Had to delete just in case...thanks guys!
Had to delete just in case...thanks guys!
Last edited by JoJoX; 01-12-2015 at 12:04 AM.





Won't take his sick animal to the vet bc it's too damn pricey, but blows *how much* on his own un-essential shit? I'd file that alone under Dealbreakers.
If the sex is the main thing keeping you tied to this self-absorbed motormouth … I'm tempted to advise you to just hire a male escort. After all, part of what you'd be paying him for is to use his mouth to your specificationsSeriously, he just sounds so incredibly oblivious. Have you tried taping his mouth shut?



Omg! You must be dating my ex!! He literally had diarrhea of the mouth. Any amount of silence made him very uncomfortable. The only thing that made is constant yammering tolerable was his beautiful large penis.
Sooo this just happened-
He loves to look over my shoulder while I'm on the computer- which is also fucking annoying. I told him to stop and he just called me weird and few other names and he doesn't understand why he can't look at what I am doing....




$600 shoes, but spending a couple hundred on his dog is too much? What to do? Take the poor dog with you when you leave his self absorbed ass.
Have you considered telling him how much you dislike almost everything about him (in full scale detail - more detail then here, actually write a page or two, maybe literally tape his mouth shut and read it to him, OUT talk him!) and are really only with him still for the love of his dick (girl, we all been there), and that you are going to break up with him, but want to keep fucking him (until you find a better boyfriend - but don't mention that part). Honestly, he seems like the type who would think thats a pretty sweet deal. He sounds like he would be a great friend with benefits, and it sounds like you don't really love him as much as you love the sex, and girl... I know what its like to love the sex more than the man... its a hard ride (pun very much intended).
If he starts to laugh at you when you are crying/going to cry. I would love to mind-fuck with him doing this a few times, whenever he gets all thinking he is pulling one on you, getting you to cry, really play the part and act like you are offended (hell, its okay if you really are)... what you do is... start to cry and as soon as he really thinks he has got you and starts really laughing THEN get a straight face all of a sudden and start laughing your ass off, and whip away the tears and be like "damn bro, you that easy??" and point and laugh at his confusion. Be like "dude, you're game so easy, I know your shit" and turn it on him... I just think that would be funny, to suddenly flip a switch and you start laughing at him because he thinks he has the power to offended you still. Be like "honey this ain't 2014 it ain't gonna be that easy to run your old game on me". I just feel like being sassy in the context would be even funnier.
ps - your sanity and long-term mental health is more important than an amazing dick, it honestly is. I don't want to be the one to admit that, because I have been with horrible men to truly use them for the penises, I mean I have USED men... and now I think you should either dump him cold turkey, or dump him and still use him. Because he literally just sounds like a useless tool - good for nothing but fucking, a total tool in every sense of the word. Some men are though, just useless fucktoys and hell - men say it about some women all the time so its about time one of us admit that there are plenty of men like that too.





^ I was going to suggest fuckbuddy as well, and take the dog.





May I suggest a ball gag.
No sex is worth all of that, but you need to ask yourself why did you go beyond the first date with him. Why did you chose him? There are plenty of men who are great in bed without all that baggage & negativity.
You think he bitches about money now, wait till you have a kid with him. Do you want to bring a kid up with him? All that great sex, will get you pregnant no matter what you take or do to prevent it.
ONLY have sex with men you want to have kids with, until then learn to use toys until you find one who that much trouble. Cause if he bitches about money now, child support will make him even more bitter, angry & hateful. NOT a person to procreate with in life.
NO sex is that great & I have fucked the best. Why do you tolerate such behavior? Those who have the pussy, have the control.
Sam
If you find these things annoying now, you'll be driven absolutely bat shit insane in a few years! And from what I'm reading I don't see a lot of respect in this relationship, given the way you talk about him and the way he interrupts and monopolizes conversations, etc. Just my observation. You say you love him but it honestly just sounds like you love the sex. I'd move on if I were you; no seemingly mindblowing sex is worth that, and you can find great sex with someone else who doesn't drive you nuts.





Do you think he will treat you any better than he treats the dog?





