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    I don't want to call him my sugar daddy because we don't have a set agreed on amount and we date. However he's a64 year old lawyer who sometimes spoils me. Anyway he gave me a really expensive Christmas present in Dec. after we met in Nov. then he called to tell me Merry Christmas and I text him Happy New Year. The thing is I haven't seen him since he gave me my present BUT every time I talk to him (which was last week) he tells me how he can't wait to take me to Italy in July. Am I losing him? Should I call him? Should I give him space and let him call me?

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    Can you email him or send him a message on Facebook? That seems like a way of giving him space, but letting him know you're interested.

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    Maybe I'll text him. I only have his phone number.

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    I've always had the best luck letting the guys come after me. Even if they seem like they forget about you for a while, I'd keep myself busy with other things. They'll either come crawling back, (and spoiling you more) or they won't and that will be your answer. If he thinks you're pining for him, that gives *him* the power. You want to keep that in your court.

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    STOP chasing him, it comes off as desperate. Desperate is NEVER sexy.

    Don't dwell, find a few more to keep you occupied & in gifts until he comes a back around. Give it a few weeks, time to miss you. Then text or call him with how you missed him & been to busy to not have contacted him sooner.

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    Yeah I agree with others that you should play it cool and not seem like you are needing him too much.

    He is a professional type guy, and most guys like that like to 'stand by their word'. So if he promised you a trip in July then next time he calls you, help him keep his word, maybe have some small talk then jog his memory to see when he's going to start making plans for Italy because July will be here in no time.

    Until then do some travels of your own. Keep yourself occupied so you won't be worrying so much.
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    Quote Originally Posted by miss.a.p1600 View Post
    Yeah I agree with others that you should play it cool and not seem like you are needing him too much.

    because July will be here in no time.

    Until then do some travels of your own. Keep yourself occupied so you won't be worrying so much.
    Keep telling me^, cause I'm freezin' my ass off here!
    Yea, agree w/everyone about playing cool. Ooh, I don't even like the word cool


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    It sounds fine - like everything is right on track. Clingy freaks them out - its too like a relationship/expectations.

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    Quote Originally Posted by whirlerz View Post
    Keep telling me^, cause I'm freezin' my ass off here!
    Yea, agree w/everyone about playing cool. Ooh, I don't even like the word cool
    Wait, you keep telling me how much you like the weather there.

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    What kind of an attorney is he? Is he in private practice or does he work for a company or the government? If he is in private practice, is he a solo practitioner or is he a partner a major law firm? What is his law practice? You don't have to answer all these questions on the board, but the reason why I pose these is questions is that some lawyers are busier than other lawyers depending on the time of year. When I was at a law firm, the trust and estate lawyers were extremely busy at the end and beginning of the year as clients wanted to review their trust and estate plans at such time. Similarly, the tax attorneys practically lived in their office from Christmas until mid-April because that was the busiest time for tax issues. If your attorney is a litigator (my original practice), then maybe a case he is handling is preparing to go to trial in the first or second quarter of the new year. In that case, you won't see him until after the end of trial.

    In short, your attorney may have professional reasons preventing him from seeing you. Trust me, a 64-year old attorney nearing the end of professional career would much rather be spending time with a gorgeous younger woman than working away at his office on a case that may not end well. As others have said, don't appear to be chasing him or you'll only add to his stress. He already has partners and clients chasing him for status updates about their cases or complaints about legal bills. Play it cool like your life doesn't revolve around him.
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    Ok! Quick question. I still have not heard from him However every time I check my profile (like several times a week) it shows that he's been checking my profile. Does he think he's going to show back up in July and it's going to be cool or is he jerking off to my pics and done with me?

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    ^ either way there is no action you can take without him reading your 'desperate to go to Italy' vibes so stop investing your time trying to get a definite and get busy doing the other suggestions in the thread. Or don't.

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    Quote Originally Posted by wish View Post
    Ok! Quick question. I still have not heard from him However every time I check my profile (like several times a week) it shows that he's been checking my profile. Does he think he's going to show back up in July and it's going to be cool or is he jerking off to my pics and done with me?
    Idk what profile you are talking about, but the first thing that came to my mind was that he is trying to gather evidence of your communication/interactions with other men.
    Aloof and discreet is best.

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    ^^^^ a thousand percent!!

    I have tried reaching out to different clients/sds and been rebuffed. Always. Usually just ignored but one client informed me I was not his wife. I lost a lucrative regular.

    A paid companion is disposable. Take everything they promise with a grain of salt. Cash up front.

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    My sense is putting a date months in the future like that is telling you he wants some space or wants to move on, but doesn't want a breakup scene. His goal is to take some time off, either because of financial or RL issues, but not totally close the door and keep you from getting angry. Write him off for a bit and develop some new projects. Either way you win.

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    When I took off for my boob job my best regular was dying to see me when I came back. When I texted him tho he gave me a line about being so busy with work, blah blah. I just said "ok babe well don't work too hard. See you soon!" and ignored him. And suddenly two days later he wanted to book for that week. Guys don't like needy.

    It sounds like you're getting a little too emmotionally attached with client. Honestly never really cared much what my clients did as long as I was booked for the week. So if this guy has a business arrangement in mind maybe it's better for you to walk away at this point. I can just see it getting really ugly.

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    ^Agreed. From what they've told me, it's usually because when a girl suddenly turns needy, it's indicative of drug/legal issues they're scared to get involved in. Insulting and not true in every case, but enough to scare them off.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Bahuba View Post
    My sense is putting a date months in the future like that is telling you he wants some space or wants to move on, but doesn't want a breakup scene. His goal is to take some time off, either because of financial or RL issues, but not totally close the door and keep you from getting angry. Write him off for a bit and develop some new projects. Either way you win.
    This^. To me, guys on those sites can be..flakey. If he's checking your profile, he's thinking of you, but I'd still let him be, as was pointed out he having issues/needs space for now.
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    Quote Originally Posted by wish View Post
    I don't want to call him my sugar daddy because we don't have a set agreed on amount and we date. However he's a64 year old lawyer who sometimes spoils me. Anyway he gave me a really expensive Christmas present in Dec. after we met in Nov. then he called to tell me Merry Christmas and I text him Happy New Year. The thing is I haven't seen him since he gave me my present BUT every time I talk to him (which was last week) he tells me how he can't wait to take me to Italy in July. Am I losing him? Should I call him? Should I give him space and let him call me?
    Bolded bc I think this is the most indicative thing you've said abt him that shows how he views you.

    I'm going to be harsh here. I don't think he gives a shit abt you, either emotionally or professionally. Sounds more like he's stringing you along to boost his own ego, & you sound more like a high school girl w/ a crush than a professionally-minded companion. You're further feeding his ego by obsessing abt 'what's going on w/ him?????' & trying to pester him abt 'plans for Italy'.

    Do yourself a favour & write him off already. That it's been a month since you've seen each other, & he's made only minimal efforts (if that) to contact you is making it look more & more like this is just a waste of your time & energy.

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    Quote Originally Posted by SweetJulia View Post
    ^Agreed. From what they've told me, it's usually because when a girl suddenly turns needy, it's indicative of drug/legal issues they're scared to get involved in. Insulting and not true in every case, but enough to scare them off.
    Yeah my last GOOD sugardaddy was pretty upset by going through this kind of experience (he came from a really wealthy religious/conservative background so dealing with his junkie girlfriend was a foreign topic to him entirely.) I met him when he was trying to evict Junkie Girlfriend from his house.

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