How i met him:
One of my friends was dating a guy she found on OKC. She said he seemed cute online so far, but just in case he was a creep, she wanted me and another friend to go with her to meet him first. If she liked him in person, then she would give us a secret signal, and we would leave them alone together. If not, then we would swoop in and "save" her with some fake emergency.
He was fine, and she liked him. And he happened to bring along a friend (a computer guy, let's call him John).
Then they suggested we all go dancing at some club(s), one of them drove, so we all said OK. I wasn't really dressed to go dancing but whatever, i went, and it was fun. I wasn't really attracted to the friend named John, but we talked a lot and he seemed nice and wanted to hang out again, i was kind of broke and bored at the time so i went along with it.
I ended up crashing at John's apt and sleeping in his bed (twice, once after the second or third date too). We never hooked up. He never made any moves, always respectful. He said he didn't want to get into a sexual relationship too soon and i thought that was pretty cool, because i wasn't really interested.
I only went out with him three times. I left town for vacation, and we never got together again when i got back. We're FB friends and he comments and says dumb stuff when i post pictures sometimes.
ANYWAYS here I'm finally going to get to the point. I'm writing this long-ass intro about how i know him because I want to describe how NOT-CLOSE we are in our relationship.
Once, when we were hanging out in his living room after breakfast, he told me a "funny story"about how he and one of his computer-hacker friends were curious about a girl that they liked, so they hacked into her computer remotely…
"And that's how i found out that girls watch porn, too!" he said.
-from their screen, they could watch every action that she made from her own computer (typing, clicking, etc)
-OR, they could also set it so that they could control her computer from their own computer… they could go through her files and documents, type things that she could see from her side (which he said they didn't do)
She never found out, and they still laugh about it.
OK, how creepy is that? Not the smartest thing to tell a girl on the first few dates. I get so paranoid now that he might be casually going through my files, or hacking my webcam, just for fun (i keep tape over it when I'm not using it now). I don't think he's the type to try to steal money from me, but you know what, maybe he could!
Just sharing this story because maybe it might be useful to other girls. Better safe than sorry. Be careful about what you do with your technology! If you think what happens between you and your laptop is totally private, lemme tell you, it might not be.



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