Hello ladies,
I need some good advice from intelligent women like you all. I recently found out that my boyfriend had been involved with his ex girlfriend the entire time we have been together, about a year and a half. By involved I mean writing her emails, texts and facebook messages frequently. Messages that say he is ready to be a couple again, give things another try, wants to see her boobs. etc. She responded back with dirty pictures and played along with everything. In the beginning he was distant, it took almost 9 months for him to call me his girlfriend but eventually he did and started to tell me he loved me. Fast forward to this last summer. He left the state to work at a seasonal job for four months. They had originally met at this job and she was there last summer as well. I know I shouldn't have but I read his text messages and found out that their relationship started right back up as soon as he got there. Like the day he flew in they slept together. Before he left, he had cried and told me he wished I could come with. that he loved me, wanted me to be with him when he got back etc. So I am just so confused why he would say all that to me and then go to a different state and get all emotionally involved with her too. It blows my mind. Why not tell me the truth? Eventually I broke up with him because his communication was faltering but we still stayed in touch and decided that we wanted to give it another go as soon as he got back. He is now back. We have been living together for about three months and things are going well but what he did is still eating at me. I feel heartbroken and so angry. Like our entire relationship was one joke and he totally played me. Kept me on the line while he tried to work things out with her. I love him and I know things are really done between them. I know this because I read his messages. Horrible I know but I just had to find out the truth. He wants me and I am the only person he has ever asked to live with him. His sister even told me this. I want to be happy but I think about leaving every day. I have talked to him about this and he has apologized and tried to explain himself but I just can't trust him anymore. I don't know what to do. Should I just wait it out and let time take her away from him? I just feel like I am not respecting myself by staying but I love him so much and he is a good responsible man. However, any thought about what he did or of her sends me into a crying fit for an hour. I need to know if any of you have had an experience like this and how you handled it. I am seriously so stuck, smiling at him but dying inside. Help!



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