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    Angry Prospective BA and haters (vent post)

    So I used to have big boobs (34D) and then lost 30 pounds...now I have a deflated 32B (or C when I gain water weight from my period). I'm OK with what I have and I make decent money, but I do have to hustle and pretty much wear VS pushup bras all the time when I work. I'm also pretty limited in the gowns I can wear, for this reason. They aren't terribly saggy, like I don't need a lift and I've never had kids (don't plan on it either). But they're not perky at all IMO. So I've deciding to get a BA, and that is not up for debate, my mind is made up.

    What seriously irritates me is when people feel the need to convince me that I shouldn't do it, when I never asked for an opinion. Or when customers run that bullshit when they say "I only like natural" or "fake boobs don't feel right" or "I can easily tell if they're fake." All of those statements are lies. BA surgery has become much more advanced, need I say more. But what really burns me is that my the bartender at my club (who is male) tried to tell me that I'm getting them because I want male attention. Um fuck no that's not my reason, jerkoff. I'm feminist at heart so I could honestly give a fuck about a man's opinion. I more than enough attention from men (custies and non custies) and I could give a shit, that only means that I have more assholes to sift through before finding an actually decent guy. I'm tired of dating piece-of-shit guys, I'd rather be single. Anyway, don't try to tell me why I'm getting my boobs done. It's my fucking prerogative! Last but not least, I'm annoyed by my coworkers and their hateful reactions. This one girl legit raised her voice at me and called me retarded for wanting a boob job, and a few others tried to tell me I was too small, too young (almost 21, but whatever), that I wasn't going to stop growing until 25 (psssh right!) and to wait until after I have kids (so possibly...never). However my friends told me that I would look good with one, and one of them makes great $$$$ with her fake boobs and actually taught me how to make $$$$ hustling, & she's hardly ever been wrong!

    But the truth is, the reason I'm getting them is not to make money or impress anyone else (although money is a side perk). I'm doing it to impress myself. I want to look hot not only in bras or topless, but in a bikini, regular clothes, sports bras, or a fucking trash bag for that matter. People may judge me for this, and it's extremely frowned upon in this country (or my area of the country) for women to be vain, but I've been this way since I was young and thought I was a disney princess. No shame, at least I can admit it. It doesn't mean I think I'm better than others or that I don't perceive other women as very attractive. It doesn't mean that I'm stuck up and it doesn't mean that I only care about looks. Yet they are still very important, and if I grew up in a different country (such as Italy, Brazil, Colombia, etc) then my level of attentiveness to aesthetics would be the cultural norm. Plus my mom had her boobs done before I was a little kid, so I that was my standard of what boobs are supposed to look like. But whatever. I'm done now. I can afford the surgery and it's what I want, so I'm freakin getting it. Fuck everyone who tries to dump their negativity on me. Like Lil Wayne said, "I'm Ray Charles to the bullshit." Rant over.

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    Don't ask anyone for their opinions. Do what you want and keep it to yourself.
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    I wish there was an "auto-like" setting that I could just have applied to all of your posts Sophia....

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    The thing is I never 'asked' them at all, I just mentioned it casually what I was doing and they felt like they needed to give their opinion. But I see your point, I probably don't even want to mention it to anyone if I'm going to get a bunch of negativity from it.

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    "The dogs bark, but the caravan passes on." -Chinese Proverb.
    "Fake tits are like Kevlar. They don't guarantee your chances of survival but they sure as hell improve it."
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    Who cares? People say stupid shit, don't let it get to you. Keep your future aspirations to yourself. When you go around telling everyone what you want in the future, they are going to inject their opinions because I guarantee you they didn't come up to you and ask you if you were getting fake tits anytime soon - you just told them. So, you get what you gave and you're surprised. Get over it.

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    Default Re: Prospective BA and haters (vent post)

    Ok, you can have your tits done (it's not my place to stop you) but bigger tits won't immediate translate to more money. Anyway, it seems you have other reasons aside from dancing to have them done and that's what truly matters.

    That being said, I've seen too many dancers getting boob jobs SOLELY on the basis that they think it will automatically make them more money and then complaining about not making money because they thought that customers would automatically line up to dance with them. You WILL still need to hustle (just as much as now), so don't think that new boobs would do the hustling for you. If new boobs end up making you feel more confident, then great, but don't expect them to be a magic solution.





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    ^^This isn't always true. My hourly income went up 50% on average. I used to hustle my ass off and do well, but now I can usually coast in comparison and make more money. I still have to hustle obviously, but it's more about spotting the right person, shoving boobs in face, and having him bring up the dance/VIP/whatever, vs spotting the right person and having to court him or her for a while before making money. No guarantees, obviously.

    To the OP: These guys probably have a variety of reasons for trying to argue with you about it. Some might be trying to flatter you in an awkward way, others might be playing a game of 'bother the stripper,' a lot of them are overestimating their fake-boob radar, whatever. I think every dancer who mentions a boob job gets the lecture. Unfortunately for me it was before I even thought about getting one.. talk about unsolicited!

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    I'm in the same boat as lol1337a. I used to have to try way harder before my BA and now I make more money with less effort most of the time. I have a nice ass but customers don't see that when you're in their face talking to them.

    One girl at my club literally told me before I got my BA "you're going to regret it" (she didn't have her boobs done mind you, she was flatter than me) and now that they're done she says "I love your boobs!!" I also have most of the other girls asking for the name of my doctor and saying they're getting theirs done now, lol.

    Everyone hears the same things you do, trust me. "Natural is better" "You look perfect now PLEASE don't change them!" "I hate fake boobs", etc. It's all a load of BS. I have never heard anything negative about my new boobs so far and even if I did I wouldn't give a rats ass because I think I look amazing with them! I also got them for myself and not work, but it's a major plus they seem to make it easier for me to make more money.

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    If you have a strong hustle before I think it helps a lot. My experience was different than most because I always had boobs, albeit saggy bean bag tits.
    "Fake tits are like Kevlar. They don't guarantee your chances of survival but they sure as hell improve it."
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    It is, unfortunately, the societal norm that everyone thinks that it's perfectly acceptable to give unwanted, rude-ass opinions to women on what they should do with their looks and body. Because, as your bartender so beautifully exemplified - everyone assumes that the only reason a woman ever does anything with her looks is to get other people's attention and approval. And if you admit to simply doing it for yourself, you are "vain and stupid."

    When I told one of my best friends that I wanted to get a nose job, she got uncharacteristically nasty with me and told me that people who got plastic surgery were "fake" and she would never respect me anymore, and she hoped that if I got it, my nose would have complications and cave. in. Many months later, I brought it up, and she admitted that she only said those things out of jealousy because she thinks I'm so pretty that it made her angry to hear that I felt a desire to surgically alter any part of me.

    And I can't even recall all the instances where people have asked me why I dye my hair blonde and then proceeded to pontificate about how they liked me better with my natural brown hair.... without me ever even implying that I was seeking an opinion...

    So bottom line: bitches be jealous when you want to improve yourself, and people in general assume that a woman's body is a public forum for debate. And when it comes to BAs, guys are not as clever as they think they are in "knowing" or "feeling" the difference, and they are colossal liars in terms of saying shit like "I don't like fake boobs."
    Don't try to win over the haters. You are not the Jerk Whisperer.

    Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you.






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