
Originally Posted by
Aniela
I'm the last one to slut-shame anyone. As I said, Idc who commits the rape or why, I say feed them each a bullet & let God sort it out. This includes the guy who raped me b4 I started dancing, & pretty much all of the guys I've seen assaulting myself or any other dancer in the 5+ yrs I danced.
Magical_Hoohah said it better than I could, that a good bit of the problem comes from social conditioning. Have you ever danced yourself, or does your experience in sex work not extend beyond the safety of your computer screen? Why exactly do you think so many dancers (myself included) complain not only abt the POS customers who assault us at work, but the mgmt & security in the clubs who let it happen or even outright encourage it? Why do we complain of extras girls in other clubs who essentially condition travelling customers to expect sex acts in every club they visit? There are plenty of threads on here discussing these problems but the common denominator is the environment(s) that permit/encourage this behaviour from customers, thus re-inforcing the idea that such behaviour is acceptable, rather than backing up the complaining dancer & kicking them out or calling the police.
Unless the video from the original link was staged, that girl was a fkng idiot. Do I think she deserves to get raped? NO. Would I want her to get raped to 'Teach her a lesson'? NO. The guy was still 100% responsible for his actions, & had he raped her, I would still file him under 'People who oughta be killed' along w/ any other rapist. But as Magical pointed out above, social conditioning has resulted (intentionally or not) in a sizeable population who wouldn't think twice abt doing so simply bc she answered the door naked, & that's just a sad & disgusting fact of life. Unless she's spent her entire life living under a rock, she's probably well aware of this. Like several others posted, I was fully dressed when I was raped, in a smelly work uniform I'd been wearing for 13+hrs. If so many of us share this experience -- being raped/assaulted while in 'non-sexually-provocative' clothes -- should it really be so surprising that sm POS feels free to attack this girl bc she was naked? Instead of exercising sm common (read: self-protecting) sense, she did smtg akin in many guys' minds to offering herself on a silver platter. So yes, I think she was absolutely 'kicking the hornet's nest'.
Have you read the 'cat de-clawing' snafu in the Lounge? A few posters described having de-clawed their cats thinking it was basically harmless, similar to simply trimming-back the cat's nails. They did this bc THEY WERE NVR TOLD THAT DE-CLAWING = AMPUTATION. Are they still bad, evil horrendous, animal-abusing cretins, regardless of the fact that they refused to de-claw future pets after learning what de-clawing actually entails?
The point I took from Sunny's post, & that I was trying to expand on, is that you can't be completely surprised by a person's actions when they were nvr taught that those actions are wrong. The fault for not solidly teaching these shitsacks that 'naked woman =/= your right to sex' lies w/ society.
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