1. Your home is supposed to be your safe place, that sounds like a war zone.
2. It is NOT healthy. That will stress you out & raise your blood pressure, causing many future health problems.
3. Stress kills. It ages you. You will get wrinkles quicker. Your body will age more. You will be less productive at work.
He gets off on pissing you off. He has NO respect for you, your privacy, your down time, your thoughts. THAT is NOT love. You already are resenting him, hard to fuck a man you resent no matter how great the sex is. Love is respect & taking care of each other. He doesn't CARE for you.
How can he care for a child? How can he care about being financially responsible. All that bitching about bills & money is to SET YOU UP into PAYING for all of it.
The world can be a cruel, hard place we all have to fight to get ahead in. Coming home to that cruel, negativity ONLY makes you miserable. RUN He will still be manipulative, get help from abuse hotlines & centers. This is an ABUSIVE relationship, it maybe verbal, but abuse just the same.
Save yourself, Save your future children.
FYI: A good person does not point fingers, laughs & makes fun of other people until they CRY. Much less a person they claim to love. That is CRUELTY. He gets off on being cruel. It is cruel not to take a pet to a vet. Unless you are filthy rich, like a multi-millionaire there is NO excuse for $600 shoes. NOT only is he cruel, that is a man highly in debt. Marry him and all that debt becomes half YOURs. He is SELFISH!
He is self sabotage his finances & yours.
He is self sabotaging your relationship. Which I get he does in ALL relationships & friendships.
You can't change him.
Ask yourself, cause I assume you are young. When you are 40, 50, 60 have several kids with him, are broke, or more than likely hundreds of thousands in debt, can't afford to buy groceries to feed the kids. Will his shopping & $600 shoes be so important? Cause it will to HIM. He maybe loyal NOW. But his ego will in 10 to 20 years make him upgrade to a younger LESS bitter woman. Even though he made you that bitter. Will that great sex matter then?
Think of your future.
Sam
Last edited by Sam38g; 01-07-2015 at 11:26 AM.










Don't walk...RUN!!!!!
Staying with someone JUST because of the sex is the worst. It took me a while to finally end things up with my ex due to the sex.





If a man pointed a finger, laughed at me until I cried. He would end up in a hospital getting the finger reattached.
You THINK he is loyal. Most men cheat, men who have no Respect for the woman they claim to Love. ALWAYS cheat!
Him looking over your shoulder on the computer, is him openly admitting guilt of cheating. He does NOT trust YOU, because he is cheating & wants to catch you at it first to justify his misdeeds.
Bet you don't use condoms. Go get an STD check today.
Sam



one of the best pieces of advice i ever received was to ask myself, "if i had a child with this man, and the child grew up to be exactly like him, would i be pleased or disappointed?"
if the answer was the latter i was wasting my time and moved on.





Sometimes good fucks aren't relationship material.
When you move in with someone, your relationship is now a partnership to survive. His frivolous spending can get you guys in hot water down to road, if it hasn't yet. This guys screams red flags.
I'm also with Sam, if my husband ever pointed his finger and laughed at me, he'd be dead or in ICU. Leave him JoJo. You are beautiful woman with a good head on your shoulders, I'd hate to see a piece of shit fuck up your life.



PS it's so easy to find good sex if you go for the right demographic (age 30+ and the maturity to go with it). seriously, there are over 6 billion peeps on this little blue marble and around half are men. with penises and everything!![]()





