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    Default Still new to camming: Do I need to know how to do "shows?"

    Hi all, I joined a few years ago when I got started but I had to quit for a while due to some other life drama. Trying to get back into camming again and I'm faced with the same newbie concerns as before - the biggest being, I just really am not sure what I'm doing when it comes to private shows.

    I'd like to ask the other camming ladies on this forum; when someone takes you private, do you make it a personal experience with the customer, talk and figure out what they wanna do or do you have a set routine you fall into and just do your own thing so he can watch? I've never been able to afford taking another cammer private so my only learning resource has been watching girls who do public shows (something I'm not personally willing to do) and obviously they're performing for a large audience so it could work totally different 1-on-1.

    Thanks so much for any insight! Being clueless like this is not good for confidence.

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    Default Re: Still new to camming: Do I need to know how to do "shows?"

    Say hi, ask him about himself, ask him what he wants to see. The answer may surprise you. No point to impaling yourself on a dildo if he just wants an ass worship show.
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    Close contact, for an hour, for $40? And I guess I'll have to make conversation with them too?

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    Default Re: Still new to camming: Do I need to know how to do "shows?"

    I ask this with the most sincere niceness and I'm genuinely just curious... if you need to know "how to do shows" then, how did you even decide to become a cam girl? Where did you hear about camming? I'm wondering because I'm seeing several questions being posted lately by people who seem to have absolutely no idea the requirements of camming, yet they are determined to make $10,000 a week doing it. It's like a strange influx that has me quite curious...

    But to answer your question, it's up to you to make your show your own. Personalize it how you see fit. I think most people probably say hi and ask what they are looking for, I would guess it's rare that you just jump right into some pre planned show and forget the guy is there unless you are doing a public MFC type show or a gold show.
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    It's cuz studios do a shitload of advertising on BP in March, when they offer cheap rates. So some end up with studios and others actually google it, thus bringing up SW. I still have yet to make ten grand a week.
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    Quote Originally Posted by SweetJulia View Post
    It's cuz studios do a shitload of advertising on BP in March, when they offer cheap rates. So some end up with studios and others actually google it, thus bringing up SW. I still have yet to make ten grand a week.
    What is BP?
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    ^ backpage

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    Quote Originally Posted by Tsepmet1 View Post
    ^ backpage
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    Quote Originally Posted by Tsepmet1 View Post
    ^ backpage
    Basically, like CL but I guess one step above. They have an adult section. Escorts, body rubs, fetish, and adult jobs. They used to give me sweet deals when I worked as a domme
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    Close contact, for an hour, for $40? And I guess I'll have to make conversation with them too?

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    Default Re: Still new to camming: Do I need to know how to do "shows?"

    First figure out what you are and are not comfortable doing. Then that will be your guide line, lots of girls do anal, dp & such some bank some don't.

    I do big boob play & shake my fat ass usually, talk dirty & cater to the big belly lovers and bank.

    Some guys tell me all kinds of stuff that go outside my comfort zone, I tell them "no" and that I'm not the cam girl for them.

    Practice in the mirror what you think is sexy, sexy is a very much learned thing. Learned until it is as natural as breathing. If you ignore the guy, don't interact with him, he will leave. Unless he pays you big money to ignore him in exclusive. LOL I love those.

    Best thing I ever did, was dismiss everything people in porn told me to be & was myself. That is when I started to bank. Who that is, is up to you. The slut who will do anything or the princess they have to pay to barely do nothing. Once you figure out WHO YOU ARE, then you will attract that kind of customer.

    Get dressed up, put on some sexy music, get in front of a mirror & Seduce YOURSELF!!! Hell, I used to do that in college before there was cell phones & computers took up whole rooms. Heck I'm so old beepers where just for Doctors back in my college days & one had to know DOS to be on a computer.

    Figure out what outfit looks best and comes off the fastest and goes back on the fastest. Corsets & garters may look sexy, but my guys Always want to see me completely nude. A corset takes me 20 minutes to lace up.

    Relax, include them in on this journey. When I sign up for a new site, I ask them to help with all the in's & out's of it, except for the advice to get naked & fuck myself in free chat. Play up the nervous & new part, they are always love to 'help'. lol

    Don't be so hard on yourself.

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    Default Re: Still new to camming: Do I need to know how to do "shows?"

    Quote Originally Posted by SarahTime View Post
    What is BP?
    At first I thought she meant Black Planet. And then I was like no, that wouldn't make sense...plus, no one talks about Black Planet anymore. Then it hit me that she meant Backpage. LOL.
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    OP, also please don't do anything against site rules, even if you're ok with it. It's not worth getting suspended/spanked/banned/whatever happens if they're watching or the guy tapes you.
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    Close contact, for an hour, for $40? And I guess I'll have to make conversation with them too?

