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    Lately Ive just been feeling so blah and down almost to the point of being depressed. I've caught myself eating constantly cause I have nothing to do or mopping to the point of being lethargic and not going into work, but being bummed that i'm home alone. I was thinking maybe a change of scenery should help since my current club could possibly be putting me in such a foul mood. We have switched managers four times in the last three months, and this week it has been so unbearably slow to the point that on a sunday we had twenty girls show up and three guys walk in from 830-closing. Not to mention the new boss is a dick and fired one of the only girls who was bringing in customers because she "gave him an attitude" which to me was complete bull over a stupid reason that I would have copped an attitude if it had been me. I havent been making money at this club which I think is making me reflect on self worth which I know isnt the smartest thing to do but it sucks when you cant even keep your cell phone on because you used all your money paying for your car insurance and a speeding ticket that has wiped out all the money that I have literally made all month so far. Im also feeling bummed because all of my friends are busy and no ones really answering my texts or calls which makes me feel like a hinderance. What do you usually do to pull yourself out of slumps like these? Would traveling for a week or two help in these instances?

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    It sounds like it might be healthy to have something else going on in your life aside from work. Have you thought about volunteering somewhere? Volunteering is a great way to gain some perspective; plus, it's a resume builder, makes you feel good, and gives you an excuse to get out of the house regularly.

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    I feel you, K. I am so wanting to hit the road, I'm on here reading Club Chat trying to decide where to go. It sounds like your club is so slow/dead. This time of year is hard for me. It's freezing cold & I get cabin fever.
    I hope you find a solution.


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    Default Re: Stuck in a massive slump.

    thanks, usually winter is some of the best months but with all of the managment switches and girls leaving its messed completely up. I dont think where I stay at has alot of volunteer work? Which sounds silly but I will definately look into getting out of the house to do something If I dont go to florida or maine.

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    Babe I totally feel you on the whole asshole managment crap. I too am dealing with it & am also in a slump. I'd say travel but only if you can afford to right now. Can you try another club in or around the area for awhile? Or at least work the shifts that that specific jerk doesn't? I'm thinking of heading to Florida myself haha I'd say go someplace sunny fer sure bc you need all the vitamin D you can get right now to heal your depression.

    ^ I seriously don't think volunteering is the answer. She needs to be making money right now, not wasting her time somewhere. Volunteering is really only good if you have money in your pocket & CAN take the time off to piss around.

    I hope things look up for you asap, shit sucks for me too right now but we gotta just push thru it <3 What doesn't kill us makes us stronger~
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    Default Re: Stuck in a massive slump.

    Maybe you can work on more busier shifts where you have greater chance of making money. Or find a second line of work to supplement what you make at the club.
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    Default Re: Stuck in a massive slump.

    @Goth ^ I hear ya. Usually it's good for money if you have other things going on in your life to boost your self esteem, give you perspective, etc. But perhaps not in the OP's situation. It was just a suggestion.

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    I would second volunteer work just for sanity's sake and not your wallet. I volunteer at a clinic for mentally and physically disabled people and I will go in with all my personal problems and leave with a reality check. I will go in worrying all week about how much money I'm going to make this weekend, all the debt I need to pay off, how not having a car sucks, etc. and then I work with a 28 yr old who can't speak at all & just relearned how to walk because he drowned as a kid and it gave him major brain damage but he still considers himself blessed. I'm only there about 3 hours a week so I think anyone has time for that. Sometimes you just need to get out of the strip club world and see how someone else lives to help yourself mentally and to really appreciate what you do have. I would also second going to a new club though. I recently felt like I was having a burnout but went to a new club and I didn't actually work but somehow it made me get out of my funk at my usual club.
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    I think you have a good point about finding what it is in your life you have to be grateful for and then go from there.

    No matter how tough life is at this moment for some of us there is always at least one thing to be thankful for. And going through a tough situation is just feedback that it's time to step up and start making positive changes in life. The storms of life are only temporary and I believe are what build character.

    It's hard not to focus solely on money when practically everything we do costs money! But like others mentioned before step outside your current issue and maybe for a day do something that costs no money like walk in the park or send a note of gratitude to someone or meditate etc maybe even donate a portion of the money you do have to someone else because when you give you receive. And be open to receiving.
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    Default Re: Stuck in a massive slump.

    Lol the issue I have with working at different clubs is that im black, which sounds stupid but In charlotte Ive found that unless I know managment personally or am prepared to go to the two "urban clubs" i can't really get hired unless I bring a white friend. Went to all 23 clubs twice and none would hire me. I do think that doing something humbling will help me out a little as well as going to Florida in the next upcoming weeks. It will help not only my sanity but my pockets as well. Ill also be trying out a new club tomorrow If it doesnt snow to badly here. :-)

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    Whenever that feeling came upon me, I would pack a bag, and go on a trip. I never had a set time frame that id be gone, because It always seemed to 'click' when it was time to go back home. I get bored very easily if im bogged down by the mundane and the same. Plus im really outgoing and enjoy travelling by myself cause i meet people so easily

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    Default Re: Stuck in a massive slump.

    I say this with love: For God's sake STOP EATING! Work out to discharge your stress. Eating will make you even less hire-able. I know what you're saying when it comes to Charlotte. I lived the bewildering racism in their hiring. You need a long and short term plan because that issue has been a problem in Charlotte clubs for years and won't stop until certain owners sell or close up shop.
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