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    My ex loaned me $380 dollars while we were together when I was sick. Since then I've had plenty of money to pay him back but I hate him so much I haven't. I know he needs it a lot more than I do but I want to punish him. Part of me feels bad about it. I kinda feel like I shouldn't have to bc he was cheap while I was with him at first he spoiled me then he started making me pay for half of everything. He fell in love with who he wanted me to be not who I really am. He also showed his true colors at the end of the relationship he called me ghetto and started tossing around the n word he didn't say it to me but he would say it about other people. He was antisemetic and homophobic. I was stupid and told myself he can't be racist or homophobic bc he was nice to my family (my family is black) and my gay friends. But looking back I was being a fool. I wasn't nice to him but he was so wrong for what he did. Should I feel guilty and just give it back to him or just say fuck it?

    edit: I was thinking about donating the money to a charity in his name. I especially don't want to give it to him now so he can spend it on his new gfs valentines day gift.

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    Default Re: Should I pay my ex back?

    Uhm. Pay him back. It would be the right thing to do.

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    Default Re: Should I pay my ex back?

    Don't pay that POS back!!!! Keep your money girl c'mon! I owe my bf over $1000 but he's not getting it bc he's turned into an abusive monster towards me & I hate him. Besides $380 ain't shit. Ha! Tell him to cry a river, build a bridge and get over it :p
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    Default Re: Should I pay my ex back?

    I was about to suggest to donate to a charity in his name but was there a verbal or written contract that you would pay him back?

    If you want to stick by your word and be done with it so you won't consume energy thinking about it then just send him the money.

    Or maybe there's some sort of escrow account you can put it in then he could access it that way so he gets the money indirectly
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    You pay him back you show your character. Just another thing to remind him what he's missing.

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    I would pay him back just so you could be done with him for good.


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    Default Re: Should I pay my ex back?

    I was all about to say, "Pay him back!" but reading that he's a racist homophobe makes me feel less generous. On the one hand, it's your word, on the other, he's an ass. I wouldn't blame you for not paying him back.

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    IMHO if it was understood by both of you that it was a loan, then you should pay him back. IMO all of that other stuff is just irrelevant noise. When you borrow money from someone, you assume an obligation to pay that person back, regardless of whether he/she is racist, homophobic or even an ax murderer. Also, why leave him with the lingering satisfaction of believing that you wronged him on this? IMHO you should just repay the loan, which will also cut whatever last string he may have to tie you together.

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    Quote Originally Posted by rickdugan View Post
    IMHO if it was understood by both of you that it was a loan, then you should pay him back. IMO all of that other stuff is just irrelevant noise. When you borrow money from someone, you assume an obligation to pay that person back, regardless of whether he/she is racist, homophobic or even an ax murderer. Also, why leave him with the lingering satisfaction of believing that you wronged him on this? IMHO you should just repay the loan, which will also cut whatever last string he may have to tie you together.
    Jeez, why do you have to be so mature and rational?

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    *lol*

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    Default Re: Should I pay my ex back?

    i think i know deep down inside it's the right thing to do so i'll go ahead and do it i just can't stand him i just wish i could punish him for all the wrong he's done

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    I'd pay him back he did care about you to help with something around the time you were ill. Regardless if he is racist and a homophobe issues. He helped you even tho he was a retard. Just put the money in an envelope tell him the reason why and thank him for helping you out during the time you were ill. Move on dont dwell. He will sit and most likely be bothered by how he treated and said about your family and friends. And then Dont have contact with him ever again. You win in the end.

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    Just pay it back but money order or check that has his name printed on it (your bank can issue it.) In case he ever lies and says you never paid, you have material proof & can make him look dumber than he already is. Proving your honor costs $380. Making him look pathetic is priceless.

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    Quote Originally Posted by laurielegs View Post
    I would pay him back just so you could be done with him for good.
    ^^This.

    It might be bad karma to keep his money.

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    ya i was thinking about karma idk if i believe in it but im just going to send it through western union so i dont have to see him

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    Quote Originally Posted by funismymiddlename View Post
    i think i know deep down inside it's the right thing to do so i'll go ahead and do it i just can't stand him i just wish i could punish him for all the wrong he's done
    Paying him back will say a lot more about yourself than not paying him back would say about him. The punishment comes from him knowing you don't need any connection with him anymore.

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    As tempting as it is to not pay him, ...not paying him gives him drunken rant fuel to trot out his stupid prejudiced ideas in connection to the unpaid debt.

    I've also noticed a flawless kiss-off is more hurtful to deeply imbalanced people...saying "I don't need you" by slicing off connections THAT way leaves a truth he can't dispute, even if he lies and says you never paid the money. Deep down, he will know.

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    I would pay him back. Regardless of what type of person he was, it was still his money he loaned to you and if you already agreed to do it, then it would be the right thing to do.

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    It doesn't matter how big a piece of shit he was, you pay him back because of how big a piece of shit YOU are not.
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    Pay him back next month- well AFTER V-day LMAO.

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    lol ariel im waiting until monday so he wont have extra money to buy that bitch a nice present

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    Quote Originally Posted by funismymiddlename View Post
    lol ariel im waiting until monday so he wont have extra money to buy that bitch a nice present
    Love this...lol....

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    Pay him back, assuming it won't put you in a bad place financially. In quarters. Maybe week old meat.
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    Quote Originally Posted by SweetJulia View Post
    In quarters. Maybe week old meat.
    LOL! quarters are a good idea

    Be the bigger/mature person and pay him back. Then it'll be over with & good riddance to that.

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    Haha I like the idea of quarters.

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