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    Just wanted to hear other girls experiences with this. I had another dancer live with me for 2 months and it was a freaking nightmare!!! She was a recovering drug addict with no license, no car and no nearby family. I felt bad for her and helped her out by driving her everywhere and letting her live with me. She was not appreciative at all, never said thank you for anything, but would instead criticise me for every little thing and accuse me of not caring about her. She was bossy and controlling and would demand to know where I was going everytime I left the house (and I'm the one letting her live with me, in my home!). Needless to say, it didnt work out. I kicked her out and never saw her again. Anyone else have a bad expeience like this? Or a good one? I like hearing other people's stories lol

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    Every time I've had another dancer as a roommate, it's been a nightmare.

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    Quote Originally Posted by EastCoastDancer01 View Post
    Just wanted to hear other girls experiences with this. I had another dancer live with me for 2 months and it was a freaking nightmare!!! She was a recovering drug addict with no license, no car and no nearby family. I felt bad for her and helped her out by driving her everywhere and letting her live with me. She was not appreciative at all, never said thank you for anything, but would instead criticise me for every little thing and accuse me of not caring about her. She was bossy and controlling and would demand to know where I was going everytime I left the house (and I'm the one letting her live with me, in my home!). Needless to say, it didnt work out. I kicked her out and never saw her again. Anyone else have a bad expeience like this? Or a good one? I like hearing other people's stories lol
    Except for the recovering part, sounds exactly like someone I know..I hated roommates in general.


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    aww, sucks when i hear the majority of girls saying stripper roommates are terrible, in theory i think it'd be awesome to have another sex wrker as a roomie :/

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    I could never! My life would be too sex-work orientated. I have normal-people roommates and it helps me to leave my stripper persona at the strip club and get in check with real-me when I'm at home. Even if your stripper-roommate isn't a drug-addict or totally nuts (to be fair, you can have non-stripper roommates that are also drug addicts and totally nuts), imagine how negative it could be if one of you has a bad night and continues to talk about it, dragging the other roommate down to that level.

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    I've been living with my best friend / stripper partner for 6 years and I think it's really hot or miss with any Roomate. After you make it a few months without an issue it pretty much means you can keep that going for a while. We took on a third stripper roomie 2 years ago and it's been going great but mostly because she's a traveling stripper and is only home to do laundry and rest before her next trip a few times a month

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    I've had two roommates over the years who were also strippers. One was a nightmare. She started off totally cool, but in one month's time she turned out to be nuts. Was so messy. Borrowed everything without asking. And would bring home guys (not necessarily from the club) all the time, and they were creepers. She bring friends over after her shift and party to 6-7 in the morning.

    The other turned out to be the best roommate ever. She was so thoughtful. Was the cleanest roommate ever. Would even sometimes do my laundry just because. She helped me through a bad break-up and we just inspired each other. She became one of, if not my best friends. She moved out to go back to school and finish her degree. I missed her so much, and realized that I was actually crushing on her... btw she's my GF now!!!!

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    I've been in "dancer housing" twice now while traveling and dancing. I lived in a condo with 6 other dancers... The first time was rocky. It's not easy dealing with other people's habits such as cleaning up after themselves, hair in the shower drain, drinking and smoking, and of course my favorite loud mouths lol My first experience literally left me with a twitch in my eye because I didn't get along with one of the girls. Now my second experience besides having to constantly clean the kitchen and take out the trash has been awesome. We all get along really well and I'm happy to say I made 5 new friends.

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    To me, it has nothing to do with if you are a dancer or not, I hate ALL roommates. I prefer to live on my own

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    Depends. You better be as insane as me.
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    NOOOpe! And don't really see it ever happening either. I lived w/ an ex stripper friend of mine once when I was left homeless by my asshole ex & she was such a nightmare & disrespectful psychopath that came home drunk after work & threw shoes at me bc I was sleeping & not offering to hold her hair as she puked WTF!?
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    It sooooo comes down to the individual not the career/job IMO. But in respect to the OPs question...

    If you listen to your gut instincts its pretty easy to screen the obvious nutbags, and even if you don't work with the dancer you probably have a friend who does and can give you the rundown on how they operate at work to give you insight. if she drinks/parties every night and on her days off and you are the strictly sober dancer who walks her dogs on days off then it's probably not going to mesh; ditto the one who sits in the changeroom all night complaining that there is no money (umm do you have your rent and bill money?).

    Of course, this type of person is just a type and can work anywhere, I don't think being a stripper makes you less likely to be a good flatmate, I think being inconsiderate, with drastically different lifestyles and a lack of responsibility makes you a poor flatmate.

    I've temporarily lived with other dancers in shared accommodation and its been fine; we spoke less about work than anything else FTR. If I lived with someone that I was afraid to communicate my feelings too (eg she keeps complaining about a bad night and it brings you down) then i would know that the onus would be on me to say something about it- people are not mind readers, its dealing with the uncomfortable situations that will define how good of a flatmate that you are as well.

    There is no perfect living situation, I find men to be messier and less likely to pickup clutter or voluntarily clean without having been asked. Women will borrow my stuff without asking (had a nightmare flatmate once who took my new clothes and the last present my nanna gave me) and she didn't clean either.

    i think you need to figure out what you wont budge on: Rent and Bills paid on time, Noise levels and when, Visitors rules, Food and Cleaning up. And try to match those before you worry about what the person does for a living .
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    You better like alligators if you're my flatmate.
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    I lived with another dancer and it was rough. Her family came by often and tried to share shit, like claiming I was hitting on her fiance. He lived with us and it got to the point where he didn't want to be home with me alone because of them starting crap. Then I had money stolen and I suspect it was a relative of hers. I eventually moved out.

