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    Duh Newbie to SW, new mom, newish cam model, loads of anxiousness.

    ​Hi there!

    I have been lurking and reading like crazy on here for the past two months. I Just wanted to introduce myself and get some shit off my chest. If someone reads this long ass post and wants to give me any advice or support then thanks in advance!

    I just had a baby, yay! I have been a cam model I guess technically for over a year now. Before I got pregnant I was battling depression and anxiety at least that's what my doctor calls it. I was self medicating with alcohol and my life was shit. Lost my apartment, lost my car lost almost everything. I could of avoided all of that if I would of logged on and put the time in. Back then and now I average $25 per hour on SM putting little effort in( not great because I can't afford good lighting need to upgrade my cam extra) I didn't though, and I watched everything crumble. Blah blah, fast forward a little bit and BOOM I got pregnant. It was a HUGE wake up call probably saved my life the little bugger. I got a vanilla shitty paying job that treated me like shit and said worse things to me than trolls online. My pregnancy came with a pile of high risk complications, baby was born and in the NICU for a few scary weeks and fast forward three months he's healthy, Im trying to cam and left those assholes at the vanilla job. So I guess my question is does anyone have depression, anxiety (or ADD which is what I belive I actually have that's causing the depression and anxiety). If so how the fuck do you get past it. I Think only people that have one of these things will really get what I mean. Dissociation is deteriorating my life and I can't let it happen like it did before. Any personal success or advice from anyone?

    Ok ok so here's some other stuff that I have kind of seen asked before by doing a search but not much insight on this taboo subject. I'm lactating and guys are all about it on SM. My problem is, 'ok want to see it, let me sit here and moan while I hand express'. Seems like that wouldn't be very entertaining, anyone do something creative or found that guys like a certain thing about it. Im good at faking enthusiasm and confidence if I know what to do. I Mean I'll pump it into a cup and dump it over my head if it pays good lol.

    Im considering clips4sale on top of camming to hopefully help supplement me when I have my problems with dissociation. My doctor won't listen when I tell her I think I have ADD probably because so many people just want the stimulants, but she loves to prescribe me drugs for depression where all they do is either make me shit my pants or not shit for two weeks. Do people on here really like clips4sale? I know that's a stupid question but I'll ask it anyway. It doesn't seem like you can block certain states from seeing content, anyone know if I'm wrong about this? I want to weigh out if the money is worth the exposure.

    I don't have family to worry about finding out about what I do but If I can avoid friends finding out (what few I have left) than I would like at least attempt to conceal. Surprisingly I'm more worried about the fact I'm out of shape and don't want people I know seeing me like this. Shallow but true.

    I have more more questions but I will start with this because I have started this post like ten times in the past two months and my mind won't let me focus enough to finish and put this out there.

    Im really struggling with the focus part. I lose hours everyday if anyone has something that's helped them through that it would be awesome.

    The other thing is a name I need to come up with a better stage name. Mainly just putting this in here as a commitment to figure that out. I'm on SM with the performer name Reinababy and I hate that name I came up with it back in my drinking era and didn't even put though into it. It sounds so stupid. I contacted SM support to ask if I could change it and didn't get a response.

    Thanks for your help.

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    Default Re: Newbie to SW, new mom, newish cam model, loads of anxiousness.

    Going out the door at the moment, but just wanted to link to this thread:

    https://www.stripperweb.com/forum/sh...on-quot-thread

    I have motivation issues too and this thread has helped me more than anything else.


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    Congrats on being a mommy and glad your baby is healthy <3


    It's probably really hard to cam with a newborn, but if you can, you can try to cam in short burst instead of doing long shifts. Say you want to work, what? 4-5 hours a day? Break it up. Cam for an hour or while the baby naps. I have a hard time staying focus during long shifts. I have to constantly be stimulated before I lose interest.

    Clips are great way to make passive income. If you are lactating (and comfortable with the idea), you can make lactating clips. It's a big fetish and you can make some good money as long as those clips stay available on C4S.

    You had a baby, your body went through serious changes and that's fine. You don't have to be slim to be a camgirl. Women come in all shapes and sizes, and there are guys who prefer chubby, bbw, curvy over slim or athletic. Many bbw girls on SW can definitely back me up on this one.

    Stage name. Think of something you really like. Are you nerdy? Maybe select a name that references a hobby, show, comic, or movie. You can also pick a double entendre.

    Here are some name generators if you can't think of anything

    http://www.kuhmillion.com/burlesque/...tage-name.aspx
    http://popstarname.com/
    http://rumandmonkey.com/widgets/toys...7#.VOKvpvnF-gM
    And just for the lols
    http://www.mess.be/inickgenwuname.php





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    Thank you Laurielegs and audritwo. Every little bit of encouragement helps. Something about putting it all out there makes me feel accountable. My thoughts are very disorganized and I tend to waste time away getting lost in them.

    The stat the fuck on thread is great, gives a good energy.

    Clips4sale is going to be one of my goals this week along with working on a better "brand" for myself, including a name.

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    Congrats on the baby! I don't have too much advice, as I'm fairly new at camming myself (about 6 months)
    But I will say:
    I offer lactation on sm (I have an 18 month old) and 8/10 of my shows are milk shows. There's a pretty huge market for it. You have to make sure you advertise it though. I write about it in my profile and "topic" section. It does seem like it would be boring lol but guys love just watching you play with your nipples/squirt milk out. That's all I do. Every now in then I'll get someone who wants me to pump. I also sell my milk videos on extra lunch money, and plan on branching out to c4s soon. As far as branding yourself, I'm not very good at to good at that either. But try starting with a twitter. But the more you stream, the more exposure you will get.
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    Quote Originally Posted by evielee View Post
    Thank you Laurielegs and audritwo. Every little bit of encouragement helps. Something about putting it all out there makes me feel accountable. My thoughts are very disorganized and I tend to waste time away getting lost in them.
    I have become a list maker. I have my whole life pretty much scheduled and before I go to bed I make a list of things I need to accomplish the next day. If anything on that list hasn't been completed, I move it to the top of the list the following day. I recently started doing this, and it has helped sooooo much!





