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    Default Okay laides, I need some more advice.

    To start, I just wanted to thank everyone who replied to my last thread. Your advice has really helped me recognize those in my chat room who are asking me questions to initiate dirty talk so they can come for free, and those who are asking questions because they are genuinely interested in getting to know me (thus resulting in tipping me). I took your advice to heart, and it helped. Thank you.

    I have another problem I need some honest and serious advice about. I like to drink on cam. I like to drink on cam every time I cam. I like it because it helps keep those slow moments interesting (especially for the first few hours of a show) and then it gets me pumped up and energized for the rest of the show.

    I don't have a problem with alcohol, however I do enjoy drinking. I don't want to be that girl who starts drinking at 12 or sometimes 1 in the afternoon (as soon as or shortly after I get on cam). I don't see a problem with pouring a drink at 5 or 6pm in the evening, after a full work day, but I shouldn't be drinking all day, every day, while I cam. I don't want to be drinking all day, every day, while I cam. I just don't want to be drinking all day.

    But I like drinking while I cam.

    I don't know what to do. I need to find something to help get me through the boring moments, when I am literally just sitting, waiting for some excitement in my room.

    I've thought about doing some exercises instead ( squats and lunges and stuff) or maybe getting a book of puzzles?!?! I know I need to figure something out soon though, and break this habit.

    Thank you in advance for all of your advice, ladies. I trust your words will help give me some insight into my situation, and I look forward to hearing what you have to say.

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    Default Re: Okay laides, I need some more advice.

    I kinda had the same problem as you do but mine was with pills, being Norcos and Adderall. I didnt abuse them just took one of each and only did it when I cammed to keep me energized and focused. They were great and did the trick but about 4-5 hours later I would totally crash and feel like an absolute zombie. I really started hating how I felt so I just bit the bullet and stopped it all. Yeah it's hard and boring as shit sometimes to cam sober but I wasn't going to let camming make me a drug addict and ruin my health/social life ( being that after camming I was so tired I never wanted to do anything). I totally understand where you're coming from but just be careful and maybe just try and drink every other day. We don't get paid enough (well maybe you do) to turn us into addicts.

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    Default Re: Okay laides, I need some more advice.

    I'm noticing this about myself as well. I have been camming off and on since 2006 and this is the first time I've ever cammed while under the influence. I'm also not a huge drinker but today I had a glass of wine on cam and I noticed that every time I cam I end up smoking. I found that I'm a lot more open, fun, flirtatious when I've had a glass of wine which helps but like you, I don't wish to make this a habit. I guess there's either one of a few ways to handle it which is only have it sparingly, make sure that cam isn't something you hate or "not want to deal with" and or deal with your problems. For not, it's not a "problem" for me but that's how a lot of addicts start out. Anyway, I hope this helped a bit. I don't want to be the blind leading the blind, lol.

    Having dealt with a drug addicted parent, and a drug addicted spouse it's something that I despise but it seems like I can now understand. If that makes any sense? I don't want it to be used as a coping mechanism because I found that's the fastest way to form an actual addiction/habit. I completely hated drugs/alcohol until I actually started using them. Go figure.




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    Default Re: Okay laides, I need some more advice.

    I hula hoop until I hear the sound of someone entering my room, or I do my homework for school :p but seriously I love drinking, but I wont do it on cam almost ever. It makes me way too friendly. I think excercises are a good idea, because then you're keeping yourself busy and getting in shape! Download some games on your phone or something, i play into the dead (a zombie game for smartphones) or trivia crack, etc. Save the drinking for after shifts, because after all those idiots boy do you deserve it!

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    Default Re: Okay laides, I need some more advice.

    I love to drink too! However, it is expensive and I stopped because I didn't want to spend all my cam money on booze.

    You could just fake drink and pretend to be drunk just for your own amusement and to see how your room reacts. Just get an empty vodka bottle and fill up with water or a wine bottle and fill it up with apple juice. Make guys tip to see you take a shot.

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    Default Re: Okay laides, I need some more advice.

    If you can't drink on cam without drinking "all day everyday" then definitely don't start drinking on cam now. Unless you don't mind waking up in a cold sweat every morning when your body gets physically dependent. I'm pretty ADHD so I have a hard time staying on when I'm bored. When I had a TV in my room I watched sitcoms or movies with subtitles. I definitely stayed on longer and I was surprisingly able to focus on my room and whatever show I was watching all at the same time haha. Sometimes I'll online window shop which is motivating $$ wise.

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    Default Re: Okay laides, I need some more advice.

    This is all excellent advice, ladies. Thank you. It is nice knowing I have support here and that other people know what I am going through as they have been in my shoes.

