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    Default Please do not talk to me.

    I do not make friends with girls when I come into work. Every once in a while I make idle conversation if I get asked a question.

    My manager let me leave a lil early Friday night. I said thank you, hugged him, and gave him a kiss on the cheek. This 20 yr old girl came up to me and said I shouldn't kiss my manager on the cheek bc people might get the wrong idea. I have been in this game for eleven years. People need to mind their own business. There are hundreds of girls in the club. Who cares what they think. They don't pay my bills. And most people kiss someone on the cheek when they are leaving. It's common practice.

    I'm ranting on here bc I was nice and just walked away.


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    Fuck her! Im dealing with someone who cant mind their business, and of all the annoyances of people, this one grates on me the most.

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    I totally understand your sentiment. I make it a mission in every club I work to actively avoid having to deal with the other girls, avoiding the DR, or having to hear mindless chatter or opinions from the other girls.

    Drawing from past experience nothing good ever came of it. Sometimes I will end up getting to know a girl a little more, but then something happens where there is something wrong with the girl, either trying to take advantage somehow, being involved in drugs or something, or just being a psycho.

    There were a few instances where this was not the case, and incidentally those girls are also members here and I am happy to have met them. Otherwise I don't want to be approached by other dancers either...it takes me a while to warm up to them.

    It was annoying...I worked at a club maybe a month ago and some random girl I never spoke (not that I speak to any of them lol) comes up to me and asks if I'll be "working there more often or not that often.", and not in a nice way. What a nosy question.

    The only exception is when I am working with a friend in the club. Otherwise, don't want to have to get to know the other girls.

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    Quote Originally Posted by sessik86 View Post
    I do not make friends with girls when I come into work. Every once in a while I make idle conversation if I get asked a question.

    My manager let me leave a lil early Friday night. I said thank you, hugged him, and gave him a kiss on the cheek. This 20 yr old girl came up to me and said I shouldn't kiss my manager on the cheek bc people might get the wrong idea. I have been in this game for eleven years. People need to mind their own business. There are hundreds of girls in the club. Who cares what they think. They don't pay my bills. And most people kiss someone on the cheek when they are leaving. It's common practice.

    I'm ranting on here bc I was nice and just walked away.
    Um. They all do it there. Especially with one director. I only talk to the waitresses that run my suites there and 1 girl in 2 years. Yest they all try ro figure me out and I just let them....

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    Maybe she's fucking him and got jealous lol

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    ^ Doubtful. Unless it's one guy maybe but he's gross.

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    I would have been like "thank you for your concern, now goodbye!". What a little bitch. I never, ever make comments to other dancers about what they do, unless they are purposely trying to fuck with me. I think its so condescending to speak to another adult that way, as if they are in kindergarten. If I see someone doing something wrong, its not my responsibility to correct them. Of course, when other girls do it, its not because they want to be helpful, they just want to be know it all bitches. To that, I tell them to fuck off.

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    ya I feel ya girl! I had this one newbie ghetto type girl say to me in the DR a few weeks back "that I should try (insert club name) and that it's way busier & I'd do alot better over there" LOL I just smiled & said no thanks I'm doing quite amazing here I hate nosy ass bitches!
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    Quote Originally Posted by sessik86 View Post
    This 20 yr old girl came up to me and said I shouldn't kiss my manager on the cheek bc people might get the wrong idea.
    I'm fairly certain that this girl hasn't had a right idea in her life.
    Quote Originally Posted by Jay12 View Post
    ^What Sophia said.
    Quote Originally Posted by yoda57us View Post
    I wish there was an "auto-like" setting that I could just have applied to all of your posts Sophia....

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    This happens so often to me that I can set my watch to it. I had a girl come up to me while I was in the middle of reading an article. To most people it's a signal that someone's busy. I had headphones on, the whole 9 yards. She said, "Hey, are you ok? You look sad. I see you looking down." I replied "....I'm looking down because I'm reading." Then she wouldn't let it go like she wanted me to convince her I was ok and wouldn't leave until I did. I'm thinking WTF?? What was she planning to do, hold an unwanted chat session?? Bizarre.
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    I work with this annoying bitch who stays talking to me I never initiate a convo or say more than 3 words. She'll ask me do you like my outfit? Does this match? Are you making good money? I give 1 word answers and never smile cause I can't stand her. One day I'm going to give this broad a piece of my mind If she keeps initiating unwanted conversation....Like bitch I'm trying to get dressed in peace now shut the fuck up!

