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    Default Dancer roommate not making rent

    I'll start off by saying that I love my roommate - we are both dancers who have a lot in common.

    However, she has trouble making rent. Though she is beautiful, she is definitely on the heavy side for a dancer - not that I think it matters, but she makes considerably less than I do and I'm pretty sure that's why.

    Last month she just barely made rent, and now this month rent has been due for several days and she still doesn't have her share (I've had my half of rent sitting in my bank account for awhile). She is $130 short and I feel bad because she does work hard, but she isn't making much at all. She just texted me saying she made $8 so far this shift....yet time to pay rent is running out - we already owe a late fee thanks to her

    We have the option to renew the lease next month and idk what to do. She's a great roommate but after living with her only 3 months I've seen the trouble she has just making rent and to think we'd be signing a year long lease.....

    Should I room with her? Talk to her and explain my concern?i know she'll be crushed if I don't want to keep rooming with her but I need a roommate who can afford rent on time

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    Default Re: Dancer roommate not making rent

    I personally would explain that you like having so much in common with her and value her friendship, but that you feel you need to find a new place for yourself. Some people who are good friends do NOT make good roomies, and money troubles are a quick and easy way to cause hard feelings and ruin relationships!
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    Has she thought about switching clubs?
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    I know you don't want to hurt her feelings but this is business. Unless you want to support her then I would definitely move. You'll just end up resenting her big time.

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    She simply isn't a good hustler. Either you need to help her become one or cut your losses now & give her notice to move out. Not your job to financially support her because you are better at hustling than she is.

    On the other hand, I know girls who are great hustlers, make great money but blow it all on nonsense & still never have money for rent.

    Room mates are a tricky thing, hence why I prefer to live ALONE. I know on paper it makes sense to split the rent & bills, but doesn't always works in real life.

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    Quote Originally Posted by somechick99 View Post
    ...I need a roommate who can afford rent on time
    I think you made your most important point right here, which means that you probably need to cut her loose. I know it sucks because you like her and feel sympathy for her situation, but you have to protect yourself first. She's already making your housing situation less secure. Imagine what could happen if you get caught up in a long-term lease and she can't pull her weight or even decides to bail out altogether.

    Good luck as you work through this.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sam38g View Post
    She simply isn't a good hustler. Either you need to help her become one or cut your losses now & give her notice to move out. Not your job to financially support her because you are better at hustling than she is.

    On the other hand, I know girls who are great hustlers, make great money but blow it all on nonsense & still never have money for rent.
    I second the first part: she probably needs to work on her hustle. When I was a baby stripper, I was on the heavier side yet managed to always have enough for rent, food, gas, and insurance. I hope OP is not making comments on her appearance (eg."if you were thinner, you would do so much better").

    She could also supplement her dancing income with another form of sex work (eg. Camming, PSO, fetishes, etc.).





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    Default Re: Dancer roommate not making rent

    As sorry as I feel for her, this is a year long commitment here we are talking about. You can't allow her problem to become yours. The reason people get roommates to begin with is to lessen the financial stress and living with her is defeating that purpose. If I were in your shoes, I wouldn't sign the lease. Stripping isn't working out for her so she's going to have to figure something else out. You can't teach her to be a good hustler, it's something she needs to do herself. Signing that lease would be signing a year's long worth of stress and frustration.

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    That sucks, but consider yourself lucky that you're not yet tied on a lease with her and she made her financial situation clear to you before it came time to sign it. You can't be a great roommate if you're consistently late on rent and incurring late fees, so I say move on once it comes time to renew the lease. Are you interested and can afford to live alone? That's a gentle way of cutting her loose, but if you need a roommate, you can still let her down kindly. Just let her know asap so she's not stuck without a place to live or having to sign the lease herself -- then you also have time to either apartment or roommate hunt.

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    Default Re: Dancer roommate not making rent

    Great friends do not necessarily make great roommates. Every1 else here has already made all the main points, but I have one more to add -- repeatedly being late/unable to pay rent can damage not just your rental history but also your credit. If I understood you correctly, you both are currently named on the lease that's abt to expire. That means, continuing to stay on w/ her + her poor $$-mgmt skills (which is what this boils down to, regardless of the exact cause) can have repercussions for YOU that extend beyond pissing off your landlord & risking eviction. IDGAF what her excuses are, she has no right to shoulder you w/ this burden. Either she shapes up, or you need to make other arrangments.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sam38g View Post
    On the other hand, I know girls who are great hustlers, make great money but blow it all on nonsense & still never have money for rent.
    I agree with this. I simply cannot understand how a stripper could not come up with $130 in 7 days, I mean we're not talking like a grand here. I always have an amount to put for rent aside each week and do no matter what even if it means I can't buy groceries for a few days because being homeless is kind of a big problem.

    Honestly, unless she's completely unresourceful, which I kind of doubt, it seems like she's leaning on your for financial support (which is of course she's gonna be pissed you don't want to sign a lease), hoping you'll make ends meet for her, or just blowing her $ on stupid crap. Either way she may be a great friend but it sounds like a terrible roommate, as they will come after you for the $-- do you want that? If no, kindly tell her you have decided you need to live with someone else, alone, whatever.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jay12 View Post
    I second the first part: she probably needs to work on her hustle. When I was a baby stripper, I was on the heavier side yet managed to always have enough for rent, food, gas, and insurance. I hope OP is not making comments on her appearance (eg."if you were thinner, you would do so much better").

    She could also supplement her dancing income with another form of sex work (eg. Camming, PSO, fetishes, etc.).
    I've never said anything about her weight to her - however her strip club manager has several times. She has also been turned down from a few clubs due to it (which is absurd because she's a great dancer)

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