    I am going to fire up my other monitor and surf the net/watch some shows/do some online shopping during the slow times/starts of my shows. I'm also going to try not drinking on cam during the week, however I will drink on cam on friday and saturday (and maybe thursday).

    I just don't want to be that girl who is pouring a drink at 1pm every day, you know? It is fine in the evening, but I don't want to get into the habit of drinking all day every day.

    Thanks again for your advice, and I will keep you posted on how it is going.

    This forum really means the world to me, now that I've been camming full time. We have a unique job and it is so nice to know I have support from people who understand exactly what I go through.

    Thanks again, ladies. May good fortune and hour long private shows be with you.

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    Default Re: Okay laides, I need some more advice.

    This may be obvious but if you have a drinking "problem" then don't buy booze. Don't have it in the house if you're going to be tempted.
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    Default Re: Okay laides, I need some more advice.

    Quote Originally Posted by Marina Starr View Post
    This may be obvious but if you have a drinking "problem" then don't buy booze. Don't have it in the house if you're going to be tempted.
    I don't have a drinking problem. I enjoy drinking, especially while I cam, cause it keeps things interesting and loosens me up and helps me deal with the dumb fucks a bit more patiently.

    I'm trying to greatly reduce my sugar intake, because I've gained a bit of weight, so all I drink now is vodka-soda. We usually have a bottle of vodka kicking around because my husband will bring one home and it takes several days to finish.

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    Default Re: Okay laides, I need some more advice.

    I said IF and put problem in quote to not imply that you DO have a problem. #dontpanic
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    I don't have a drinking problem. I enjoy drinking, especially while I cam, cause it keeps things interesting and loosens me up and helps me deal with the dumb fucks a bit more patiently.

    I'm trying to greatly reduce my sugar intake, because I've gained a bit of weight, so all I drink now is vodka-soda. We usually have a bottle of vodka kicking around because my husband will bring one home and it takes several days to finish.
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    Default Re: Okay laides, I need some more advice.

    I know from personal experience, After awhile you end up drinking everyday and then you start drinking at NOON...lol. It just creeps up on you, what a bad habit that was to break.. good lord.. and every time I felt guilty, sad, etc etc.. because if I had a REAL job that would NOT be happening and it was happening BECAUSE of CAM!.. so yea eventually you'll end up having a NOONER.. and then you will wonder what happened to you... Thankfully I have found other ways to medicate myself, L-theanine, stress herbs.. sedating herbs like valerian, hops passionflower.. chamomile.. etc etc.

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    Quote Originally Posted by anonymous camgirl View Post
    i know from personal experience, after awhile you end up drinking everyday and then you start drinking at noon...lol. It just creeps up on you, what a bad habit that was to break.. Good lord.. And every time i felt guilty, sad, etc etc.. Because if i had a real job that would not be happening and it was happening because of cam!.. So yea eventually you'll end up having a nooner.. And then you will wonder what happened to you... Thankfully i have found other ways to medicate myself, l-theanine, stress herbs.. Sedating herbs like valerian, hops passionflower.. Chamomile.. Etc etc.
    exactly!!!!!!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Marina Starr View Post
    I said IF and put problem in quote to not imply that you DO have a problem. #dontpanic
    Hahahahah I did get a bit defensive there, didn't I?

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    Default Re: Okay laides, I need some more advice.

    That's EXACTLY what I do.. I still drink now and then.. but I have to finish it ALL.. until it's not in the house anymore however long that takes.. I will drink it.. even if it takes DAYS!.. so yea If I do buy alcohol I buy the SMALLEST thing possible.. it's funny about addictions.. I used to be able to have a bottle of vodka in my fridge for 6 months and rarely touch it.. then you become an addict.. and I don't KNOW if that ever stops! Still wondering about that one.. ..I spent 2 yrs of being a serious alcoholic.. hardcore.. drinking from morning til bedtime.. but I never ever gave it up completely but I still have THOSE tendencies for some reason.. hmmm.. and to think I never even used to like alcohol at all..

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    This may be obvious but if you have a drinking "problem" then don't buy booze. Don't have it in the house if you're going to be tempted.

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    Default Re: Okay laides, I need some more advice.

    I view drinking on cam as a treat. If I've been doing really good all week and my earnings are up I open a bottle of wine and enjoy it on cam. It definitely loosens me up and makes me more talkative and flirty with the guys but I'm working on losing weight so I try to keep the alcohol intake to a minimum.

