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    I have a regular who will come in and spend $200-$300 on me at once. I genuinely enjoy his company, he is nerdy and we get along really well. When I am there, he tips me on stage and asks while I'm up there to dance for him when I get down. I will go and sit with him and talk and let him initiate the dances when he is ready. There is this girl who he also likes to talk to, but she sits with him for free and he never dances with her. The last time he was in the club, I was sitting with him and she invited herself over to sit with us. I normally don't mind this, but it delayed his asking me to dance until she went onstage. I'm not pushy with him, he is there because he is lonely, so I do not ask him for dances, he ALWAYS asks me. I know how to work him and it's not by being pushy with him.

    So, we went to go and do some dances, and we only got to do 4 dances because I had to go onstage in the middle of our session. I told him I'd be back afterwards, but when I went to go back and sit with him, she had taken my seat. She was there for the rest of the night. Not once did they got up to get dances and at the end of the night, she didn't even have what she owed to the club. She pretty much cockblocked both of us out of dances to make zero money. What am I supposed to do about this? I know he wants to dance with me, but I am not going to wait with them for two hours until she goes on stage again just to make the rest of my money.

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    I'd say to be pushy with him next time & get those dances. Otherwise, either she's gonna end up with your money OR she will waste everyone's time by chitchatting for free & cockblocking you. I hate startign drama at work but if she is potentially causing you to lose money then you need to step up & have a word with her away from him.
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    Default Re: Girl sitting with a customer for free all night

    if she comes up again, maybe politely say " hey hun, we'll be done in a bit" or start pushing him for dances quicker..or if she's already there, just go up and sit down like she's done to you. dont let her invite herself , and then take your space

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    would management care?? i've seen girls complain to management about this

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    Default Re: Girl sitting with a customer for free all night

    Quote Originally Posted by newb2 View Post
    would management care?? i've seen girls complain to management about this
    Some management care, some don't. The ones that don't are the managers that purposely create drama among dancers.





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    Default Re: Girl sitting with a customer for free all night

    Take her to the side and explain to her that it's actually really rude for her to come uninvited to sit with a customer even if she has met him before.

    If she's so clueless as to sit with someone for so long and for no money, say to her that he may not be interested in you as he never asks her for dances and she must be wasting his and her time. That could get nasty though depending on her and the club you work in.

    I never understood girls who sit for free for so long, I always assumed they were getting customers for after-work prostitution stuff or really really good at hiding tip money.

    Maybe she'll leave eventually if she keeps making no money...

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    Last time I had someone cock block me like that I waltzed right up and asked if she was doing charity write off? "Huh?" "Well you've been sitting with him for free all night, so you must be looking for charitable deductions for your taxes!"
    Or he could be tipping her for her time. You never know. Next time get that money upfront.
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    In this specific case, where this is an established regular of yours and you were interrupted in the back because of your stage show and you established that you would continue once you were done, I would have no qualms about going right up to them and telling him you're ready to finish up/go for round 2/whatever to get him up and off the floor. You absolutely should not wait for her to leave his side because she has interrupted you guys. It's not pushy if you're just going to continue where you left off and he normally spends all the money in one go anyway. You've got to stand up for yourself or else girls like this will take advantage.

    In future, I wouldn't allow her to sit with you guys. Your customer is clearly not interested in her but doesn't have the balls to tell her to go away himself, so you have to do it so it stops affecting your money. Next time she approaches, very sweetly tell her that you two are fine and will find her if you want her company. Depending on your club culture and her personality (i.e. if she won't try to fight you), you could also pull her aside next time you see her and straight up tell her not to approach you when you're sitting with a customer ever again, but that's a fairly aggressive route that not many would be comfortable taking.

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    ^ I respectfully disagree Shanna, its not an aggressive route its assertive and putting in an appropriate boundary. Club etiquette has become disgraceful! I think agressive would be pulling her aside and smacking her out, or some such

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    I have no shame in booting a bitch who isn't making moves. I've always thought that if its obvious you aren't making moves you need to GTFO the way and let a real hustler make some money. Sometimes a customer is giving me money under the table for just chilling and that is sometimes a confusing situation that you might step into and be in the wrong but in this case NOPE, that bitch has to go and you gotta be okay with taking what she won't!

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    Default Re: Girl sitting with a customer for free all night

    i'm an asshole so if a girl saw that i was chatting to a customer and sat down next to him without being invited, i would do the same thing to her all night with any customer she sat down with. i'm certain she would get the point.

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    It sucks when other dancers try to cut in on your time with customers that prefer you.

    In an ideal situation there would be enough customers and money to go around for everyone but unfortunately on slow nights, this type stuff is bound to happen

    our club lets us skip stage if we're in the middle of vip. Maybe you can suggest this to managers...

