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    Duh First time at a strip club.

    Okay so I turned 21 last weekend (yay!). So some friends and I went out to what they explained as one of the better clubs. I was talking to one of the dancers and things were going well. I spent roughly$700 on her between drinks and dances. During a couple of the dances she kissed my neck and later in the night we made out and I'm wondering how common that is (I know the making out part probably isn't common)? Im wondering if it was because I spent a lot of money (I do live in A smaller town), Or because it was my first time? I know if she kissed me think of all the other guys etc.. etc.. but I was drinking and didn't think anything of it at the time. But when I woke up the next morning I had 3 hickeys and It kinda pissed me off. So 3 questions I guess.

    1. How common is neck kissing?

    2. Has anyone ever had a hickey the next day or has any dancer given one?

    3. Any suggestions on why this happened?

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    Default Re: First time at a strip club.

    Extras (kissing, genital touching, sex, etc.) are common in some clubs and fireable offenses in other clubs. Any out-of-the-ordinary treatment you got was soley because you spent a fairly large chunk of money on one dancer. No dancer has ever given a customer anything because he was turning 21. Most of us actively avoid 21st birthday parties if we can help it, primarily because they tend to involve guys who don't know how strip clubs work and want to see how much shitty behavior they can get away with.

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    Default Re: First time at a strip club.

    Ah I kinda figured that was the case. Thanks! That is one reason why I signed up for this website because I would like to go back but I'm not exactly sure about etiquette of clubs, but I do appreciate the help

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    Default Re: First time at a strip club.

    I've made out with more dancers than I care to think about. It happens once in a while. But the ones who kiss probably kiss other guys, too, or worse.

    I've kissed even more necks, and been kissed on the neck only slightly less often.

    I got a hickey once. She did it on purpose. She thought it was funny. It kind of was until I went to work and had to explain how I got one as a grown man.

    As for etiquette, never do anything to her until she does it to you. You can even ask if you aren't sure. Club to club varies on what is cool, and even girl to girl within a club, and it's not the place to make mistakes like that.

    Everything in a strip club happens, at least in part, because of the money. And the drinking. But mostly the money.

    Also, careful. It is easy to spend a lot.

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    Default Re: First time at a strip club.

    Thanks for the insight and I agree. It's incredibly too easy to spend money there

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    I'm pretty sure it was the money.


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    Default Re: First time at a strip club.

    Only bring the money in cash you want to spend for the night with you. Leave your checkbook, credit card, debit card at home.
    Leave your cell phone, because of the camera, at home or in the car. The rules can vary from club to club, but it is better to safe than sorry. Yes, you can live without it for a couple of hours.
    "Don't touch the merchandise". Again the rules vary by club and by dancer. If you are unsure ask. Sometimes even if the dancer gives permission, be sure the club allows it.
    Never ever touch the kitty, that is a very dangerous thing to do. First the dancer will rip your arm off and beat you with it, then the bouncer gets to beat on you for a while.
    Tip the bartender, tip the waitress, most of all tip the dancers. Even if you are not sitting at the tip rail (perverts row), your still seeing the show, walk up and leave a few bucks.
    Unless the lapdance totally sucked, tip her. You don't have to be extravagant, but be generous in line with the quality of the dance.
    Yes VIP is expensive, but tip there as well, especially if you had a good time. Remember the dancer only gets a portion of the VIP cost, the club gets the rest, sometimes over 50%.
    Drink in moderation. You'll have a better time, spend less, and remember more. While a drunken $700 is nothing to sneeze at, most dancers like the non-grabby sober $400 more.
    Be a gentleman. Even if they are getting naked for you, everybody deserves to be treated respectfully until they prove otherwise.

    One last tip. While a 15 or 30 minute VIP may seem expensive, compare that price to how much getting lapdances for that period of time would cost. A typical lapdance lasts for 3 minutes, depending on song length. Sometimes the VIP is actually cheaper.

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    Default Re: First time at a strip club.

    I appreciate all the Helo. And I agree. I definitely crossed the line on drinks which was stupid. But I believe I was still respectful. I neve touched unless she said it was okay and I tipped really well (alcohol probably helped too) . I love this site for that reason. Its an inside look on how to be the customer that he girls can appreciate because I don't want to be or look like an ass And from some of the stories I don't want a right or left hand to the face haha. Two more questions though. Dances at the club I went to were $20 a piece what is a good tip amount? Secondly what does a normal VIP room run?

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    What you tip for lap dances varies by the number of dances you got and the quality of the dance. There isn't a straight percentage like with a dinner tab. For 3 dances at $20 I would tip $10 to $15 for average, $20 for good, $25 for excellent. That is just an example to get you started, you will develop your feel for tipping depending on your location and club.

    VIP room costs vary wildly. It very much depends on where you are, what services the club offers, and how the club runs it's rooms. I have seen 15 minute blocks cost between $100 to $180, 30 minute blocks cost between $150 and $250. An hour I have seen go for $400 to $500. Some clubs have both a VIP and a Champagne Room, some have neither and some have only one or the other. Blocks of time available also varies. Some only do 1hr blocks, some will do 15, 30, and 60 minute blocks. It all depends on what the club wants to do. Also some clubs just have a base price for the room, say $200 and then let the dancer charge what she thinks she can get. Your best bet is to ask when you first get there what they offer and what the prices are.

    3 more things about going to the club.
    Take a shower before you go. Don't go right after you've been to the gym or changed the oil on your car. The dancers don't want to smell the furmunga cheese on your ball sack, or the stench from your arm pit.

    Don't feel pressured to get dances or a VIP. Unless you have been to the same club a number of times, check out the dancers on the stage, and see which one's style you like, before going off with a dancer. As important as it is not to shit on the dancers, you are still there to be entertained, make sure the money you spend is on a dancer who's company you will enjoy. For the dancers time is money, but you are there to relax. Also there is nothing wrong if you go home with the money still in your wallet if none of the dancers struck your fancy. Not a favorite thing of dancers, but it is your money.

    Don't waste the dancers time. If she is not your type/style say so upfront. If your not ready to get a dance yet, or make a choice of which dancer, or you just got there, say so. While dancers don't necessarily like to hear that, if you say so upfront she can move on right away.

    The last but most important thing. When you walk back out of the club into the real world, the fantasy you rented inside, stays inside.

    Prices, experiences, rules, and your level of enjoyment can and will vary from club to club and even between dancers in the same club. Just relax, enjoy your time there, and don't be an asshat.

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    Default Re: First time at a strip club.

    Thanks salzsieder67 your posts have been very helpful! Also I don't plan to be an asshat haha but thanks for the heads up. As a newbie to the world of strip clubs certain things that may seem common sense are very valuable. My problem is I have a hard time saying no. But like you said we are there to be entertained and it's okay to leave with some money and I never really think like about it like a business transaction I felt like I needed to go with the first dancer I saw so I don't make them feel bad but I realized they are going to ask regardless and if you say no they don't really care. Again thanks for your posts

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