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    To me, it has nothing to do with if you are a dancer or not, I hate ALL roommates. I prefer to live on my own
    Absolutely agree, in theory at least !!!

    However, I did allow a dancer to live in my house while I was still in the NYC area ... but not for long. It seems that a lot of 'stripper stereotype' risk factors ... like 'borrowing' my stuff ( permanently, without asking ), 'borrowing' money, coming home at 4am to wild parties ( I'm not against parties just not in my house pissing off my neighbors ), etc. ... have a basis in fact !!!

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    Never worked for me. She'd always "borrow" my lashes and outfits, steal my makeup, etc etc...fucking hassle.

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    In my experience this never ends well!

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    All of what Melonie and Kelly sauid is true. Bitches suck!

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    Quote Originally Posted by EastCoastDancer01 View Post
    Just wanted to hear other girls experiences with this. I had another dancer live with me for 2 months and it was a freaking nightmare!!! She was a recovering drug addict with no license, no car and no nearby family. I felt bad for her and helped her out by driving her everywhere and letting her live with me. She was not appreciative at all, never said thank you for anything, but would instead criticise me for every little thing and accuse me of not caring about her. She was bossy and controlling and would demand to know where I was going everytime I left the house (and I'm the one letting her live with me, in my home!). Needless to say, it didnt work out. I kicked her out and never saw her again. Anyone else have a bad expeience like this? Or a good one? I like hearing other people's stories lol
    I prefer to live on my own. But I did let another dancer stay with me and it only lasted a little over two weeks. Pretty much the same as you describe, though she wasn't a recovering addict from what I know. She literally took my keys to my car when i was sleeping and "borrowed" my car. She was incredibly ungrateful and when i told her to leave, she started threatening me that she was going to sue me because i wouldn't let her use my car to transport her stuff from my apartment to wherever she was staying next. never again...

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    Quote Originally Posted by arielbriel View Post
    To me, it has nothing to do with if you are a dancer or not, I hate ALL roommates. I prefer to live on my own
    That's what I was going to say after reading the first post. Plenty of people are like that who aren't even dancers lol

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    Quote Originally Posted by urbankitty View Post
    I prefer to live on my own. But I did let another dancer stay with me and it only lasted a little over two weeks. Pretty much the same as you describe, though she wasn't a recovering addict from what I know. She literally took my keys to my car when i was sleeping and "borrowed" my car. She was incredibly ungrateful and when i told her to leave, she started threatening me that she was going to sue me because i wouldn't let her use my car to transport her stuff from my apartment to wherever she was staying next. never again...
    Yikes! Sounds a lot like my old roomate lol. That was really dumb of her threatening to sue you because you wouldnt let her use your car. Did she really think you were obligated to let her use your car in any way?? Like no honey, thats not how the world works! Take responsibility for your own shit. My roomate was the exact same way and when I kicked her out, she had one of her family members threaten to beat me up and all this other bullshit. It didnt happen though. I wouldnt have allowed it. She too would use my car as if she owned it, and would slam my doors and show no respect towards it. She wanted to be the one driving my car because she "didnt like the way I drove"...and this girl had no license mind you! some people, my god. I too, prefer to live on my own and have been on my own ever since.

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    Quote Originally Posted by arielbriel View Post
    To me, it has nothing to do with if you are a dancer or not, I hate ALL roommates. I prefer to live on my own
    ^This x 1000. I wish my bf and I could afford to live by ourselves. We are quiet, respectful of common spaces, and will never touch something that isn't ours (especially food & drinks) unless either of us has prior permission. We clean up after ourselves and clean the house without having to make a chart and delegate chores bc we're f***ing adults and can clearly see when the carpet needs to be vacuumed or the trash needs to be taken out. It all seems like common sense to me. Why is it nearly impossible to find a roommate with the same qualities, regardless of their profession?? /rant

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    Everyone I know that's had a dancer (other than me) live with them has apparently been royally screwed over. With a few exceptions, I personally just do not like living with females and imagine that living with a dancer would basically be all of those reasons to the Nth degree.
    Exotic dancing is like any other job.
    If you work in an office, you wear dress shoes and a suit.
    If you work in a restaraunt, you wear skid resistant shoes and a uniform.
    If you work in a strip club, you wear 7" stilettos and lycra g-strings.

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    Quote Originally Posted by EastCoastDancer01 View Post
    Yikes! Sounds a lot like my old roomate lol. That was really dumb of her threatening to sue you because you wouldnt let her use your car. Did she really think you were obligated to let her use your car in any way?? Like no honey, thats not how the world works! Take responsibility for your own shit. My roomate was the exact same way and when I kicked her out, she had one of her family members threaten to beat me up and all this other bullshit. It didnt happen though. I wouldnt have allowed it. She too would use my car as if she owned it, and would slam my doors and show no respect towards it. She wanted to be the one driving my car because she "didnt like the way I drove"...and this girl had no license mind you! some people, my god. I too, prefer to live on my own and have been on my own ever since.
    i know, she was a pretty awful person. i know she ended up moving in with another girl and forcing the girl out of her own apartment and taking it over, talk about messed up. i live on my own now,well with my cat, and i really love it, i don't think i could ever see myself having a roommate

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    I agree, I love living by myself, it is the best thing. I can never see myself having a roommate again either. That is super messed up how your old roommate kicked another girl out of her own apartment! How the hell did she do that? If she moved in with a girl who was already living there, then its the girls name on the lease, not hers. She should call the cops on her! I know I would or else I would kick her ass right out the door!

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