So- I've gotten married recently and I'm discovering my spouse is literally THE most negative person I have ever met. I thought he was in a funk and that it would end, but it's been months. We got married really quickly after getting to know each other which might not have been the smartest choice. Please no judgment there :/ Be nice to me, please .__.
He never wakes up in a good mood. He's never happy for no reason. He NEVER feels optimistic or excited. I know he struggles with depression and so do I, so I'm trying really hard to be uplifting and I mentioned him getting help and he seemed open to it but I don't want to push him and be too domineering and controlling, because I worry that if he feels pushed into therapy or something then it might be a negative experience.
He also yells a lot. Not at me, not at anything really. We have a new puppy and if he has an accident and spouseguy accidentally steps in it, it's a loud rumbling "FUCK' and I'm terrified of loud noises.
I dunno - I'm just scared that this will spiral into the deep depression/abuse my dad ended up displaying when I was a kid. I don't want that for my family...I dunno what to do :/
Should I just keep trying to stay positive and mention seeking help? it's affecting my work too. Both vanilla and sex-work...so I know I can't keep on too long with this





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