My boyfriend of a year and a half is awful. He can't control his temper. He's never violent, but sometimes stuff will set him off, and he'll yell and act like a rabid dog. It's very difficult to deal with because I would never treat him this way.
Today and he and I had planned to go to a museum, do some shopping, and get a nice dinner together since it was our only shared day off for the next few weeks. A few minutes after we left, he began looking for a CD. He opened its case to find one of my rap CDs instead. Then he started with, "You know, my CDs are really important to me and I don't like it when they get messed up." That's totally logical, so I said okay and that I'd be more careful in the future. Even though I'm not sure that I'm the one who misplaced his CD...
He went to put the case back next to some others, but the storage container was untidy with some receipts in it. He handed it to me and told me to fix it. Feeling really awkward and wary by now, I tried to re-organize them, but he just grabbed it out of my hand and said, "Don't bother if you can't fucking do it right!" He started pulling out trash and bits of paper and throwing them on me. Then he started yelling about how he didn't even want to go to the stupid museum anyway (it was his suggestion initially), and that he would just take me back home and he would do his own thing today. He yelled about a bunch of other stuff too, but tbh I stopped listening. I started crying and felt like a total loser.
He dropped me off at my apartment and left. I was so mad that he would act that way over a fucking CD that I texted him I was done, I don't need to be treated that way, he's inappropriate, etc. I packed up ALL his stuff and put it on my front porch. He has since apologized profusely via text, saying he was wrong, he loves me wholeheartedly, etc. But I kind of don't give a fuck! I spent my day being productive and finally running some long-procrastinated errands.
Obviously, he isn't like this all the time. Believe me, the rest of the time he is more loving, sweet, and tender than any other man I've been with. I promise he has redeeming qualities! But is this how relationships are? Do people just treat their partners like shit sometimes? Was I the one who was overreacting? I do love him, but I really struggle with his behavior.



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It's saddening & it hurts to not have him in my life anymore (even tho I am still fighting to have him not completely lose his ass bc of his substance abuse) but we have to take care of ourselves in these cases.

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