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    I'm a relative newcomer to the strip club scene. I've read this board for a little while, but there's a few questions I haven't seen here.

    1. When I get a lapdance, I let the dancer know when something feels especially good. How common is it for a customer to give you feedback as to what feels good or doesn't feel good? Do you want feedback?

    2. I was at my local club today, and I had two separate dancers act as if they were really enjoying the dance. I've never had any other dancers act quite this way before, but I figured it was just an act--I'm well aware that a strip club sells fantasy to a rather large degree. For each of them, after the dance was over, I told them, "You did a good job of pretending to be aroused." Each of them said that they were in fact aroused, instead of merely pretending to be.

    Now obviously, nobody knows for sure if they were telling the truth. But based on your own experience, how likely do you think it is that they actually were aroused?

    3. There's one dancer that I've bought dances from on multiple occasions. This girl really likes to be touched--legs, back, shoulders, etc. She told me that it's almost like a massage to her. Now clearly, the way or method of being touched would make a difference--but when you have a customer who touches you in sort of a quasi-massage like way, do you enjoy it?

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    Feedback can be okay as long as you're not barking orders and you're open to receiving feedback yourself

    Maybe they were aroused maybe they weren't but just telling you what they thought you wanted to hear. It doesn't really matter as long as you had a good time.

    Each dancer is different Just ask beforehand if she would mind having her shoulders massaged if she does then ask if the pressure is okay. And make sure your hands are clean and moisturized. Nothing worse than getting massaged from someone with dirty nails or whose hands feel like sandpaper.
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    Asking if they were really aroused or whatever is a really annoying question to hear. It destroys the atmosphere we aim to create.

    Yes its quite possible it was genuine. Provided you were being respectful and generous.

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    1. I ask my customers to tell me if they are enjoying or not enjoying any particular aspect of the lap dance. I'll usually say something along the lines of "If I'm doing anything you don't like, for instance if I find your secret ticklish spot, just let me know." I know that sometimes an adjustment during the course of the dance may be necessary.

    2. Sometimes I am genuinely turned on during a dance. Sometimes I fake it. I don't think my customers care all that much about how I feel, so I try to at least act like I'm having a good time.

    3. I'm good with touching, so long as it isn't too rough.

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    "You did a good job of pretending to be aroused."

    Why is it so important to you to make snarky comments to strippers? Do you think you're the first person to figure out that strippers are usually just pretending to have fun, and that by revealing your special status as an insider, you'll be rewarded? Or do you just have no manners?

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    Anytime someone tell me "Good job faking it." I want to punch them in the dick. Don't be an asshole. Stop doing that.





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    He probably wants to make it clear he's not one of the other chumps who falls for it in the club, but it's definitely unnecessary OP. Strippers don't care if you fell for their act or not. Just play along if you really enjoyed yourself and if you didn't just don't get dances from those girls again. I personally don't want feedback when it's like critiquing me or something, but I love dancing for guys who are making it known they are having a good time. I dance for this one guy who LOVES VIPs with me and is constantly saying "Damn girl!" "look at your ass!" "you are amazing" "Wow" and that's fun for me because I know he's having fun. But you don't have to be that vocal about it. I think when you said "good job at pretending to be aroused" it seemed like you were expecting her to think "oh wow he's not like the other guys" when really she probably just rolled her eyes after she walked away. Don't say that again, lol.

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    I would like to add a follow-up observation here:
    Millennial women are better about embracing their sexuality than previous generations. There isn't such a problem with stigma of being slutty or loose. This allows them the ability to more honestly approach their own sexual desires without fear and shame. You know, kind of like how men have always been allowed to think about sexuality.

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    ^It's a relief you're not falling in love anytime soon, but a gentler "I know it's an act,but you're great at your job" would have been better.
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    Quote Originally Posted by azaleanola View Post
    "You did a good job of pretending to be aroused."

