It is the victim mindset she has I can't stand. Abusive relationships never have a happy ending. Yes, I am harsh, many have called me out on it, on this site. Understand why you would, but stand by my words. My words can never be as harsh as the reality of her life right now with this man. The harsh reality of how it effects her daughters is often what it takes to wake some females up for this kind of situation.
Have often done it with many close girlfriends in the past & how it all affected their children. If needed so, I have called child protective services. These girls are grown. Predators are predators, she is letting one into her home. A man who wakes a female up in the middle of the night because she didn't suck or fuck his dick enough that day is a predator. There are NO pretty words for it. Her daughters even by hearing all his tantrums are victims in this situation. It NEVER EVER ends there does it, it affects them in the long run too.
My advise is to get a backbone, get over being lonely & to do what is best for herself & daughters. People can't have a better life if they play victim. Known to many females from far worse situations get out of it by refusing to be a victim for a fighter for themselves.
She doesn't need pity, or for us to feel sorry for her in a situation she created for herself. He is in her ear making her doubt all common sense into believing he is right despite reality. Predators do that to make their victims doubt their own ability to trust their instincts.
3 months means nothing, wasting a singe day, week, month or year living with this guy is a time lost finding peace, love & happiness. Stop playing victim & letting this predator rule your life.
She will throw our words in his face in the next fight, he will belittle us all by calling us lazy whores who are good for nothing. Her best option is to send him back home to Momma & block him on social media & phone number. Even then he will get worst before he does leave her alone. This is why she needs online abuse hotlines and phone numbers to figure out how to deal with it best.
Predators don't go away easily. Especially with younger meat to be served up on the platter within the same home.
http://www.helpguide.org/articles/ab...buse.htm#signs
https://www.dosomething.org/facts/11...ut-child-abuse
http://www.thehotline.org/is-this-abuse/abuse-defined/
Sexual abuse
The current research on the relationship between domestic violence and incest shows a 44.5% to 73% overlap, meaning that 44.5% to 73% of incest perpetrators also inflict some degree of abusive behavior on their partner. Nearly all the victims were young daughters or stepdaughters of these men. The sexually abusive domestic batterers in these studies tended to fall within one of two categories. Either they used a low level of physical abuse and an extremely high level of emotional and verbal abuse or they used extremely high levels of both.
Batterers who are also perpetrators of incest do not primarily desire children as sex partners; they nearly always carry on adult sexual relations with the child’s mother at the same time. Very often these men will continue to victimize the same daughter or daughters for years. Few of these men have mental disorders or significant problems with jobs, friendships or community involvement: they “look” normal. Although these abusers generally prefer daughters, they will molest sons if there are no girls around. They consider themselves entitled to use anyone in their household in any way they choose.
http://www.yourtango.com/experts/wen...-abuser-expert
http://www.drphil.com/articles/article/543
http://www.wikihow.com/Leave-an-Abusive-Relationship
If you come back, read those links. Find professional help.
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