You know, we know you came here to get validations of what your instincts are telling you.
You have tried to talk to him about many of these issues only to have him turn it on you & call you crazy. In your heart, in your mind you know what he is doing is WRONG. You know he is a bad person. You know no matter how great the sex is this is NOT a real, caring, loving, equal relationship of someone you can share a life with.
It is only a matter of time, before you leave. Just leave sooner rather than later like when a kid is involved or you are in serious debt. Check his credit score, more importantly CHECK yours, guys like this will get credit cards in their girlfriends/wives names and run up huge amounts of debts. Debts YOU will have to pay, live with & wreck you life for years to come.
He will always spend money he doesn't have. He will only run up debts for the rest of his life. I bet he has a brand new fancy car, not an old paid off beater. His image wouldn't allow for that would it. He will put YOU in debt more and more the longer you stay with him. It never ends well.
He has you questioning your own thoughts & ideas so you CAN't SEE how wrong he is. How much is his dick worth to you? $1000 of debt at 7% interest monthly? $10,000 debt at 17% monthly? $100,000 debt at 25% monthly? It cost you emotionally now and a bit financially. Look at the future he will give you of mountains & mountains of debts. Honey, you will be so tired of working 80 hours a week to pay on it, you won't have energy for sex. Meanwhile, he will never work more than 40 hours a week & run up more debt.
Ask yourself? Since dignity, self respect, normal boundaries being taken away from you wasn't enough to make you run away. How much are you willing to work, support & go into debt for that cock?
I had an ex once who thought it was his RIGHT to fuck me in the middle on the night without permission. Ain't NOBODY allowed to mess with my sleep. I beat the living fuck out of him right then & there, hell, even my Dog went to attacking & biting him. The most chilled out, relaxed dog you will ever meet. He NEVER ever tried that crap again. Men will always try to pull shit over on us as a general rule to see exactly what they can get over on us. How you react is how they learn that limit & what won't be tolerated.
I'm with Autowrit on this one, point a finger, make fun of me, laugh at me, make me cry for your mere amusement is something that fucker would NeVer EVER do again. You not only LET him get away with it, let him be cruel & hurt you on purpose, you let him do many times over. Let me guess, he was just kidding.. that is a line of bs to be cruel, cause it is NOT funny to you. Any person who did that to me, better be prepared to deal with the consequences of it. Maybe you suddenly feel it is funny to knock his ass out with a frying pan, go Madea on his ass.
You need help. You need help from abuse hotlines, centers or online. To see how beaten down & wrong that certain actions are in a real caring relationship are, this is twisted & WRONG.
Sam



Good people, good hearts are born and raised.
Sex is a task, a skill that can be taught and learned. A skill that can be improved over time.
Find a fully grown nature man that you WANT to have in your life, and TEACH him to fuck!
When my wife and I met she had experience, but had never fully climaxed. I had no experience, but patience willingness to learn. Once I got her to talking about what felt good to her, we solved the climax issue.
When we started I asked her if she had ever had an orgasm, her reply was, "I think so". I told her if she wasn't sure, she hasn't had one. Now she's sure.
Barring health or emotional issue we don't have any issues with, "Ringing her bell".
Find a real man, and if he doesn't know what you need, SHOW HIM!
You can train a tongue and cock, but a big heart, that just happens.
Don't want leave the dick? Jesus....




He's not the only man in the world who is hot and good in bed. How would you ever find and know about all the other great sex you could be having with far less annoying men if you are stuck in a relationship with this dude?
People stay in relationships all the time because of illogical "what if I never again find someone who _____ (loves me; is financially stable; fucks good)?" There are billions of people in the world. Someone, somewhere, could be just as good in bed, but not a completely immature, self-centered twat. It's not as though every other woman in the world is off having mediocre sex because your current bf is the best sex-god ever.
And ultimately, even if he has some good qualities, that doesn't mean that his bad ones are worth putting up with. Not every person - in fact most people - who aren't good "relationship material" are necessarily all-around bad people. Almost everyone has some good personality traits. That doesn't mean their big-picture personality is fit to being a good SO to you.
I'm not saying it's easy to find the other people out there who fit all your criteria, but you can't even try if you don't let go of the safety net you already have.
Don't try to win over the haters. You are not the Jerk Whisperer.
Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you.



I will never understand girls who stay because of the sex. That's like.. the most ridiculous thing I have ever heard. You obviously don't like him. That's way more important.





He sounds like an asshole. IMO, you have three options:
1-Explain how unhappy you are and why.If he values your relationship, he'll make steps to change.
2-Tell him you're unhappy and would prefer him as a fuck buddy. Note, I had a fuck buddy or two I had zero respect for before-it was awkward, but yeah, the sex was amazing.
3-Just leave. The shoes-over-vet thing alone would make me do it. Make friends with your Hitatchi and find a cute guy who's good in bed AND not a jerk/baby/selfish, etc..
Sorry if that sounds harsh, I was bashing HIS BEHAVIOR-not his worth as a human being, the choice you end up making in this situation, or the good times you've had that you remember during the awful ones. Best of luck![]()





PS-I get the whole not leaving cuz of the sex thing, it doesn't make you shallow. Actually,after I told him I hated every fiber of his being except eleven inches, the sex got even better. Anyways, good luck and PLEASE make sure the animals can get to the vet, they need you and will appreciate it![]()
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