    Why is it so important to you to make snarky comments to strippers? Do you think you're the first person to figure out that strippers are usually just pretending to have fun, and that by revealing your special status as an insider, you'll be rewarded? Or do you just have no manners?
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    Anytime someone tell me "Good job faking it." I want to punch them in the dick. Don't be an asshole. Stop doing that.
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    He probably wants to make it clear he's not one of the other chumps who falls for it in the club [snip]
    That last quote is exactly it. Thanks for understanding. Like I said in my OP, I'm well aware that strip clubs serve up a heavy dose of fantasy.

    I've read this board enough to know that some people on here sneer at customers, no matter what the situation. But it seems that you would be glad for a customer who KNOWS it's fantasy, rather than actually believing whatever your act happens to be. Based on the posts I've read bewailing the possibility of being stalked, followed home, etc., I would think that a customer who knows what's going on would be greatly appreciated.

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    I personally don't care if the customer knows it's a fantasy or not, as long as he's enjoying himself. You definitely don't need to tell dancers that you know she was faking it though because it makes it seem like she wasn't very good at it. It's unnecessary and could come off as rude. Just let it be a fantasy and enjoy yourself.

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    The best feedback you can give a dancer is a tip, if they gave you a good set of dances. The better the lapdances/VIP session the bigger the tip, that will speak volumes all by itself. They will appreciate that more than anything you say.

    For most lapdances I will just say "Thanks for the dances" if I thought the dances were average, for really good dances I will pay a compliment to the dancer about the dances. Only once have said anything negative, but was because the dancer stood on my thighs with her stripper shoes on. That was a wee bit painful. If you didn't like the dances just keep your mouth shut, pay the lady, and try a different dancer.

    As for the "aroused" comment, just go with it. There is no need for you to say anything, you are not going to impress them with your witty repartee.

    Be very careful when it comes to touching dancers, do not make it a habit you do with every dancer. The club may have rules against it, the dancer may have a personal rule about it. Just because the one dancer likes it does not mean that all dancers like to be touched. Make sure to respect the limits and boundaries. When at a new club or with a new dancer be sure to ask before going back to the dance booths. Personally, even when I am in a club that allows touching, I won't do it, unless the dancer specifically says something.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Red_Baron View Post
    I've read this board enough to know that some people on here sneer at customers, no matter what the situation. But it seems that you would be glad for a customer who KNOWS it's fantasy, rather than actually believing whatever your act happens to be. Based on the posts I've read bewailing the possibility of being stalked, followed home, etc., I would think that a customer who knows what's going on would be greatly appreciated.
    I'm all for my customers knowing its a fantasy. I encourage it. I remind them when they start getting too close. It's just not necessary for a customer to give a dancer a pat on the back for "pretending." Some girls just really REALLY love to dance sexy. Have you ever danced sexy? It's fun, and fucking powerful as shit when you see the person enjoying it. It's like a sexy high.





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    Its just paid erotic entertainment. It doesn't have to mean anything about the buyer or seller.

    Enjoy for what it is. The entertainer is usually skilled enough to tell when a customer thinks its real vs just a fun time.

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    Have to agree with the others "I know you're faking it" is rude and not necessary. Even if they are faking it, who cares? You're breaking the fantasy and ruining the game. You are basically insulting her and being a pain in the ass.

    As far as feedback goes, I don't care either way as long as the customer isn't rude and doesn't talk too much.

    As for the girl who "enjoys" being touched, I too "enjoy" massages from customers, and I ESPECIALLY "enjoy" them in $500 Champagne room.

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    Neither party should take what the other says personal. A customer tells a dancer good job faking, he is probably insecure and odd in general, not just with her in that place because she dances or did something wrong. If a dancer says nice things or acts... let's call it friendly, with a customer, well, shit, would you pay her to not at least pretend to enjoy your company?

    General tip - don't ever tell anyone how you really feel unless they ask you how you really feel. We all do it once in a while, and I don't know about you, but I'm rarely glad that I did it when I do it.

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    OP, are you really proud of yourself for not being a stalker? WTF?

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    Wow dude. If you said that to me, I'd respond that I was really good at pretending that your hot like Liam Hemsworth and that you don't reek of cheap cologneband dirty teeth.

    I'd avoid you like the plague because you're patronizing and annoying.

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