    Honestly though I don't view 1:00 PM a bad time to drink unless you're doing it every day. I work over night so my "bedtime" is 10:00 in the morning. I love having a small glass of whiskey with a movie on Netflix before I go to sleep. Is it bad for me to do that because it's 10:00 in the morning? No of course not. 5:00 PM is just some arbitrary number somebody picked as the appropriate time to start drinking. The point is you drink when you're done working and I just happen to get done working at 10:00 in the morning lol.
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    That's EXACTLY what I do.. I still drink now and then.. but I have to finish it ALL.. until it's not in the house anymore however long that takes.. I will drink it.. even if it takes DAYS!.. so yea If I do buy alcohol I buy the SMALLEST thing possible.. it's funny about addictions.. I used to be able to have a bottle of vodka in my fridge for 6 months and rarely touch it.. then you become an addict.. and I don't KNOW if that ever stops! Still wondering about that one.. ..I spent 2 yrs of being a serious alcoholic.. hardcore.. drinking from morning til bedtime.. but I never ever gave it up completely but I still have THOSE tendencies for some reason.. hmmm.. and to think I never even used to like alcohol at all..
    I'm at that point. I've had a bottle of wine just chilling in my office for 3 weeks now and I just now had a glass. However, I used to have a nice bag last me 6 months and I just blew through 1/8 in 2 weeks




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    Default Re: Okay laides, I need some more advice.

    I don't drink, I don't know how and I like to keep it that way. I don't judge people that do have an alcoholism issue either. That's how some people numb their pain, I just do something else with mine.

    I was saying don't have it in the house if you're going to be tempted. Same as if you're celibate, don't have men in the house but you get my point, lol


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    That's EXACTLY what I do.. I still drink now and then.. but I have to finish it ALL.. until it's not in the house anymore however long that takes.. I will drink it.. even if it takes DAYS!.. so yea If I do buy alcohol I buy the SMALLEST thing possible.. it's funny about addictions.. I used to be able to have a bottle of vodka in my fridge for 6 months and rarely touch it.. then you become an addict.. and I don't KNOW if that ever stops! Still wondering about that one.. ..I spent 2 yrs of being a serious alcoholic.. hardcore.. drinking from morning til bedtime.. but I never ever gave it up completely but I still have THOSE tendencies for some reason.. hmmm.. and to think I never even used to like alcohol at all..
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    I know from personal experience, After awhile you end up drinking everyday and then you start drinking at NOON...lol. It just creeps up on you, what a bad habit that was to break.. good lord.. and every time I felt guilty, sad, etc etc.. because if I had a REAL job that would NOT be happening and it was happening BECAUSE of CAM!.. so yea eventually you'll end up having a NOONER.. and then you will wonder what happened to you... Thankfully I have found other ways to medicate myself, L-theanine, stress herbs.. sedating herbs like valerian, hops passionflower.. chamomile.. etc etc.
    kind of OT but kratom is good if it's legal in your state (it's legal in most of the U.S.). The sedative strains are really good for alcohol cravings.

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    Default Re: Okay laides, I need some more advice.

    I can see how you could be defensive about it. I do have a knack for getting a rise out of people at times

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    Hahahahah I did get a bit defensive there, didn't I?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Marina Starr View Post
    I can see how you could be defensive about it. I do have a knack for getting a rise out of people at times
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    Default Re: Okay laides, I need some more advice.

    To be honest, I don't know if I would have made it into camming without a bit of drinking, so I can't blame you for wanting to drink on cam. In my case, I was just very nervous at first, so I would have a shot before I got online, and I'd keep a drink there to sip while I worked (I'm a lightweight and a slow drinker, so one drink goes a long way for me). It kept me loosened up and friendly, and helped me get over some embarrassment regarding my body and various sex acts that I was ashamed to enjoy on cam. I don't have much tendency toward addiction, so it was okay for me to rely on alcohol for a while.

    In the end, the need to have a drink went away with some time and experience. I got a better handle on what I was doing, both in free chat and in private, and I felt a lot more confident after having the guys give me tons of compliments. For a while, I continued having a drink on cam just because it was fun and a nice treat. After a while longer, I realized that I don't like to drink while I cam anymore. I need to have my brain working at full power. I don't want to take the chance that I'll forget what name I'm supposed to moan, or some other detail, and I do more Domme work than I used to, so I need to have my mind on point for that. I also don't want to dull my physical coordination at all, because I don't want to hurt myself or damage any of my precious electronics.

    Plus, CALORIES! A standard 1.5 ounce shot of 80 proof alcohol contains about 100 calories. An extra 100 calories per day could add up to about 9-10 pounds of fat over the course of a year. You may be moving a lot while you cam, so you might be burning it off, but if you're having 3 or 4 shots during a full day of camming, that's going to take a lot of physical work to burn off.

