In escorting, I feel like one of the most common "problems" encountered is guys not being able to get or stay hard. Whether this is due to age, some form of ED/injury, or just plain nervousness - especially with younger, "newbie" clients. At this point, it really doesn't bother me, it's nothing new, and I can work around it to make the experience still as pleasurable as possible.
But men never seem to believe it's truly that common. They stress and apologize profusely. Even make self-degredading comments like "I'll bet you've never had to deal with this before..." And no matter how much I try to tell them that it's way more common than they think, I don't think they ever believe me.
What really trips me up is how to respond when they inevitably repeat over and over: "It's not you. I swear, it's nothing to do with you." I don't know how to respond to that in a way that's comforting and makes it clear that I believe them - but without sounding either completely self-centered or blaming. I feel like when I say anything along the lines of "I know," it comes across super vain or, worse, it sounds like I'm saying, "Yeah, I know, it's YOU who has the problem, loser!"
How do others handle this sensitive issue?



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) which could easily add to the psychological component of the problem in both the short and long term.

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