    And btw. I would so enjoy if I could hug and kiss my manager lol!
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    Quote Originally Posted by Optimist View Post
    I had a girl come up to me while I was in the middle of reading an article. To most people it's a signal that someone's busy. I had headphones on, the whole 9 yards. She said, "Hey, are you ok? You look sad. I see you looking down." I replied "....I'm looking down because I'm reading.
    I think her heart was in the right place, but a lot of strippers lack common sense. This is probably an unpopular opinion on this site, but I believe a lot of the stripper stereotypes because I've seen it so many times, over and over again in all the clubs I go to.

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    There's a woman I work with who continuously asks me if I'm okay. I suffer from Resting Bitch Face Syndrome so I guess I concern people. She hasn't asked me once, but several times, and maybe I'm being paranoid but it doesn't seem genuine. It's almost like she would get an ego boost if I told her I was miserable. Then she tries giving me advice on how I should talk to guys. Like I'm just selective when it comes to who I approach. I'm not shy or scared.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Starling View Post
    I think her heart was in the right place, but a lot of strippers lack common sense. This is probably an unpopular opinion on this site, but I believe a lot of the stripper stereotypes because I've seen it so many times, over and over again in all the clubs I go to.
    Nah, she's like the woman described below in SaraM91's post.

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    There's a woman I work with who continuously asks me if I'm okay. I suffer from Resting Bitch Face Syndrome so I guess I concern people. She hasn't asked me once, but several times, and maybe I'm being paranoid but it doesn't seem genuine. It's almost like she would get an ego boost if I told her I was miserable. Then she tries giving me advice on how I should talk to guys. Like I'm just selective when it comes to who I approach. I'm not shy or scared.
    There are people who look for others who are in a weakened state or an agitated or distracted state. Then they sidle up and work their agenda. In this odd corner of the world it's very common. I see girls scam other girls, try to humiliate other girls, befriend them to get personal info then spread it to others. A lot of dysfunctional high school level nonsense. So a concerned question from someone with a low key shade or even excitement to it--that's NOT concern. That's a set up.
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    Why is it that it's difficult to make real friends at the club?
    Is it cuz they just see the other girls as nothing but competition?
    Never made a real friend in all the time I've been stripping.

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    Quote Originally Posted by lilylilylily View Post
    Why is it that it's difficult to make real friends at the club?
    Because you don't know what their intentions are a lot of times. Probably the other girls had the same experience too and they learned not to bother with making friends.

    Whenever I do dance in clubs I'm often ignored by the other girls and I ignore them so that's already one strike. It's hard to break the ice when everyone is too busy ignoring each other. It's when I start drawing attention to myself I get worried.

    Although there were times I've made a handful of friends in the club and that was a miracle.
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    I prefer not to get close to dancers outside of the club. They don't need to know about my personal life then go blabbing about it in the DR. Then on slow nights they want to talk and bitch when I want to go introduce myself to a new customer. I'm not mean by any means and sometimes I'm too nice. I defiantly don't need to get too close to a dancer who'll take advantage of that!

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    I feel fortunate to work in a club where we all get along fairly well but it's mainly because we have all worked together for years. We know when to leave each other alone and when to strike up conversation. But there's one woman who started when I did who drives me up the wall. She's now 50 and a beautiful woman but her earnings have declined in the past few years because she is self conscious about her age and a large weight gain. She's also really lonely and constantly looking for a boyfriend instead of just focusing on $$$. Meanwhile my earnings have gone up and up and now that I'm blonde too I'm doing better than ever. I've spent a lot of time and money working on my appearance and my hustle to get where i am and it drives her crazy. She expresses it in really passive aggressive ways. She'll brag about how much $ she saves doing her own hair and hassles me about how much i pay to get mine done. Meanwhile hers looks like crap and mine looks good because I'm not going to fry my hair with bleach doing it myself. She's fucking obsessed with my god damn hair. "oh your hair looks good tonight, sometimes it looks so frizzy." like, keep your backhanded compliments to yourself and focus on you, please. So ridiculous.

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