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    So today I was chatting w/ a dancer friend of mine that used to work with me, when during the convo she was saying some pretty cruel passive aggressive type stuff to me that left me feeling more depressed than before she called. She was telling me how the city she was currently in visiting was pretty good to her money wise & she had originally asked me to tag along but since I wasn't guaranteed a club that would hire me or a place to stay I didn't go. I had texted her pics of me to send to the club manager that she's known for a while & where she was going to work but she told me that he said no & that I should try (such & such) club instead. I didn't see the text so for all I know she was lying to me , I dunno. I know that this particular city is difficult to get hired in but I wanted to go just to escape california for awhile. Anyways so today she called me & we were chatting & she told me it was good over there money wise & I said are you sure he wouldn't hire me there bc she had told me that there were a few heavier type girls working there & that she was surpised to see them there. She then said that she had asked him again & his reply was "I'd have to see her in person". I asked her if there were girls there that had a similar build to me & she then went on to say in such a callous way that she had seen a few girls there that reminded her of me & that they were very"big boned" and one looked like a line backer w/ no boobs & another was just very tall, big boned & curvy like me. So after that I said well if those types are working there then I should have a shot bc I'm pretty hot (not being concieted) & have been hired at places with my current weight & body type. I carry my shit well. Anyways, she says ya we can try back in a couple of months after we tone up more & I can take you jogging, working out, etc.

    I'm completely insulted by what she said bc I've never once told ANY of my overweight friends anything like that before regarding places to try getting hired. Maybe I'm too sensitive, I dunno, I just think that was uncalled for & that she was passively aggressively insulting me. Am I crazy? How would you take that?

    Yes, I've been under alot of stress lately esp after leaving my abusive bf & having to live out of expensive hotels so I might just be overthinking shit but I dunno. After that conversation I hung up feeling more depressed than I did before she called. She's the type that has the "perfect life". By that I mean her bf pays for most of everything & she apparently gets to keep all her money except for her misc. bills she pays. Plus there's never any drama between them, at least none that she ever shares with me. I'm seriously wanting to cut her out of my life along with a few others that have nothing positive & uplifting to add to my life. All most people want to do is blame me for the stuff that's wrong in my life & that I need to get a "real" job blah blah or I need to lose weight. I seriously want to just disappear from everyone & delete them out of my life. I want a new circle of friends in my life. Do others really prey on the depressed & weak???
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    Well you shouldn't have asked her opinion. It's not like she's in charge of hiring anyways.

    Forget her. Try some other clubs, get hired, then maybe try the club she's at but don't tell her. Then if or when you get hired there just pop up on her a$$ like yeah bitch bettcha thought I wouldn't get hired but voila here I am hoe AND making more money than you hoe! lol Just playing. But seriously though fuck what she said and do what feels right for you.
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    Those were really passive aggressive bitchy things to say. If it were me, I would cut her out of my life. You don't need a "friend" acting like she is superior to you and being judgemental and taking little jabs at you.

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    Ever been to an all girls school? One tends to get their little circle and groove. When another friend tries to infiltrate your school or group - its VERY threatening and the claws come out. Subtly - the little jabs.

    As much as you can adore them - their presence would upset your act and groove.

    Is this something she does a lot? Or a one off?

    The weight thing is just an easy point of attack. Even supermodels would react to being criticised.

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    Quote Originally Posted by amberlly View Post
    Ever been to an all girls school? One tends to get their little circle and groove. When another friend tries to infiltrate your school or group - its VERY threatening and the claws come out. Subtly - the little jabs.

    As much as you can adore them - their presence would upset your act and groove.

    Is this something she does a lot? Or a one off?

