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    Default Client In Your Vanilla World

    If a regular client was suddenly around your vanilla world, would you just as soon they stop seeing you?

    I self describe as an active hobbyist, once weekly or more often. I see visiting providers and have a few rotating regulars. My most regular provider, and one I've seen for several years now (1 hr/monthly/$5,000 +/- a year in appts), is really a great provider. I'd say a perfect provider: is always on-time, easy to schedule, extremely fit, good conversation - nothing personal but not boring. Easy at is it gets, we are both fastidious about our time, keep private lives private, and so have been able to go long term with no drama.

    Then a month ago I see her at my gym. It seems she's gotten a job teaching some classes/fitness instructor. We spot each other, have a moment of recognition, and then pretend we don't see each other. This goes on several times before I finally feel foolish and nod and smile. She is receptive/courteous and we talk a little 'gym shop', gives me the 411 on the fitness instructor work. I've stopped scheduling provider appointments with her and it's getting to be past time that I would. For as long as she's providing I'd still like to keep her as a regular, but not sure it wouldn't be too close to home now. How would you want a client to handle/no big deal?

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    Default Re: Client In Your Vanilla World

    Why aren't you asking her? Escorts don't have a hive mind -- one could be uncomfortable with it while it could be a non-issue for another. You've proven that you understand boundaries and she even spoke with you at the gym, so I'm inclined to think she might be fine with you continuing to see her as a client, but I'm not her, so I don't know for sure. Just shoot her an email and say you'd love to continue visiting her but don't want to make her feel awkward/uncomfortable since you frequent the same gym, so it's up to her.

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    Default Re: Client In Your Vanilla World

    I agree, just email and ask her. There's, of course, going to be a difference in how she approaches you and treats you out in public. 1) She's at her professional job, so she's not going to be flirty, and 2) for all she knows, when she runs into a client, he's there with his wife or other friends that he doesn't want to explain her existence to; or she doesn't want to explain who you are to her colleagues if they see her being overly friendly. She was probably just trying to keep it on DL in public. But that doesn't necessarily mean she would be averse to still being your provider. Maybe if you were creeping on her by joining her classes or something, but if it's just the occasional run-in, 'hey, how's it going?' at the gym, there's a good chance she doesn't care.

    Most escorts understand that they and their regular clients don't live in a magic bubble. If you live in the same city, there's a chance of running into someone eventually, or even frequenting the same places. The last time I saw a client out in public, we obviously noticed each other but then turned away. Then we texted about "Hey, I saw you earlier!" later on. I was with a friend who doesn't know what I do, and I had no idea who he was with. I wasn't trying to be awkward - but our job description demands discretion... For you and ourselves. I still see him once a month and now we just have a new topic to talk about - our mutual restaurant. It doesn't need to be a big deal.
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    I've been doing this a long time and been in a 'magic bubble' - never seen a provider in public. If they spotted me they were discreet and I never knew. Now that I see these two answers, I think I'm the one that is in shock; she may not have given it a second thought.

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