Any advice is truly appreciated!!!
Any advice is truly appreciated!!!
Last edited by Ellie210; 03-17-2015 at 01:01 PM. Reason: Privacy and safety
Guys say all kinds of crazy stuff and the creepers can smell vulnerability and fear a mile away. Yes some of them come in off their meds and they are total weirdos. You just have to learn when to be a bitch and put them in their place. If he's being gross (like talking about cutting up body parts??) tell him he's gross and say "I don't want to hear this shit. Be quiet and enjoy your dance or I'm leaving" or "Talking is extra." Unwanted touches get a warning, then a punishment (smack/leave/get a bouncer/whatever--just get your $$ first.) If he follows you around tell him to knock it off or you'll have him thrown out. You train them. Don't let them train you.




Walk away. If someone is creeping you out, you need to end the dances. Say something like you don't feel well and you need to use the restroom, if just ending the dances is too confrontational for you. Life is too short to let people mess with your head.
Thank you for the responses.
Last edited by Ellie210; 03-17-2015 at 06:54 AM.
Also one of the girls is told, told me that if he wants to touch take him into a room and I didn't like that she said that. The point is I don't want to b touched. I am here to dance and not to be fully groped.
Ew, sounds like a real psycho. Im sorry you had a shitty second night. My next shift will be my second as well! Really though, I straight up would have called him out and said somthing like "Damn, you're sure into dismantling strippers. Are you saying you wanna cut me up? Cause that's how you make it sound." And if he continued, "Listen, I'm having fun with you, but there's plenty of other respectful men out there I could be dancing for. Either you behave yourself or I'm cutting our time short." And if he really kept at it after all that I would have gotten a bouncer on him... idk about your club but if you tip the bouncers well at mine they will be really attentive and responsive.
My goal is to really avoid what I call "energy suckers" (and i mean in real life too) If some jerk is killing your good vibe, your money's gonna go down cause your gonna project that bad energy when your with other customers. If your not feeling someone, you dont have to entertain them... no matter what the reason. They're not entitled to your time and if need be you can let them know that. What's also been helping me is my character, me as a person am kind of meek but my character is a sweet tough chick who isnt afraid to get mean. Maybe developing that attitude and confidence for your personality as a dancer might help.
Also, I think it took guts to shut him down after he asked for a dance "on your terms" (ass hat it's always on her terms.). He didn't deserve anymore of your time and I hope you shutting him down made him realize that.




Cheap, creeper guys have a radar for newbie dancers. You'll figure out pretty quickly how to spot the type. Remember this guy's face, because he will be back and he is going to expect the same kind of treatment from you for the same paltry sums he was offering. When you see him again, wag a finger in his direction and tell him he conned you last time, but it isn't going to happen again. He'll probably put on his "Who me?" face when you say it, but he knows exactly what he is doing and thinks he's pulling a fast one over on the newbie stripper.
Have a price in mind that would make dancing for this guy palatable. Maybe it's $50 a song, maybe it's $500 for 30 mins. Whatever it is, tell him what you'd be willing charge for dances. I call this the P.I.T.A. (pain in the ass) fee. I'm willing to put up with a lot of bullshit if I'm getting paid fuck tons of money.![]()



One of the absolute best parts of this job is that you can tell any customer you want to go fuck themselves. You don't need a good reason, even, as long as you'd rather tell them to fuck off than get their money. With this guy, you had a really good reason, and you did the right thing telling him no more dances. Savor the power of that. He thought he was going to come in, get things from you that you weren't willing to give, and scare you with his creepy psycho talk. And at first, because you are kind and inexperienced, he got those things. But then you cut him off. And all his hundred dollar bills and his big talk can't get him what he wants from you, because you have the power here.
Congratulations on fending him off.





Lol lol. I "outcreep" them right back. One asshat kept hounding me to go home with him. "Why, are you going to keep me in a pit chained up?" "No, of course not! Do I look like a serial killer to you?" "Wrong answer, bub. If you'd have said yes, I'd have gone home with you."
He never bugged me again.
"Fake tits are like Kevlar. They don't guarantee your chances of survival but they sure as hell improve it."
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Don't feel cheap. That man had no intention of ever spending those hundreds in the strip club. As soon as a customer starts flashing cash (without actually handing it over) or making promises of spending hundreds/thousands/however much, it's a sign that he's a cheap fuck and you should collect what he owes/close the sale and move on. They flash the money in hopes of monopolizing your attention for as long as possible -- they know if they hand it over, you'll lose interest, so they just don't. They'll promise to give it to you if you just do x or if you let them do y until they're blue in the face, but you will never see anything significant from them. Don't worry, your bullshit meter will get stronger in time.




At my last club I told a random customer that I was new just for fun and he immediately started acting extremely creepy towards me. He got dances and kept saying that nobody follows the rules there and touching is normal (lies). If I were just starting I may have believed him and may have thought he was "just helping me" but its like these guys go to the clubs JUST to find new girls to take advantage of. Just remember to stick to your boundaries and assume everything a customer says to you is bullshit. This is just what happens when you're new but you'll soon learn to spot the creeps and the guys who are full of shit. Doesn't matter how many hundreds he has on him. I was also too nice when I first started and that only makes it easier for guys to take advantage of you. Don't be afraid of telling customers "NO", "stop doing that", "one more time and I'm getting the bouncer", etc. It will just make it known to customers that you won't take their shit and you're not some vulnerable little girl. I had a guy follow me around the club on a busy weekend night wanting to only do $10 dances and wasn't even tipping me so I just said I AM NOT DANCING FOR YOU ANYMORE! He left me alone. Don't be afraid to be blunt with these guys or they will waste your time.
WTF! I'm not here to get groped like a fucking turkey at Safeway! Holy fuck! After the second dance, just say you gotta go see someone about a dog and get the fuck out of there! You're in Vegas. There are hundreds if not thousands of idiots out there with a couple benjis in their pocket that will give them to you. So don't get stuck with El Creepo Mundo and just move on, sister! It's a fucking business predicated on volume. So get the line moving and if you find some whackjob spouting some weird shit...get out of there and move on to the next moron.
It's not rocket science! It's shaking your tits and ass for $$. No need to get stuck with crazy ass motherfucker Dexter type.



Yeah, those guys are not normal, they prey on new dancers. You don't really encounter them after about 6 months. Well, you do, but you'll be able to spot them a mile away and avoid them at all costs. They have a smell about them or something that your stripper senses pick up on.




Management needs to step in if youre really creeped out and have a talk with the guy. And/or boot him from the club.
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