When I was confronted I was calm and just denied it. I'm sure my entire family knows. I'm a 20 year old single mom with no apparent job but 100% independent. I don't care that they know. I love being a sex worker and they're not helping me in any way at all. I'm not even close with my family and only see them every couple of months.

    I told two of my sisters about my plans to start camming so they wouldn't be shocked when they found out. As for everybody else I really don't care. If they can't accept me for me then I'm better off without them.
    oh no! How did said nosey brother find out?

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    I gave my Uncle a bunch of blank CD's that I didnt need anymore only one of them wasnt blank! One day while downloading music he saw a file and clicked on it to see me in a Gangbang!! Took him a week to build up enough courage to tell my Aunt and then the two of them just quietly watched my career for the next few months before telling me that they knew. They were really cool about it though, especially my Aunt who is not easily conform to how society tells us to feel about certain things. Also helps that she knows I would never do anything if I didnt love it!

    The funny part was that they found out in the heaviest way! I mean when you see someone in a gangbang! you know they are not just doing porn but doing it hardcore! Its really very funny to me cause I intended to tell everyone in my family but kept putting it off so that got the ball rolling! I would never just tell some family and ask them to keep that secret from the rest! To me that is just a recipe for family drama!

    That was years and years ago but realistically if your starting in this industry today you have to be honest with yourself and know that at some point some or all of your loved ones are going to find out. If you decide not to tell them start to think about how your going to deal with that when the shit hits the fan. You can pray to God all you want that no one ever finds out but God doesnt care if your family knows or not!

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    My family doesn't know. They are ultra conservative and super religious, I mean like Jehovah's Witness religious. My best friends know and that's it. Pretty much I feel like anyone who will have a problem with it is not paying my bills, so I guess they'll just have to keep on having a problem. I'm not naïve enough to think I'll never get outed, but honestly I'll probably just deny, deny deny lol. Besides anyone who would find out, according to their religion, has no business being on any sites where they'll find me, so I'm guessing they'll be too embarrassed or scared to tell anyone.

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