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    Thanks ladies! I should start making lists. Yesterday certainly didn't help my confidence or mind I had all ass hats on SM it was a record bad night for me.

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    I would def get started with c4s especially now that you're lactating. That's something not everyone can offer. It's true that you can't block states but if you feel really uncomfortable you can get started with clips that don't show your face. There are lots and lots of categories to chose from so you'll def find something you enjoy filming and when you see the clips sell (and they will) you'll be motivated to do more.

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    I don't have much advice, aside from RECORD, RECORD, RECORD, and SELL.

    Just know that you're not alone. Check out the 'Sick Girls Camming Club'
    https://www.stripperweb.com/forum/sh...s-Camming-Club
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    Like, I'm happy having my sexy pr0n everywhere, but I don't really want a bunch of clips of me popping balloons in diapers all over the place XD

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    Thanks ladies. I opened up a c4s store about five days ago. I only have 12 clips up. I'm still dealing with a lot of shit right now sometimes I wish I could shed off all the anchors and make that money. Currently it's some self inflicted pain it's taking up all my time. After I'm done taking care of my dogs and baby it's all I seem to do with. The money I could make if I spent that energy on work.... the harder I try to stop and the harder I try to heal my mind the worse I become.

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    You can do this! You have overcome a lot to make it this far, you've already climbed mountains, and you should take great pride in that.

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    I agree with Audritwo! I have a 5 month old and I plan on setting up my "camming corner" and just logging on for an hour or two whenever I can throughout the day. Congrats on your little one too btw. I'm trying to see being a mom as more of a motivation. I mean, we're mom's...we're already badass, we just have to channel it to being webcam models. I know it's hard looking past that little bit of postpartum pudge, or stretch marks, etc...(speaking from personal experience here) but you have to remember there is always someone out there who will see you and go "whoa! =O" in the most fantastic way imaginable. Anyways, I'm just happy we've got some mom's on here because it is a lot more of a challenge because we can't just hop on whenever and for however long, and our bodies aren't perfect, but we can still rock it out!

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    Evielee, congratulations!

    You will get tons of practical solid advice on camming from these forums, and since I'm new I don't have much to add in that area...
    but I wanted to reply, because the anxiety, depression and dissociative states possibly stemming from ADD all resonate for me. I have a theory that ADD could be the result of having our own story, knowing our own story, yet being stuck in a cookie-cutter framework that does everything to invalidate that story and distract us and keep us a self-medicated labor force. Because barely any of it applies to our real story, nothing seems worth focusing on... then again that may just be my projection. (But it's for that reason that I tried to do cam work in the past and look forward to doing it again--less pretending required.)

    The thing that most helped my ADD and the resultant anxiety and depression was to start listening to my instincts above what others around me deemed appropriate or wanted from me. Other things that have helped in the short term particularly with anxiety are:
    1. Going for a short, non-exercisey leisurely walk.
    2. Cutting out or reducing caffeine; I still drink coffee when I am depressed and can't stay awake, but I am noticeably more anxious the next day, so I try to stick with tea.
    3. Meditation. Sometimes. I use Susan Piver's free videos (she's really down to earth and has a calming voice and says things that make sense to me)
    5. Cleaning something. My mind can still go on rambling, but I don't have that horrible "caged" feeling that I would if I were sitting at the computer trying to ignore it.
    6. Cutting out poisonous people from my life. It's a tough call to make, but my mind is enough of a jungle without someone randomly blowing in poison darts. On SM, which I do have some experience with, this equates to using the ban button. That simple action gave me a deep sense of security and agency and allowed me to stay focused on making money and not wasting my energy being upset by other people's energies.
    7. And last, being kind to myself. Sometimes, all I have left is restless energy. I cannot think or do something "productive" but I am wired and cannot sleep. So I will play Spider Solitaire, which has become a self-medication for me, and I will feel the absurdity of the time I'm wasting but I will also forgive myself for it because some part of me is soothed by it. (Maybe not surprisingly, I play a lot less since taking this attitude.)

    I feel strange after writing all this because it may not apply (and it's a month since you posted) but regardless--
    Good luck to you! And thank you for sharing.

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    Fight to get diagnosed for ADHD. Getting that and proper treatment changed my life. Don't let any doctor limit what you can do in your life. They are professionals but not perfect. Look for CHADD and other ADHD directories of providers in your area or one you can drive to. Most likely you will go to a child psych but they will still help adults.

    Even if that's not what's going on you will be able to rule it out. And ADHD sites have so much info on getting motivated and organized. Ari Tucker, Russel Barkley, Ed Hallowell are good resources. ADHD is a neurological disorder so if you have it, it significantly affects your quality of life but that can be mitigated with proper treatment. Also google ADD forums. Good luck!
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    I scanned this and everyone here has posted awesome shit but I think the one tip that hasn't been covered is RECORD YOUR SM FEED. That way you can edit it later down to the lactation shows and if they're up to par (no names, etc.) you can sell those as well, on top of the dedicated clips!

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    ^^How do you record your SM feed? Sorry I'm totally new to all this as well.
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    Quote Originally Posted by ScarletKitten View Post
    ^^How do you record your SM feed? Sorry I'm totally new to all this as well.

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