If my boyfriend is in the military, can doing couples camming hurt his career if he doesn't show his face?
If my boyfriend is in the military, can doing couples camming hurt his career if he doesn't show his face?





Uhhhh my guess would be an overwhelming yes...?
Even if he doesn't show is face, what if someone he knows recognizes you? They would logically assume the guy with you is him... or they will assume it's someone else... and that could create some really awkward and potentially damaging situations as well.
I would file this one under "totally not worth it".
xoxo ~ Sarah




Yes, it can hurt his career, actually it could probably get him dishonorably discharged.... if you guys didn't think it could deep down you wouldn't be on here asking.
You should cam on your own....it wont directly reflect on him if you are found out(maybe..really it could if someone is particularity spiteful....opportunity/cost i guess?) you will be found out if you are popular enough, trust me.





I take you have little knowledge of military rules and regulations. It is not frowned upon.
He can show his face, but he can't show anything military related (his uniform, command/company/platoon/squadron logo, etc.). He can't also mention his military affiliation.
However, he does needs to ask for permission: camming is still considered a job, and not all commands/companies/squadrons/platoons allow their personnel to hold other jobs. He doesn't have to say he's going to be doing sex shows with you (saying something vague like "internet modeling" is enough), but they need to know he's having another source of income.
How I know this? I cammed a few times during my time in the military. I was upfront about doing that but I didn't go into details either. I did stopped because too many people started stalking me. I also danced, and I also requested permission to do so, too.
Thank you, Jay12. I was thinking we should be ok, but he is slightly nervous about the whole thing. I figured I'd ask here before I get him in trouble.





In a legal way, probably not. Like Jay12 said, he does need permission from his immediate powers-that-be & abide by their restrictions, + the military's policies. The military largely doesn't give a shit (according to every authority I've spoken w/) abt adult history as long as it's legal & doesn't interfere w/ your duties.
But just bc they officially don't get in your shit abt it, doesn't mean his fellow servicemen will show him/you the same respect. Even if you + bf keep it quiet among your military circle, they could find your videos by accident. Maybe it's different for females who serve w/ a camming history, but my recruiter described a situation of a female sailor whose male shipmates stumbled on her videos. I've mentioned it in other threads -- her superiors didn't care one way or another abt her history, but her shipmates caused enough trouble that she had to be transferred for her own safety. I would be concerned abt that sort of problem arising for you OP, if you are recognised by his mates -- possible risk to your safety esp if you are in close contact w/ them.





As long as he's not a male prostitute, it's ok. However, they (command/company/platoon/squadron) do need to be aware mostly for safety (like I mentioned above).









Her last name starts with T. She was in NAS Pensacola with me. I knew about her sex work history, but (out of respect) I never mentioned it to her.
The things the UCMJ forbids us to do would be using the military affiliation for non DOD related things; hence I said that as long as the OP's BF doesn't mention his military affiliation on cam he'll be fine. Outside of one's military career, almost anything that's legal (by federal, state, and military laws) it's allowed.
Last edited by Jay12; 01-23-2015 at 11:34 AM.





I wouldn't do it bb. You can personally do it (just disguise yourself) but be VERY careful. I was outed by my husband to his command and it does state that military service members and their spouses are not to do anything that is considered morally inappropriate. I was told to stop, but didn't but they didn't get too involved. I could've been kicked off base but it never got that far but I did continue camming the whole 3 years I lived on base. If you're living off base then I definitely think you'll have a better chance at hiding it considering people might not see you as often.
The military is very close-knit so just be careful as a spouse if you're going to get into this. I don't know how many times they were in our business and over little shit so keep your mouth SHUT about this if you do it. Military wives talk and groups are extremely tight and you don't want your husband getting the brunt of the jokes and such or getting into trouble with his command. I would highly recommend your husband NOT to cam with you. I know a few military spouses that still cam and they rock but they're either getting out, or aren't extremely open about it and wish to remain that way. Good luck!
ETA: Sorry, I thought you were a spouse. Gf's mean nothing to the military so you can cam all you want. I personally don't think he should. Too much drama can be involved. My husband's command was all UP in our business and personally came to my home/was brought up in counseling, etc so I got a pretty embarrassing experience from them knowing. Not to mention my Uncle's and Aunt are Majors and Chief Master Sergeants from the nearby joining base and they could've found out.
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NOOOOO!!!
1. The military (all branches) have been handing out pink slips for almost 2 years now. He can be a top notch NCO, but a character hit like that will ruin his career. - I've watched it happen.
2. There are many "unspoken" rules and standards in the military that aren't exactly outlined in the UCMJ.
3. If they find out and he stays in he will have a hell of a time trying to get promoted.
4. If you do and you're the gf then it won't be too much of an issue as long as you two stay tight (and I mean tight) lipped about it. Some units are worse than others and every unit is different.
5. If his command doesn't like it and they find out. They can get rid of him. - There is a way around everything if the command wants it bad enough.
^^^Source: Me- medically retired NCO (Army)

My husband is in the military and we would absolutely never bring him on cam with me. I don't really advertise that he's military neither, on cam. Makes me all nervous like people could track my IP address/look at surrounding bases and find out where were stationed. I wouldn't even risk it.
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