For me I think its harder to be at work, when I am in love with someone. It makes me feel guilty, for turning other men on.


For me I think its harder to be at work, when I am in love with someone. It makes me feel guilty, for turning other men on.
Last edited by LAQUEEFA; 08-07-2015 at 05:58 AM.
I totally feel this. I don't really get the guilty feeling, but definitely the "I'd rather be with him than at work" thing. Even if it's not particularly realistic to think that all hours spent at work would otherwise be spent with a SO, and logically I know it's silly to feel any weirder about working in the adult industry rather than spending time with a SO than I would about going to some other job rather than spending time with them.
I think, even if I don't feel "guilty" for turning on other guys, I do lose any motivation to care about turning on other men. It's almost the reverse of the phenomenon where, after you've been making money to turn men on, many dancers start to think in terms of "why would I go out and flirt for free when I could be getting paid for it, because now I'm used to being paid for flirting?" Now it's "why would I put effort into turning you on when I don't like you, because now I'm used to wanting to turn someone on because I like them." It starts to feel weird to extend that same sexual/intimate energy to men you don't actually have a connection with, and makes you crave going home to be around the person you'd rather be experiencing that affection with.
Of course, there's arguments to be made for it being easier to deal with work if you have someone good waiting at home. And that would definitely be true some days. But for me, I think being single is easier.
Last edited by Aurora_Sunset; 01-27-2015 at 09:21 AM.
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Theres probably pros and cons to both.
I am single for now and I am glad I don't have to answer to anyone or juggle work and relationship.
I do kinda miss the companionship and love from a romantic relationship but I know I'll have that one day soon.
“Cook for him like a housewife, fuck him good like a nympho….pay the rent and the car note, he invests in me like crypto”


Aurora, I notice they seem a lot grosser to me. They are already gross enough i the looks department, etc. Like when they start talking dirty to me and im rolling my eyes, or when I rather be texting my lover instead of making money.





It's easier to be completely single. When I was in a relationship and dating it felt weirder.





I don't really see a difference. My home life is my home life, work is work. However the downfall with the young ones is their egos get overinflated from time to time. My young thing is considered a GOD among his XBOX live peers. He will continually boast about how he gets to date a stripper IRL. He also takes his buddies out to my work occasionally.
Far from being ashamed he loves my job.
Last edited by tempest666; 01-28-2015 at 02:43 AM.
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Related thread: https://www.stripperweb.com/forum/sh...a-relationship





I tend to get mine young and malleable though.![]()
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I just started working as a dancer a week ago and my partner has been nothing but supportive. He chills at the club I work at about an hour or so before it closes (we share a car so he's also my ride home) and I'm really thankful because without him reassuring me that I looked good on stage, I'd be riddled with insecurities and self-doubt. Especially since the girls there don't give such a warm welcome.
I don't feel guilty about giving lap dances and such in front of him, he understands it's my job and, if anything, he likes seeing me be sexy and sensual and having fun. However, I completely understand wanting to be back at home with your SO for cuddles and kisses. The only difficult thing about this is simply being away from my partner from 6pm-2 or 3am.
Sometimes I wonder how much more of a workaholic I'd be if I were single. I entered the sex industry as a cam model and I'd be online all day if I didn't have a pup to take care of and a boyfriend to spend time with.



The only way to get rid of a temptation is to indulge in it...
~I have no roots. I stay away from groups and communities. I wander, an itinerant lone wolf. I have nowhere to go back to. I either burn the bridges or keep walking. I never look back. I detach and vanish. In my mind, I am not human. I am a machine at the service of a madman that snatched my body and invaded my being when I was very young~





Wouldn't know, Ive been with my partner the entire time I've danced. It would make the (non-sex) sugar babying stuff easier but at the end of the day it is what it is.... I like the money to much to quit regardless of the approval or disapproval of others.

For me single is muchmore easier! I even do not care about money if i am in relationships, so its not good))



The only way to get rid of a temptation is to indulge in it...
~I have no roots. I stay away from groups and communities. I wander, an itinerant lone wolf. I have nowhere to go back to. I either burn the bridges or keep walking. I never look back. I detach and vanish. In my mind, I am not human. I am a machine at the service of a madman that snatched my body and invaded my being when I was very young~




Easier to be in a relationship because you have someone to help you out financially if you are having a bad week/month. Harder to balance the relationship when your job is to get other guys hot. I would say for the job itself, it is easier to do when single, but life is harder when you are single.
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