    The weight thing is just an easy point of attack. Even supermodels would react to being criticised.
    Hmmm.. Not really. Only when I've asked about dancing in Denver would she say things like "well I'm not sure on how strict they are about weight over there blah blah". Then again she's working at one of the top 4 higher tier clubs right now but still it doesn't give her validation to say such rude things to me. I know Im not a stick figure barbie BUT I do sell way more rooms than her when we used to work at the same club here in ca. She doesn't know how to hustle & I've actually offered to teach her things to better herself hustling wise but she wouldn't take it & just sits with custys & says "that they'll fall in love with her & spend" but truth is....they didn't most of the time LoL

    I def want to just cut her out of my life bc she's not really doing me any favors. To add more fuel to my fire I just remembered her telling me last week that she wouldn't let me suffer in Denver if i couldn't get hired or was having a difficult time there or whatever, she said "aw love, I wouldn't let you suffer, I'd bring you a happy meal". Wtf?!
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    most definitely a nasty mean girl who is jealous of your money abilities and who is trying to put you down in the nastiest most hurtfully passive aggressive way possible. cut cut cut that bitch outta your life

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    Quote Originally Posted by xxxGothBarbie View Post
    Hmmm.. Not really. Only when I've asked about dancing in Denver would she say things like "well I'm not sure on how strict they are about weight over there blah blah". Then again she's working at one of the top 4 higher tier clubs right now but still it doesn't give her validation to say such rude things to me. I know Im not a stick figure barbie BUT I do sell way more rooms than her when we used to work at the same club here in ca. She doesn't know how to hustle & I've actually offered to teach her things to better herself hustling wise but she wouldn't take it & just sits with custys & says "that they'll fall in love with her & spend" but truth is....they didn't most of the time LoL

    I def want to just cut her out of my life bc she's not really doing me any favors. To add more fuel to my fire I just remembered her telling me last week that she wouldn't let me suffer in Denver if i couldn't get hired or was having a difficult time there or whatever, she said "aw love, I wouldn't let you suffer, I'd bring you a happy meal". Wtf?!
    Some people are just like that.

    They are blunt and and just say what comes to mind not thinking first about what they are saying and the other persons feelings.

    People like that just means gotta have a thick skin and maybe even make a snarky comment back to remind them to slow their role. Or just don't even bother listing to them. Id turn my nose up and flick my hair in her face then just plain ignore
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    Speaking from true life experience, Denver CO clubs and any clubs that get "overflow" from that region are very cruel/controlling about weight. The booker at one club even went ahead and discussed my tummy fat with me on the phone, which was actually funny to me.

    As for the friend, she is either one of two things 1- a person with a lot of control over her emotions who never lets people see her at weak moments, or 2- a spoiled person who has never had it hard & has not had to encounter appearing vunerable in front of others.

    Her issues are not your problem. You can always make another friend.

    edit too add- this woman also just might be a cold personality. I don't always clash with blunt people b/c I came from a really tough background, but when I catch on to people being disrespectful and f*cked up....I definitely cut ties. At the end of it all, this woman might not be "your kind of people."

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    I am sorry but why is everyone sugar coating things?

    I didn't see those as insults at all, I would love to have a friend who is pretty honest with me but I think you were over analyzing it. The working out comment- did you not see that as trying to help out at all? If she flat out said "You're not in good shape, you don't have a chance" would you be offended? If she lied and said "You totally have a chance!" Would you be offended? You asked for her input and she was giving it to you. Maybe that passive aggressive was her attempt to be honest with you without being TOO blunt? Why is it OK for you to say that you sell more rooms than her and she has no hustle but not OK for her to critique your own work ethic?

    And if she is your friend, why can't you discuss this with her?

    And why don't you call the club directly?

    What does her relationship and "perfect life" have to do with anything else?

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    Maybe the op was looking to her 'friend' for positive feedback and encouragement.

    True you don't want to go into a situation with the wool over your eyes. Say for instance that club really only has size 4 or smaller dancers then would you want to know if this is really the case before wasting time and effort applying yes. But perhaps this girl was just saying this stuff to keep competition low. Which I why I said should have never asked her opinion since she is not the one who hires anyway. For all xxxgothbarbie knows the managers could lover her and want to hire her on spot but if she listens to her so called friend she may miss on an opportunity.

    Im not saying slack off or don't bring your a game when trying to get hired at a new club.