    If you're having problems with boredom, maybe work on your social media in the slow minutes. Twitter is basically a black hole that will suck you in for ages if you let it - use your slow moments to set up future tweets with Hootsuite or similar programs, find other ladies to follow, interact with people, or just read your feed. Follow a few accounts that tweet cute animal pictures, and you'll end up smiling while you browse. Alternately, you can work on a blog or something as well. I haven't tried this personally, but if no one's talking in free chat, you could grab your phone and take a few PG-13 selfies for social media use - surely after seeing a couple cute poses, the guys will speak up and try to get your attention. Also, as you gain experience and regs, you should be busier, so the boredom should be less problematic over time.

    I am pretty sure that somewhere around here there is at least one thread of stuff to do when you're bored on cam, but I can't remember what the thread is called at all. Maybe someone else remembers it?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Magical_Hoohah View Post
    If you're having problems with boredom, maybe work on your social media in the slow minutes. Twitter is basically a black hole that will suck you in for ages if you let it - use your slow moments to set up future tweets with Hootsuite or similar programs, find other ladies to follow, interact with people, or just read your feed. Follow a few accounts that tweet cute animal pictures, and you'll end up smiling while you browse. Alternately, you can work on a blog or something as well. I haven't tried this personally, but if no one's talking in free chat, you could grab your phone and take a few PG-13 selfies for social media use - surely after seeing a couple cute poses, the guys will speak up and try to get your attention. Also, as you gain experience and regs, you should be busier, so the boredom should be less problematic over time.
    This is an excellent idea. I just very recently got a tweeter, so I actually need to put some time into promoting myself there and gaining followers. Maybe even start a tumbler and load it with sexy selfies?!?!?!

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    Default Re: Okay laides, I need some more advice.

    I ALWAYS get your point!..grrrrl..lol......on another note.. life is weird.. I never thought that would ever be me.. that's one of the reasons I have such a disdain for men in general.. I feel they contributed to any bad habits I picked up...

    Quote Originally Posted by Marina Starr View Post
    I don't drink, I don't know how and I like to keep it that way. I don't judge people that do have an alcoholism issue either. That's how some people numb their pain, I just do something else with mine.

    I was saying don't have it in the house if you're going to be tempted. Same as if you're celibate, don't have men in the house but you get my point, lol

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    LOL! I think you haven't met the right one. I love men but I am well aware of their intentions. MOST just want the organ between our legs which we use for instant credit!

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    I ALWAYS get your point!..grrrrl..lol......on another note.. life is weird.. I never thought that would ever be me.. that's one of the reasons I have such a disdain for men in general.. I feel they contributed to any bad habits I picked up...
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    Default Re: Okay laides, I need some more advice.

    Please don't get defensive when I say this, because I'm totally not saying you have a drinking problem; however, the fact that you are concerned enough about it to ask is suggestive. So please, if you think it's an issue or potential issue, don't ignore it. Drinking every day, even if you don't get very drunk, can get out of hand pretty quickly. Not to mention it's not great for you (hypocrite smoker here lol). I quit drinking entirely over a year ago because I was prescribed Xanax. But my anxiety has improved a lot since then and I just haven't bothered to drink again. I don't really care for it now and don't miss it. Know what's awesome about not drinking? Your stomach gets flatter haha. No hangovers, no dehydration, not to mention the money you save. Cigarettes are up next on the chopping block for me!

    One big issue here is that you shouldn't have to feel like you need to drink to get through your shift. I totally understand that it can be easy to start relying on it to bring out your personality, but here's the thing- your personality is there without the alcohol, too. It might take some camming without alcohol to see it. Just this weekend, I ran out of my ADD meds, which I've ALWAYS taken for work for the last 3 years. Literally every shift, minus like 2 or 3 of them. So I was freaking out a little, thinking my personality and demeanor would be "off", and that I wouldn't be able to handle any tedium. BUT, because I had no choice, I cammed all weekend without my meds. It turned out seriously amazing! That was valuable to me because I proved to myself that I can do just as well on cam without it.

    If boredom is the main issue, I completely empathize because I have ADD and boredom is basically water torture for me lol. Some of the things I do when I'm bored on MFC: Put on ridiculous songs to make myself laugh; play with my Slinky; read a book on my iPhone Kindle app and ignore the room until they decide to participate; read the news online; go to the Chatzy for SW; flat iron my hair again lol; get up and walk around my office, etc.
    What's most helpful to me is having something to do with my hands. I'm thinking about getting some clay and making tiny, random sculptures when it's slow, for example. Get a coloring book, or a puzzle book like you said. Hell, take up knitting or something similar. What would you be doing if you were chilling in your room by yourself? Do that (unless it's something you should be charging $ for hehe).

    Maybe you could start with camming without alcohol on your days that aren't generally your best earning days? Start with like one day a week, no alcohol on cam. Prove to yourself that you are fucking awesome without drinking. But first, get something to occupy your hands and your attention. Don't worry about looking silly; if you're entertained, do not give a single fuck. Good luck!
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