    Otherwise tell him to come sit at your stage or tell him to dismiss any girls who come over while you get on stage. It's easier for dancers to leave if they hear it from the customer. This way you avoid confrontation.
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    The girls at my club would never stand for this. I've sat with others' regulars (not realizing they were) and the other dancers will come up, sit on his lap, hug him or start talking to him in the middle of our conversation. It always cracks me up that they get so aggressive because my hustle is very short...if they don't spend within 5 minutes I'm gone...and if they tell me they're waiting on someone else I move on...but yeah, you do have to be aggressive and let her (and him) know who's in charge and who's getting his money. It can be awkward if you're not usually a rude person but you gotta do it sometimes.

    Side note: There was one girl that recently had to quit because she was talking all night for free and wondered why she wasn't making any $. She left for a minimum wage factory job lol!! Hopefully this one will be gone soon too. They annoy me as much as time wasting customers do. Get your $$ or gtfo. Stop training customers that they get our attention for free or for a fucking drink!!

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    Default Re: Girl sitting with a customer for free all night

    Id walk by the table and just say, "are you ready for those dances that you asked me for?" and steal him away.

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    I've paid the dj to call a girl to the stage when she was cock blocking a customer like that. You have to know your bar staff very well to get away with this kind of move, but if you KNOW that the customer will spend money on you, it may be worth it to toss and extra $10 at the dj to get her ass out of that chair.

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    Thanks everyone! I still feel like a newbie in this club, so I'll probably go with what miss.a.p said and ask to skip stage or tell my reg that I prefer one on one time with him. This girl has been at the club for a few years longer than I have and has friends with the girls and staff, so I'm not looking for drama. I'm not sure why she dances. She never makes any money and always either leaves early or gets too fucked up to work, but she's cute as fuck, so I'm guessing she likes the attention.

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    Ok, here's the way I see it: You said in the beginning that he likes her company too, and sits with her often. You also said that you don't usually mind when other girls invite themselves over when you're sitting with a customer. Plus, he never told her to leave or asked you for a dance in front of her. So the way I see it, she probably doesn't even know she pissed you off. All the signs point to you and him not minding that she sat there. She has no hustle skills or maybe doesn't need the money so her mind isn't on the game, instead she's just hanging with a nice dude killing time while getting drunk. Confrontation would be overkill, I'd be more inclined to pull her aside next time and say something like "I'd rather sit with him alone now, but I'll be done in like an hour then he's all yours" You get your dances and now it frees you up to work the floor instead of sit longer with him. Plus, if you tell him that you'd like him all to yourself but you're switching with her later...he will probably hurry up and get your dances, or he'll tell her to flake off instead.

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    Default Re: Girl sitting with a customer for free all night

    in ur case I would actually be pushy. I think no regular lasts forever so risk of being a little pushy is worth it i think

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    There's a girl who slightly resembles me, and she does this all the time. She did this the other day and I told the DJ, "there's $400 with my name on it sitting right there but that girl has been sitting with my customer for like an hour. If I tip you well later can you change the rotation up a little?"
    Problem solved!!
    The other thing I've had customers do is get a pity dance so they will go away.

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    Like Alexa said, regulars are not forever. Make what you can while you can. In this case, that means being a little pushy. If she pulls a stunt like this, be a little pushy by reminding them that you still have dances to finish. Alternatively, if you already got paid upfront for the remaining dances and don't want to be pushy, tell him to let you know when he wants to finish while you look for other spending customers.
    Exotic dancing is like any other job.
    If you work in an office, you wear dress shoes and a suit.
    If you work in a restaraunt, you wear skid resistant shoes and a uniform.
    If you work in a strip club, you wear 7" stilettos and lycra g-strings.

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    And I would be more pushy with him too. If he is lonely and likes u that much, those kind of guys need to be milked as much as u can cause if u won't do it probably someone else will

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    ^ Addison L, That's something which hadn't occurred to me. I feel that its best to be direct and assertive, as much as it might serve my vengence mode to follow her all night and sit with every customer she does so she 'gets it' I am way too busy to be constantly following. I also don't want to get a reputation as a grass cutter from the other watching dancers or management. I would also be cautious having the DJ intervene because then he may start offering that service to other ladies: it might happen to you!

    Its an ongoing struggle with dancers who aren't concerned with being paid for their time training the customers to not spend but one girl at a time we can do it!!!

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    Love this thread ! It's fair to say what NightGoddess described happens to rest of us from time to time. A "hobby dancer" waltz into the club, lookin cute an all - but not only leaves broke but spoils it for all dancers. I wish management had rules around that. I know clubs that already have minimum fee for lap dances.

    Yeah it would be ideal for the customer to initiate lap dance request - but if that's not working I'll be using great advice provided in this thread.
    Surprised that this cockblock dancer has been working at your club that long.

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    I've also known customers to tip a girl to 'go away'. You could tell your customer next time like "babe go ahead and tip her so we can have some 1-on-1 time alone".
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