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    I have a customer that comes in every week to see me. He compliments me a lot but does give me underhanded insults and makes sexist comments sometimes. I've called him on it once. He said he felt bad and won't do it again but he still does. I want to put him in his place so bad but he is a good paying customer. How should I handle this? Thanks so much

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    Do you have other regulars? Then if what he says bothers you that much you can ditch him and find another one or fall back on your current regulars.

    Or if you insist on keeping him around then change the topic when he starts talking about annoying things or let the stuff he says go in one ear and out the other.
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    Thanks it's really tough to let it go. Yes I have other regs but he is the most consistent. I also put up with his bad B.O. but he pays very well, lol. I don't think anyone else would tolerate this. I'll see how I feel about it tomorrow, but I think I should ignore him.

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    That's how I feel. Mentally drained. I treat him well, I even email him just to say good morning. I'm not doing that anymore. Maybe I'm too nice. I agree it's a power play. They are trying to make you feel low so they feel better and make you think you need them. the thing is, we don't. There's so many other good customers.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Ms.Belle View Post
    What kind of underhanded insults does he make?

    I have a regular that is similar...he will say things to make me think that he is the only one that TRULY adores me and will always be there. Shit like, "Oh that necklace is hideous, has anyone even talked to you today with that thing on? At least I will always find you beautiful." Or "Your hair looks bad today...I'm surprised you have made any money the way you look right now. But I will always adore you no matter what." Its a lame power play that I always shove back in his face so that he knows just how many guys want me. Sadly I keep him around because the money is so good...but I will admit that it is mentally draining!
    I had a customer who used to talk to me like this. I finally got so fed up with him, that I told him I was married, and that he was not the only one who found me beautiful. I did lose him, but I quickly found another whale in no time.

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    I can't handle that. Those guys are good for a couple weeks and then I need to move on. I don't need them to make money, they simply enhance it for a night or two, but there are always more where they come from. I have a nightmare regular who I decided was not longer worth my time last night. He's sometimes sweet and very generous, sometimes won't even buy me a drink. I got fed up with his moody immature ass when I spent time talking to him, even though he was being kind of an asshole last night, he said he wanted dances later but got them with someone else seemingly just to spite me, so I won't be talking to him anymore. You are not my boyfriend, ou do not get to play games with me.

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    He sounds like he's mentally ill. So many guys out there are like that. Narcissistic, control-freak, misogynistic psychopaths everywhere. I would fuck with his head right back. Next time he opens his fucking mouth to talk down to you, say right back to him, "Damn your breath smells really bad. Did you eat shit for dinner? Oh well, that's ok. You know I still love your money."

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    Nope nope nope. There is only so much attempted abuse I can deal with. Go right on ahead and set him straight any time he disrespects you. It's one thing to be annoying in general, it's something else to make disrespectful comments to/about you.
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    Call him on it, every time, and give him the same kind of comment to see what reaction you get (maybe he's the type that likes to be insulted).

    You could also say it's gonna cost him if he insults you, start charging him money every time he does it.

    But in the end if it's too draining it's just not worth it and you're better off avoiding him.

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    ^How would you charge him without him just laughing in your face and not paying you? Sounds like he'd be the type.

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    I told him him today I was fed up with the way he's treated me and he said it was my fault for not saying something before. I said i had,he said i should have kept telling him each time. Wow. These guys are clueless. No amount of money is worth that.

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    Yep, he's definitely mentally INSANE. Move on to the next one.
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    Quote Originally Posted by NightGoddess View Post
    ^How would you charge him without him just laughing in your face and not paying you? Sounds like he'd be the type.
    Yeah if he's the type who doesn't think he's done anything wrong he's not gonna pay. The only time guys will compensate for their behavior is if they realize they've done something wrong. So I would make sure he understood he's being an asshat first before bringing more money up.

    It's a reminder that you're not there because you like him and if he doesn't make it worth your time you're not gonna stay listen to his insults, so when you bring it up you need to be ready to leave if he doesn't pay. Like I said first I would make it clear that I don't like his behavior and call him on it (more than once, unless he's so disrespectful I call the whole thing off immediately, maybe on 3 occasions, if he doesn't get it after that he's just never gonna get it). After that if it happens again it's pay more or play no more. At that point if he doesn't pay it's over.

    But even if he would pay I'd say that's the beginning of the end, when you have to charge regulars more just to stand their presence it's only a matter of time before no amount of money can make you even acknowledge their existence.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ScarletKitten View Post
    He sounds like he's mentally ill. So many guys out there are like that. Narcissistic, control-freak, misogynistic psychopaths everywhere. I would fuck with his head right back. Next time he opens his fucking mouth to talk down to you, say right back to him, "Damn your breath smells really bad. Did you eat shit for dinner? Oh well, that's ok. You know I still love your money."

    LMFAO!
    Lol that sums up these guys so well.
    I wish I did tell him about his stench.

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    Just want to thank you guys for your replies. It gave me the courage to stand up to him. Now I don't have to see or deal with that anymore. Feel relieved. I had a great day yesterday without him.

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    Bring a little jar of Vicks Vapor Rub and keep it in your clutch. When he starts his powerplay crap, whip it out and dab a little bit under your nose. Explain that it's the only way you can be within 50 feet of his manky ass. But... You still like him, even if he stinks so bad you have to wash your costumes in bleach to get the smell out.

    FYI: Vapor Rub is similar to coroner's balm, that medical examiners rub under their nose when working with bodies in a more advanced state of decomposition. It's a lifesaver when dealing with a smelly but well funded customer.

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    Quote Originally Posted by kirakonstantin View Post
    Bring a little jar of Vicks Vapor Rub and keep it in your clutch. When he starts his powerplay crap, whip it out and dab a little bit under your nose. Explain that it's the only way you can be within 50 feet of his manky ass. But... You still like him, even if he stinks so bad you have to wash your costumes in bleach to get the smell out.

    FYI: Vapor Rub is similar to coroner's balm, that medical examiners rub under their nose when working with bodies in a more advanced state of decomposition. It's a lifesaver when dealing with a smelly but well funded customer.
    I bought a jar. That'll be my new must-have for work.

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    I had a customer like that. I had to "break up" with him. I knew the deal going in, but got tired of all the criticisms, it made the money not worth it. He was dropping $300-500 a week on me. I'm pretty sure he was in the early stages of Alzheimer's. One of the symptoms is that people say really mean things to those they most love. He lived alone and couldn't even keep a housekeeper for more than a few weeks due to his attitude. I kind of felt like a crappy human being for cutting him off, but he was ruining my work day and I was getting burned out way sooner than I should have been.

    I'm a stripper, goddammit, not a geriatric nurse.

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