    What I am saying is do your research and take everything with a grain of salt even from your dancer friends.
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    I've noticed girls who are as rude as the OP's "friend" tend to have mental problems. I've ended friendships over this, because I don't have the time or patience for someone who cannot manage to use basic courtesy....OR someone who can become unstable and turn on me somehow. #schoolofhardknocks

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    Whether she is being a friend or a foe is hard to say as I don't know either of you, and there are always two sides to a story. In general though would you rather have a friend who is supportive but also tells you the hard truths or just a sycophant that says your farts smell like roses and you shit rainbows? Sycophants can be great for the ego, but really aren't good for much else. Friends are truly helpful even if they sometimes say or do things that seem mean to you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by xxxGothBarbie View Post
    I asked her if there were girls there that had a similar build to me & she then went on to say in such a callous way that she had seen a few girls there that reminded her of me & that they were very"big boned" and one looked like a linebacker w/ no boobs & another was just very tall, big boned & curvy like me.
    I don't find anything offensive about this...AT ALL! Right now, I have a similar body type and I rather hear the truth than a "sweet little lie". Truth might be hurtful in the short term.

    Quote Originally Posted by xxxGothBarbie View Post
    I carry my shit well. Anyways, she says ya we can try back in a couple of months after we tone up more & I can take you jogging, working out, etc.
    Noticed she said "WE" not "YOU". She did not say "YOU HAVE TO TONE UP".


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    I am sorry but why is everyone sugar coating things?

    I didn't see those as insults at all, I would love to have a friend who is pretty honest with me but I think you were over analyzing it. The working out comment- did you not see that as trying to help out at all? If she flat out said "You're not in good shape, you don't have a chance" would you be offended? If she lied and said "You totally have a chance!" Would you be offended? You asked for her input and she was giving it to you. Maybe that passive aggressive was her attempt to be honest with you without being TOO blunt? Why is it OK for you to say that you sell more rooms than her and she has no hustle but not OK for her to critique your own work ethic?

    And if she is your friend, why can't you discuss this with her?

    And why don't you call the club directly?
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    What does her relationship and "perfect life" have to do with anything else?
    "Perfect life is subjective". She's not with her friend 24/7 to know if her friend's relationship has problems, or she prefers to not talk about her relationship.


    Yeah, OP is just overly sensitive because of all the stuff surrounding her life right now. I guess if OP had talked to her friend at a different time, it'd be a different situation.


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    Quote Originally Posted by JoJoX View Post
    You asked for her input and she was giving it to you. Maybe that passive aggressive was her attempt to be honest with you without being TOO blunt?
    This is sort of what I figured. If she's already shown the manager your pics and he didn't want to hire you... IMHO - she's trying to subtly discourage you because she doesn't want you to go all the way out there and not have anywhere to work and be reliant on her for food or a way back.
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    Its usually best to just apply yourself anyway... Unless your friend could guarantee you a job with her connections then why go through the middle man- you don't need her help to get work, unless you do?
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    I don't need anyone's help getting hired anywhere, however though I also don't need a "friend" saying rude shit that is obviously offensive to me whether it's true or not. I've had a similar experience a few yrs ago when this other girl i called a "friend" went out to Vegas w/ some of the other girls we work with & also tried to discourage me from going but when I got pissed & went to see for myself ...guess what?!... shocker.... I GOT HIRED IN FUCKING VEGAS! Ya I know some of you ppl here who have said "why sugar coat everything blah blah?" Well honestly , most of them aren't sugar coating & most of us can identify abusive friendships/relationships when thrown these types of verbal situations whereas obviously others don't. She's said those types of things to me before when we were talking about trying other clubs. It's truly sick how some girls get off on putting other girls down bc of whatever insecurities they have within themselves. I agree ya I should've called the club directly if I really wanted to go there ,but in my past experiences I've went thru real friends that have gotten me hired based on pictures & knowing the manager so how was I to know? .Whatever. Fact is , that I don't need that type of negativity in my life right now & I'm sorry if some of you who replied in such a snarky manner can. I'm cutting her out & that's all there is to it. I came here asking for support, not to be picked apart.