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    I have a set routine that I use for every customer to help me figure out what they like then I create a personal experience from there on. I ask how they're doing, name, age, where from and if they have ever been with a special girl like me before. Take your time and have fun. Don't show everything too fast, too soon. Ask questions to prolong your shows.
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    Default Re: Still new to camming: Do I need to know how to do "shows?"

    No offense taken, but I knew I'd get at least one person asking why I'm even getting into camming since I'm asking a basic question like this. Gotta ask if I want to learn. Not everyone is born for the adult industry but I believe anyone can adapt. I'm not trying to get rich here, but my hours just got cut again at the day job and I need to make ends meet.

    If I'm being honest, life drama wasn't the real reason I stopped camming last time. It was the excuse I gave myself because I didn't know that I had limits and I really disrespected my boundaries online trying to please everyone. Big part of that was because I don't know what I'm doing yet and I was too desperate to fit that 'cam girl' ideal. I was born beautiful but I'm not a feminine woman and I'm into even less feminine women ;P So I'm here trying to learn how to embrace (or invent) my feminine, dick-loving side for the sake of financial freedom. Whether it's a total act or not, I think that's basically why most ladies do this work, right?

    And Sam, thank you so much, that was such helpful and reassuring advice! Since I don't really have the option to just "be myself" I'm looking at this as a fun acting opportunity and it does take the nerves away a bit to consider that I can become really anyone I want. It's a fantasy to the customers, why not a fantasy for me too? You've given me some good things to think about. Thank you to the other ladies giving their great advice too! Everything helps.

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    Default Re: Still new to camming: Do I need to know how to do "shows?"

    That person is a great model. She's doing you a great service by making you think!

    No need to beat yourself up for your past because when you know better, you do better. There is no such thing as the ideal cam girl. That's the beauty of camming, there's something for everyone so just be yourself.
    Quote Originally Posted by torikuntz View Post
    No offense taken, but I knew I'd get at least one person asking why I'm even getting into camming since I'm asking a basic question like this. Gotta ask if I want to learn. Not everyone is born for the adult industry but I believe anyone can adapt. I'm not trying to get rich here, but my hours just got cut again at the day job and I need to make ends meet.

    If I'm being honest, life drama wasn't the real reason I stopped camming last time. It was the excuse I gave myself because I didn't know that I had limits and I really disrespected my boundaries online trying to please everyone. Big part of that was because I don't know what I'm doing yet and I was too desperate to fit that 'cam girl' ideal. I was born beautiful but I'm not a feminine woman and I'm into even less feminine women ;P So I'm here trying to learn how to embrace (or invent) my feminine, dick-loving side for the sake of financial freedom. Whether it's a total act or not, I think that's basically why most ladies do this work, right?

    And Sam, thank you so much, that was such helpful and reassuring advice! Since I don't really have the option to just "be myself" I'm looking at this as a fun acting opportunity and it does take the nerves away a bit to consider that I can become really anyone I want. It's a fantasy to the customers, why not a fantasy for me too? You've given me some good things to think about. Thank you to the other ladies giving their great advice too! Everything helps.
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    There are A LOT of "webcam gigs" on Craigslist. I've been noticing an abundance too

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    Quote Originally Posted by torikuntz View Post
    No offense taken, but I knew I'd get at least one person asking why I'm even getting into camming since I'm asking a basic question like this. Gotta ask if I want to learn. Not everyone is born for the adult industry but I believe anyone can adapt. I'm not trying to get rich here, but my hours just got cut again at the day job and I need to make ends meet.

    If I'm being honest, life drama wasn't the real reason I stopped camming last time. It was the excuse I gave myself because I didn't know that I had limits and I really disrespected my boundaries online trying to please everyone. Big part of that was because I don't know what I'm doing yet and I was too desperate to fit that 'cam girl' ideal. I was born beautiful but I'm not a feminine woman and I'm into even less feminine women ;P So I'm here trying to learn how to embrace (or invent) my feminine, dick-loving side for the sake of financial freedom. Whether it's a total act or not, I think that's basically why most ladies do this work, right?

    And Sam, thank you so much, that was such helpful and reassuring advice! Since I don't really have the option to just "be myself" I'm looking at this as a fun acting opportunity and it does take the nerves away a bit to consider that I can become really anyone I want. It's a fantasy to the customers, why not a fantasy for me too? You've given me some good things to think about. Thank you to the other ladies giving their great advice too! Everything helps.
    Just do what comes naturally OR fake it depending on what you think they need. Like someone said- just within the boundaries.
    Don't worry about gender bending. I see so many guys that swear they're straight but want to eat other guys load of cum from their cocks, from my pussy, from a dixie cup. They take it up the ass from me, my BBC lover, midgets. You get the picture. Fear not, I think you'll fit in.

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    Quote Originally Posted by TheBrownFox View Post
    At first I thought she meant Black Planet. And then I was like no, that wouldn't make sense...plus, no one talks about Black Planet anymore. Then it hit me that she meant Backpage. LOL.
    Lol me too!

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    Every girl is different. If I'm on streamate I have specific rules about what I will do in each type of show (exclusive vs. premium), if I'm on CB it depends on the amount of tokens per minute they are willing to spend (I have levels of shows).

    However, I do have a basic script for starting a show where the guy has told me nothing about what he wants. I start by asking what kind of fun he's looking to have. I ask him for his name and where he's from. Most of the time that does the trick and they give me enough to go on. Every once in awhile I get guys who just don't say anything and at that point I tell them if they aren't going to tell me what they want then they can just watch me enjoy myself and I'll put on a sexy song and do a strip tease or something simple until they give me instructions.

    My biggest advice is never be afraid to say no. I'm heavy into BDSM but I'm a submissive. I don't have a switchy bone in my body but at the beginning of my camming journey I always had guys asking me to dominate them so I would try it. It made me so uncomfortable that I finally learned to just say no sorry, I'm a submissive and I prefer not to pretend to be something I'm not. A lot of guys respect that from me more than if I tried to fake my way through something I'm not comfortable with.

    A lot of girls are AMAZING at intricate role plays but not me. I always tell guys I'm way hotter being myself than pretending to be something I'm not. They eat that shit up.

    I feel like I'm rambling here but the main advice is to just be yourself and do what makes you comfortable or do the things that actually turn you on. If you're having a good time it shows in your face and body language and you'l get more customers that way.
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    Write down your yes's & no's.

    Becoming a cock loving slut is NOT necessary, KNOWing who you are, what you enjoy IS!!! Jumping through men's hoops trying to please them all leads to burn out fast. Making them jump through yours makes it fun & $$$.

    Once you know who you are, what you enjoy, then that type that likes it will come to you. Read "The Laws of Attraction" Being fake comes off as so and the men tears girls apart for it.

    Not being like everyone else is a GOOD thing. Studying other girls hustles & adapt to your on style is homework.

    Don't stick to just one cam site, find one that fits your style better.

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    Quote Originally Posted by torikuntz View Post
    I was born beautiful but I'm not a feminine woman and I'm into even less feminine women ;P So I'm here trying to learn how to embrace (or invent) my feminine, dick-loving side for the sake of financial freedom. Whether it's a total act or not, I think that's basically why most ladies do this work, right?
    Welcome to the secret cabal of non-feminine queer camgirls. Here's your membership card, it comes with free penis secateurs.

    I see two parts to your dilemma:

    1. Your look
    2. Things you'll do in your show


    For your look, what you need is not to look feminine, but to look striking. I don't have that much advice, but if you watch lots of other girls you will get lots of ideas you can try, and by trial and error find a good mix of looks that are both lucrative and feel like *you*. Not everyone is Christina Hendricks, some women are Carrie Ann Moss in her Matrix years. Some women rock a three-piece suit. Can you pull off latex or the dapper queer looks?

    For your shows. You don't have to pretend to love dick if you don't love dick. I can't underline that enough. Embrace kinks and fetishes. Even if you don't like most of them, there're sure to be some that you'll find palatable. For the first while fetish guys alone will probably not sustain you, and you'll want to accept some masturbation shows. That's fine! You don't love dick, you love your body and the pleasures it gives you. The guys are welcome to watch you enjoy your body while paying a good price. Even if you're not actually enjoying the physical sensation of masturbating for the 10th time that day, this mindset will make it easier to stave off burnout.

    Srsly, I couldn't care less about the dicks of people I actually like, much less internet randoms. It was only when I stopped trying to pretend I liked them that I settled into a camming career that feels sustainable longer term.

    Good luck!

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    Damn, you ladies are amazing! Thanks so much once again for sharing the knowledge. And Slothie, there should legit be a club with membership cards!! X) I guess I wasn't egotistical enough to assume I was the only one from our team getting into this line of work but it's still surprising (and super comforting) to hear from you.

    I gotta disguise myself on cam anyway since my career field wouldn't be even a little forgiving to learn I'm in the adult industry, so investing in a wig and playing up on the girly qualities has more going for it than just dicking around trying to be what the boys want, but that perspective is so refreshing and I'mma definitely keep it in mind.

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    I take it on a private by private basis. Find out what the guy is into and cater your show towards that (within your own boundaries of course, don't ever do things you're not comfortable with). Frustratingly, MANY guys won't really say much at all. If that happens I just go through my basic routine: play with tits, show off ass, play with pussy doggie-style, then missionary. Only fingers unless toy is requested. Dirty talk sprinkled in. It's generic enough that it'll satisfy most guys.

    If he IS talking just use his words to guide you... if he keeps saying "mmmm" then you're probably doing something right so just keep doing that. After a few while I'll ask if he wants me to switch positions, etc.

    You'll get used to it... I find most of my vanilla shows are robotic and boring as hell, the same thing 50x a day lol. Fetish shows are more fun and interesting but take a bit more mental effort.

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    If he ain't typing then his hands are busy, meaning what you are doing is just perfect.

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