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    I hope my response didn't come across as snarky... I just meant that from her POV - it's always a little worrying when you're working somewhere and one of your friends wants to come out as well without a guaranteed place to work.
    Obviously the way she went about it was hurtful and not okay... some people are just more comfortable being passive aggressive than they are saying something directly. If you feel like you should cut her out of your life... then you should. Plenty of other, better friends out there.
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    ^ Yeah, I didn't say what I said to attack more like "go be empowered for yourself". If you did need her help to get work (and there is nothing wrong with using connections) then it was more a question of why do you need her help? or are you convinced you need her help?

    I didn't think my comment was snarky TBH but if you find it to be would you please address me directly (not as a blanket reply to the other posts which you found snarky) so i have an opportunity to clarify or we can some to an understanding.

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    Quote Originally Posted by xxxGothBarbie View Post
    I don't need anyone's help getting hired anywhere, however though I also don't need a "friend" saying rude shit that is obviously offensive to me whether it's true or not. I've had a similar experience a few yrs ago when this other girl i called a "friend" went out to Vegas w/ some of the other girls we work with & also tried to discourage me from going but when I got pissed & went to see for myself ...guess what?!... shocker.... I GOT HIRED IN FUCKING VEGAS! Ya I know some of you ppl here who have said "why sugar coat everything blah blah?" Well honestly , most of them aren't sugar coating & most of us can identify abusive friendships/relationships when thrown these types of verbal situations whereas obviously others don't. She's said those types of things to me before when we were talking about trying other clubs. It's truly sick how some girls get off on putting other girls down bc of whatever insecurities they have within themselves. I agree ya I should've called the club directly if I really wanted to go there ,but in my past experiences I've went thru real friends that have gotten me hired based on pictures & knowing the manager so how was I to know? .Whatever. Fact is , that I don't need that type of negativity in my life right now & I'm sorry if some of you who replied in such a snarky manner can. I'm cutting her out & that's all there is to it. I came here asking for support, not to be picked apart.



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    Nobody, in my eyes replied in a snarky manner...this just tells me that you're overall just too sensitive/way emo and should probably stop asking for others opinions if you can't take the truth. You seem like you only like sugar coated opinions. Good luck with that.

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    Quote Originally Posted by JoJoX View Post
    Nobody, in my eyes replied in a snarky manner...this just tells me that you're overall just too sensitive/way emo and should probably stop asking for others opinions if you can't take the truth. You seem like you only like sugar coated opinions. Good luck with that.
    ^ seriously? If you don't have anything nice to say about OR to someone, then it's best you don't speak. You were one of the two snarky ones & I don't appreciate being talked down to like a child. Too sensitive/way emo?! Psh ROFL riiiiight....... It's best you unsubscribe yourself from this thread.
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    Op my friends and i are all real with each other except were conscious of our delivery too. You can be real and have tact at the same time, the two are not mutually exclusive. You can choose who your friends are-- not everyone appreciates that kind of abrasive style which i find a little socially awkward personally
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    I think she could have worded things differently. She may be overly cautious in telling you whether you'd get hired or not because she doesn't want you to get hurt. If I were you, I'd make a plan of going to that club and having a back up so you end up working that day. If you find her overly abrasive, tell her. If she makes an effort to be gentler, great. If not, you have to decide if she's worth keeping as a friend or not.
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    Default Re: Is She a Friend Or Foe?

    ^ word. If there's anything I can't stand, it's people who hide under the guise of "being blunt" to make mean jabs at others.. And this is coming from someone who is matteroffact. Not cool.

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    Default Re: Is She a Friend Or Foe?

    The 'truth' as far as what op has listed here is not the truth but her friends perception and maybe the ops perception of her life and herself right now.

    The things the op said her friend told her all sound like opinion to me. Not facts.

    And plus people vent most likely when they are emotional.

    Maybe the moderator should step in. Before you guys go down a sticky path.

    This is the life support area after all where people come to share their concerns about their life in a way they can be listened to first then others provide constructive feedback.
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    i agree about being upfront and honest, but i feel the way her friend said things was NOT being like "100% leveling with you" kinda deal.
    if she was directly quoting her friend and not paraphrasing anyways, it just sounded like extremely insecure mean put-downs. "line backer with no boobs"? i mean really? you can be honest without sounding like a complete jack ass

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